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My son left 09/02/19.  He is suppose to graduate 11/01/19  Division 409.  Are there any parents out there that have children in this division.  I have really been having a hard time.  

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My son left 9/5. I don’t know his Div yet. Have you been writing to him? The time will go fast. We will look back on this and be so proud of them. It’s hard letting them grow up! Do you have other children? I do not. I try to keep myself busy and I let myself have moments of sadness but try to remember that this is who he is and this is his path to follow. I found some good prayers online - not sure if you are a praying woman but I will definitely add you to mine. 

No I dont have any other kids.  I try to write but Im not a writer.  I started a letter last week but dont really know what to say and dont want to upset him.  I have been so stressed out that Im not sleeping at night.  Yesterday I went to lunch and was just trying to get through the day.  And this lady came into ongoing traffiic and broadsided me and spun my car around and deployed the airbags.  There are so many questions and I have been waiting for people to post so I know whats going on but I havent really heard anything yet.  I am trying to stay positive and remember that no news is good news but that isnt the easiest.

Duke 0625, My son has now been in the Navy for 2 1/2 years.  It seem like forever.  The motto "no news is good news" really is true.  If something bad happens you will hear.  This is the hard part of boot camp.  The not hearing is the worst part.  Keep your phone with you and on at all times.  You never know when a short all will come through.  You should also be getting a letter soon.  Remember that he is where he wants to be, and that the world will be open to him.  He will have life experiences that you can not imagine.  Remember that you are not alone, this group is hear to help you.  God has a plan, and your son is following it.  He is in God's hands now.  Keep in touch, let me know if I can help.

My son left on 9/3 I don't know what division is in yet. Waiting on the form letter from him. Mostly I'm fine except for every once in awhile I get sad. Yesterday at work I had two little meltdowns over silly things. When I got in the car to come home I just started sobbing. I realized have been a week and I think I just missed him. He is our oldest it's our first time doing this even though my husband is former Navy himself.

How did you get the pir date so quick? I remember waiting a bit to receive it. My son is 2 yrs in, in the ME.  I remember basic vividly. It will get better. Try to keep your mind busy.

I got a text message from this number dont really know who it is.  my son didnt really tell me too much about anything. i got an address but this very helpful lady has informed me to wait till i get the form letter.  it was kind of all a surprise I thought we had an extra day with hiim and the recruiter showed up on Sunday and told us he was leaving Monday.  

Yes, wait until you get the form letter.  Sometimes they have to wait for the division to fill up so PIR is later.  Sometimes they get in a Push division so PIR is earlier.  If you haven't gotten the Box yet you will soon, and The form letter is usually really close behind that.  Usually 1 to 2 weeks.

RTC announced last week that beginning with Div 409, the box is no longer being sent home. They will now be stored locally and returned to the recruits the day before graduation.

Our form letter took 3 weeks as my son had to wait for a 900 division to fill up. So many variables! :)

Duke0625, that text was most likely from the recruiter. Wait on the form letter before sending mail and making firm plans because the info available to the recruiter early on can be wrong at times even up to 11 business days after the recruit's arrival at RTC.

The form letter now arrives 9 to 14 business days after the recruit's arrival at RTC in most cases.

Hi Duke0625,

I don’t have a recruit in that division (mine has been in a few years now) but I certainly understand the part about having a hard time. It is such a sudden and complete transition. I allowed myself time to cry but also made sure to do activities that helped me through. Reading, lunch with friends, walks, meaningful work, time spent with hobbies, etc. Do something nice for yourself each day, have a cup of tea, put some flowers on the table, light a candle, take a bath, just sit outside and admire nature, etc. I also wrote letters everyday, even before I had my SR’s address. It gets a bit easier as you get closer to PIR. Hang in there!

Hang in there. The first few weeks are the hardest. My son graduated 8/9/19 and now i look back and kick myself for worrying so much. But hey, that's what moms do. I learned 1 thing to be news is good news. If they get injured or are being sent home, they call home. Don't plan on hearing from him for another couple weeks....that means everything is good! My sons recruiter sent me his info as well and it was accurate. It's ok to write to him telling him you miss him, but also remind him of how proud you are of him and that you support him. Don't tell him anything that will make him worry, then he may get distracted and not do well. He needs to know everything is ok, even if you're feeling not so ok. He is well taken care of. If you're on FB, there are private groups specific to his PIR date. Search for "PIR 11-01-19" and join, if you feel that would help. At least you'll be connected with loved ones going through what you're going through, at the same time. Some people even start private groups specific to your division. We still have our division group and keep in touch. We actually still have our PIR group as well. Try not to get too caught up in what other people are experiencing (getting calls/letters) because it will stress you out more. Just know there are a lot of us here to support you. People in your real life won't understand, what you're going through, so don't expect them too. Lol If you have questions, ask. Or if you just need to vent. This is a safe place. BNMH (big Navy Mom hugs) to you!! 

Hang in there!


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