Need some positive feedback

[isupporttwins]

My tank of positive is on " E ".. I have said it over and over that I know my recruit is fine. Reported 12/14 to BC, rec'd the I am here phone call & the formal letter. But I need a letter. Just a few lines.

Winter is my least favorite season already and now having the first kid out of the " nest " is just more to deal with..

I am so proud & know in my heart this is the best thing. But no one told me as a Mom, how much it would " stink ".  Have your children grow up and be responsible men & women truly is what we are trying to do as parents.

So sorry to whine and complain.. I hope you all understand because I would never send this to my SR.

Thanks for giving me a place to vent..

Come on 2011 & sunshine....

[newnavymom(Ship 03 Div 79)]

Mine reported same day..but have not gotten box or letter..just the I am here safe and will call in two weeks....called recruiter after reading on this site that they have mailing address. recruiter is out till monday, and they cannot look up info for me cause is under recruiters ss# and his date of birth..I am supposed to call back monday.... do all that go in on same day go in as one unit or are their different groups, have not figured out all that is being talked about yet.  Having a place to vent is wonderful and people starting stuff like this is great, it stinks but I am not stinking alone tu

[isupporttwins]

dallasgia-

See you made me feel better for me but now I feel for your situation.

I know that on the Great Lakes Naval Training Site you can see when the graduation dates are. From what I am reading a very large group reported on 12/14. I know there is a graduation all called (PIR) on 2 - 11 and  2-18 , I have found Mom's whos son/daughter reported the same date and PIR on one of the two dates. There are 14 divisions of roughly 88 ( navy info) recrites in each divison. So yes, there are a lot of guys/girls there.

[ericsmom (ship12 div033)]

I know how you feel and I know you believe that!!!  I HATE this empty nest thing too.  I HATE it!!!! Both of mine are gone now, I have "replaced" them with 2 dogs!!! I am so proud of my boy and I know you are proud too.  This is what we want...... for them to grow up, be responsible, and make good decisions.  This was a good one.  They will be better for this choice that they have made, but it sure does leave a void in your heart.  I thnk of these moms that have kids that are "deadbeats" and that dont want to do anything with their lives.  ( i have a nephew  that way) We dont have that.  We are blessed. You will hear soon, i promise and you will be OK.  I also hate the winter.  I want the sun to shine and I want to play in the dirt!!!! 

I remember a 'mom" form this site said once in the begginning of my journey, "no news is good news and that this is probably the only time we can be sure where they are and they are 100% safe.  Hope that brings you a little comfort.  I did me. 

Hang in there and vent to us.  We understand......HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

[RunnerMom]

And the other hard part is kids coming home from College.  All those parents get to see their kids at Christmas, and it sucks that we don't! 

 

But, we know our kids are not our partying and getting potential alcohol poisoning... we know our kids are safe, secure and learning to become Sailors.  Men.  Our little boys will be Men at PIR.  We didn't get our first letter for three weeks.  Your son is a week behind my son.  So, you should get a letter and a phone call next week.  Keep you cell phone with you at all times - calls usually - but not always - come mid afternoon (hmmm guess that depends on where you live) and it seems like the first ones come Tuesday/Wednesdays.  No guarantees there.

 

And vent to us!  We are all in this together.  Find your support group for your PIR (I am guessing 2/11?) connect with those moms.  And the cool thing there is you can find out first when the calls are happening!  And everyone there is going thru the exact same thing you are....

 

We will survive this.  We become stronger moms for it.  And our boys survive and become men.  I can't wait to see mine at PIR and see the changes! 

 

Sending love and hugs.  Can't send sunshine as we are in the middle of a blizzard....

 

Runner Mom

[CorinneL]

To All New Navy Moms -

The waitng for the letters and phone calls IS tough.  Our son graduated from Boot Camp in May.  We didn't get a phone call for 3 weeks after the "I'm here" call.  Then, we got a short letter the next week.  I read all his letters over and over until I almost memorized them.  The reason we say "No news is good news" is because the first 2 weeks are the absolute toughest and if your Sailors are determined to see this through, they will make it - otherwise, they have to call home and let you know they aren't graduating on schedule because of medical reasons, etc.  Hang in there.  I wrote a paragraph or more every day to keep me occupied and feel that I was doing SOMETHING for him and then mailed an average of 2 letters a week.  I printed pictures of the pets, recent house improvements or whatever to keep him informed.  You will notice your Sailor change - in the letters and the few phone calls you'll get.  They mature really fast and you will be even more proud of him/her than you've ever been.  You must try to go to PIR if you can - they walk tall and seem even more mature then you remember yourself being at their age.  It's really wonderful.  After Boot Camp, they go on to "A" school where they can have cell phones and you can talk to them when they're not in class.  It's a little more relaxed and they will really enjoy their "A" school experience.  Hope this helps a bit.

[veryproudmom(Ship 03 Div 080)]

Thank you! This is very good information.  I feel better. I've been saying no news is good news but it is good to have someone confirm it.

[veryproudmom(Ship 03 Div 080)]

It is a very empty feeling having them gone and not being able to see or talk to them but I agree with Runnermom.  We know where they are.  We know they are safe and not getting into any trouble.  I have friends who have kids away at college and even though they can talk to them they have to worry about all the negative things that they can be exposed to and get involved in.  Our kids are doing great and even though my heart aches because I miss him I am so proud of what he is doing and know he is doing just fine and making the most of Boot Camp.  Hang in there! This is a really tough time to have one of your kids away with the holidays and the time of year when its cold and gloomy and hard to keep your mind off of how much we miss them.  I also liked what Julie Jakes mom said about the pride on her sons face at PIR.  When we see them and see what they have accompished all of this will be worth it. We are all right there with you and understand what you are feeling.  We should be hearing from them anytime now and I can't wait!

[JessicaB-Sailor Mom]

veryproudmom here is the link to your PIR group http://www.navyformoms.com/group/pir2182011

[Rose (Ship 09 Div 074)]

Ugh... I feel the sam way.  I wait for the mail man like a rabid dog.  I just want a letter, anything.  At this point I think if the letters I sent were returned it would be something. (wrong address or some thing) I feel so lonely.  I did not say this in any of my letters to my son.  I have my other 3 little ones to care for.  But I am so distracted with out my oldest.  All I do is eat.  I have gained 5 pounds since he left.  I really need to get it together. The holiday cookies are not helping.  All the food.  I just realized how much my son ate.  I was still food shopping as if he were here and I don't think I ever had so much food. I don't have to food shop for a very long time.  I might have to throw half of it away or donate it.  I do have less house work, less laundry and money in my purse when I look for it. I just miss him.  I think, I would not get upset if I found my wallet empty today because he took it.  I know I sound crazy but this is where I am at, today.

What you say about wanting our children to "grow into responsible men and women" had never occurred to me until he left. It has made me appreciate my little guys more.  What will I do with my self when they all leave.  I will be as big as a house.

[veryproudmom(Ship 03 Div 080)]

They will never all be gone forever. They will be around and out of four children I'm sure you will have some grandchildren to keep up with when all yours are grown.

[Rose (Ship 09 Div 074)]

I will be positive.  No news is good news.  He is on a wonderful adventure.  Safe and sound with his Drill Sargent.  No drugs or underage drinking to worry about.  (no loose girls)  Just positive re enforcement of all the values I tried to in still in him.  I can't wait to hear all the boot camp stories.  :-)

[ochaos]

This is the perfect place to come when you are feeling as you do because others feel the same way.  There are many youtube videos that you can watch to give you an idea of what they are doing and the training.  It can take a while for a division to fill up and start training and several things factor into them writing letters and getting calls.  No news is good news in the military even though it is hard to get used to.  We are so used to having an idea about what is going on with them and not being in touch instantly can be hard to get used to.  Just think about all of those that have gone before that did not have this site or know others that were going through the same thing.  When my oldest son joined the Air Force there was nothing like this site for me then and I just had to have faith that things would be fine.  This is the time to get used to being out of contact with them as there will be times when you can only communicate by letters depending on where they are assigned, we are so used to instant everything that it does take time to adapt but you will be fine.