Son Arrived BC 2/24 - Question About Divorced Family's

[JennieO_Hunter's Mom]

My son left from San Diego and arrived at GL's on Thursday 2/24. I'm having the worst time adapting to him being gone and wondering if my ex husband or I will receive further communication. If anyone could advise it would be greatly appreciated. When the first form letter is sent with my son's address....can they send to both parents or just one?  Same question about PIR graduation packet.  I don't know for sure if my ex were to receive the info that he would pass that on to me.

 

Again, any help is appreciated!

 

Jennifer

[JessicaB-Sailor Mom]

The form letter will only go to one parent, whoever he addresses it to. Also, there is no graduation packet anymore. All the grad info will be in the form letter.

 

You should be able to get his address from the recruiter

 

Here is the link to what MAY be your PIR group ( your PIR may be the next week....but join and hang out till you know for sure)   http://www.navyformoms.com/group/pir22211

[Jajajo]

JessicaB wouldn't the PIR date be 4/22/11?

[JessicaB-Sailor Mom]

Jajajo--the N4M that formed the 4/22 group accidentally put the date her rct left in the title so that is why it is 2/22 in the link. She changed the name of the group but that didn't change the http address

[jas babe(div230)]

My husband went to boot camp in May and his parents are divorced. They will send the packet and the box of stuff he took with him to only one person. Now as far as who it gets sent to depends entirely on your son. He will adress the materials himself as well as write the list of people who will be coming to graduation. If he doesnt mail it to you and you cant get the info from your ex dont worry you can always mail him a letter asking when his division graduates. You may have to wait a little longer though because you wont get a letter from him for at least 2 weeks. If all else fails remember he will get 1-3 phone calls while in boot and if any dates change for any reason ex. holidays or he gets held back he will get an extra phone call to tell you that. in the end if you know his division you can look up when his graduation will be online at www.bootcamp.navy.mil/ .   If nothing else you should get a letter from him with the information as long as he knows your adress. Good luck and stay positive once you see him at graduation it will be well worth the hassle!!

[Ann-Marie(Proud Mom of Nick)]

Wow that sucks, call his recruiter asap! get his address and bombard him with mail, jokes, cards and words of encouragement... just FYI no flashy envelopes, stickers, music cards etc. You don't want him to be singled out. There are some Boot Camp Mom's who love sending mail.. :) me included! Ask him if he minds you giving out his address and we can send support too. Definately find out his PIR date and join that group that will be an amazing support system for you! Good luck!! Friend me or email me if you want some more advice..

oh and they are super busy so some Q&A letters might help... Write out questions you want him to answer and send a self addressed stamped envelopes.. oh and send him STAMPS!!! and a CALLING CARD!!

[Ann-Marie(Proud Mom of Nick)]

oh and the box gets delivered with in 2-5 days then the "grad info form letter" with in a few days after that. Then you will not hear from him for at least 10 days, but if you get a jump on the address from the recruiter you will be in! Having brain farts.. learned from expierence trying to think of what else you should do.. OH, join Boot Camp Mom's group, When you find out his PIR definatley, see if someone posts his Ship and Div group, um, what he is going in for? there are seabee groups, Nuke groups etc and if they don't have one you want create one! My son's PIR group are talking about things like who to write to-from what to wear at PIR lol and meet and greet before grad.. hope this helps.. can you tell I have ADD? lol

[Ann-Marie(Proud Mom of Nick)]

Sorry told you ADD... he can only invite 4 people to grad... hope he puts your name on the "grad info form letter" or you will not be attending PIR..

[JennieO_Hunter's Mom]

Thank you ladies....good advise....I was just wondering if my son could send communication to both parents....I'm confident I'm on the list for PIR....Ha!  Just was worried if he had to choose a single communitication...or if they allowed both under cirumstances....my son is so close to both my ex husband and myself......unfortunatley...my ex and I are not...

[Ann-Marie(Proud Mom of Nick)]

Just support him as much as you can.. You guys will get there.

[JennieO_Hunter's Mom]

your profile pic is exactly the same of my son and I on his final swear in.....I cherish it!!!

[Ann-Marie(Proud Mom of Nick)]

and you should, you should be a proud mother! Trust me! join your son's PIR group or start one... it will be so therapeutic.

[navymom4e (ship12 div038)]

They can only send one form letter- and that includes all the graduation info.  I am divorced and my son sent everything to me.  He also used all his phone calls to me too.  Luckily we were together at my daughter's soccer games twice when he called.  My ex and I agreed from the begining to share phone call info and letters with each other.  I know this isn't easy- but I hope for your son's sake you two can come to terms for this.  Remember this is difficult for you and your son and don't add the pressure to him about who he calls or writes to.  Be grateful for any phone call and letter!!  Mine was not a great writer and any phone call was precious.  ALWAYS HAVE YOUR PHONE WITH YOU!!!!  Even next to the shower!  And when you see the 847 area code- it is your son!!  He could have 5 min or 30 min and be positive!!!  I wrote almost every day!  I hope for graduation you guys can be civil and work it out too- I was very fortunate and my ex was picture perfect because he knew it would screw up his time with our son.

Sorry i am rambling but I know how you feel and I hope it all works out with your ex because this so difficult to deal with without adding more to it!!!!!

Good luck with your journey!!!