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Comment by Lisa (A-Mac's mom) on April 9, 2015 at 6:24pm

Welcome, BrownEyedMomma!  2.5 days a month is normal for the military.  Active duty gets 30 days a year.  They can go in the hole some, too.  There is a break in school over Christmas.  My son always stayed at school for Thanksgiving, because there wasn't enough time to make it worth coming back to the East Coast.  My son has been out of school for a couple of years now.  I lurk here (lol) so  if you ever have a question, just post and I will do my best to answer it.  I don't talk a lot about what's going on currently with my son because, 1, OPSEC is very important to keep in mind, and, 2, I believe my role as a Navy wife and mother of an active duty sailor and mother of a cadet at the Air Force Academy is to support moms.  The Navy has been good to my family (we'll see how the Air Force is when my kid graduates from the Academy :) ).  My general advice is: 1. Always stay positive with your child.  2. Let them grow up. 3. Do NOT live vicariously through them.  That's too much pressure on them.  And, let's face it, when they leave your nest, it's time for us moms to finally live our own lives.  4.  Give unconditional love.  5. Know that the Navy wants your child to be the best they can be.  The Navy succeeds when its members succeed.  6. At some point a change will take place with your child where they will begin to see their shipmates as their family.  They might ask for your counsel and advice less often.  This is normal!  It's not easy for us mother's.  But, trust me, it is normal.  7. You can't take the test or run the PRT or make the rank or any other achievement for your child.  Don't take it personally when they fail.  And don't take it personally when they succeed.  8. Always remember that there is no better support system than military mothers/wives/spouses.  

Comment by BrownEyedMomma on April 9, 2015 at 5:39pm

Saw some postings that said kids might be able to leave during christmas. If she gets to dli by may would she have enough days for a week? Someone else said 2.5 days a month but that seems like a lot.

Comment by KC'smom on April 9, 2015 at 4:57pm

My son is about to make his 4 year point in the Navy. He's deployed twice, aircrew. He's wishing he could go somewhere else other than the desert & pretty bummed he didn't get sent to Greece. Survival school gave him a lot of skills & this week he is on leave & backpacking in the Smokey Mtns all by himself with his 45lb back pack. Just pops a tent & boils his water from the creek. Oh and in the rain ( poor guy ). I really wish the navy would just let him deploy somewhere nice just ONCE!!!

Comment by BrownEyedMomma on April 9, 2015 at 3:28pm

This group doesnt seem to get a lot of use. hopefully thats because you find private ways to communicate because of the security level of our kids. New to all this and would love to hear from people in the same boat (pun intended) or those who already gone through it.

Comment by NavyDaughter/Mom on March 23, 2015 at 8:27pm

Nahuh, My son graduated from DLI last July - wow 4 more months and it will be a year already.  School is HARD...really hard.  It's tough for all those "kids"...and it's tough for us moms/dads.  For my son and I there were so many adjustments in Monterey.  They really do have a great support system though, they take care of each other.  He graduated with honors, but there were some nights that we spent on the phone where I wasn't sure if he was going to make it.  I ALWAYS reminded him to give 110% everyday...but at the end of the day, if he failed out - it wouldn't be the end of his world. The things these kids learn in such a short time is nothing short of amazing.  On a side note...Monterey is a little piece of heaven.  Best of luck to your son!!

Comment by elliluvs on March 23, 2015 at 7:26pm

Same here. I recently graduated out of DLI and would be willing to answer what I can! I don't get on here much but pm me and ill do what I can!
-CTI3 Welch

Comment by Desiree on March 23, 2015 at 7:21pm

Nahuh my boyfriend has been in Monterey since last June if you have any questions feel free to send me a message with your email and I will do my best to answer any questions you have.

Comment by Susan, Michael's mom on March 21, 2015 at 11:09pm

DEE: so happy to hear your son survived for 6 years and is now back in Civilian life. I hope my son will survive rest of his navy years, also. well, email me if you have the time....lots of blessings to the both of you. susan

Comment by Susan, Michael's mom on March 21, 2015 at 11:07pm

This message is for DEE! I have not been on here in ages, still doing the speech therapy thing! Michael is almost through with school in Monterrey! Unbelievably, he appears to have sailed right through! He is a bit more arrogant with me, but not much else has changed. He rarely answered my texts. Asked me not to text him about anything but family matters...does not want to discuss events in world as he says he has to discuss them in his language classes, and he is paid to do that, but won't do it w/ me! He came home for Christmas and he was fine! I would go see him graduate but he does not really seem to want me to. I have read your posts and I trust you....I think you are kind of a guardian angel on here for all moms here! :) anyway, would you email me at my real email, which is private and where I could ask some questions about what to expect after graduation. Michael has proved he is an adult now, has thrived in Monterrey! my email is marythomas1@suu.edu....
It would mean the world to me to be able to talk to you.
I can also be reached at susanthomas@gpacharter.org...
either one, or both...I actually look at the gpa more.
thanks...susan

Comment by Desiree on March 20, 2015 at 1:07am

Dee you are such a sweetheart. Thank you so much for getting back to me. You are so helpful to have on this page. My boyfriend has shared that he doesn't feel he will ever get used to military life. But he does a great job just doing whatever's asked of him. Hopefully that helps him stick it out like your son did! Keep us posted with how things are going!

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