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Comment by momkaw1513 on April 9, 2013 at 11:04pm

Thanks to all of you for the wake up call. It is because of your recent comments that I realized how difficult this program is. We were in Monterey last week and got to spend some time with our son with the realization that he needed to keep up on his studies. It was great to see him and hopefully it was a recharge for him. I spoke with him tonight about these posts and he confirmed that there are people leaving every day, but there are lots of resources for them if they are struggling. Our sailors that have chosen to challenge themselves in such a way and have been deemed qualified need to be congratulated. They are amazing!!

Comment by Ducky on April 8, 2013 at 11:05pm

My daughter called in tears tonight and said she was counseled and put on probation.  I have been with her on the phone three times today and she is an absolute wreck.  Because of all your great input, I asked her to check into a transfer, a different language or to see what other options she has.  I am extremely concerned about her right now.  She said she might get kicked out all together, which I am not sure if she is overreacting or whether that is true.  It is obviously not a good match for her at this time.  Not sure what else I can do to support her.

Comment by proudmom on April 8, 2013 at 10:45pm

Indymon you put words so eloquently!

Comment by IndyMom on April 8, 2013 at 1:27pm

Glad to hear that he has finally found some assistance so he has some options.  God Bless you both...I know he will do great whatever the final outcome. My son and I are very close..but this made me get more in touch with the pressure he is under there.  I think I was so caught up in him graduating from bootcamp that it never dawned on me the new challenges he faced.  In retrospect, I can see that it has been harder on him then he let it on.  Your son's experience had shown me that I need to be more attentive so I started asking him questions.  He related that it is very hard, but he makes a point to using part of the weekend to relax and recharge.  It has caused his grades to dip a bit, but he said the ulitmate goal is to make through because he has already lost over ten people in his class and a bunch more are on the bubble- this is sobering seeing they are only a little over half way through the course.  Being a teacher myself and knowing the amount of information these kids need to learn in such as short time-they really are exceptional.  Well, keep us updated on how he does...we are all in this together.

Comment by PamperedMom on April 8, 2013 at 12:45pm

Thanks for all the encouragement! My sailor is waiting now for the CO to make the decision on his status. He is looking forward to the change whatever it is. We are proud that he gave it his best shot.

Comment by proudmom on April 8, 2013 at 6:44am

I agree with the fail rate being 65%. I went back and looked it up. Here here okie cowgirl. Well said. They need all the support you can give them!

Comment by Okie Cowgirl on April 8, 2013 at 12:08am

Actually, my research tells me that DLI has a >60% FAIL rate, not success rate.  My daughter called me last week and told me that she doesn't think she is going to make it through the program.  We have told her from the beginning that we will be proud of her no matter what.  She seems to be okay with it either way.  My daughter has also had friends who have not made it through the program, and they are each happy with their reassignment. 

Here are some things that she has found out recently- sailors can ask to be reassigned to a different language if they are struggling.  It needs to be done fairly early on.  Wish my daughter had known that, but she didn't, so we will move on from there. 

As long as your student is trying, even if they fail out, the people in command will try to help them find another job that they are suited for.  Otherwise, they get fleeted and there is no special consideration given to the happiness of the sailor. 

I can only recommend that you give your student emotional support that no matter the outcome, you are proud of them for even making it into the program.  

Comment by proudmom on April 7, 2013 at 10:03pm

My daughter says it is very difficult at DLI and has had 2 friends leave the program and go to a different school in another base (she has been there 9 months) both of them are very happy for the change and are quite successful in their new career paths.

There have been students that commit suicide, break down and just plain give up as this school has a 65% success rate according to figures I've found on DLI. So if your child is still in school keep encouraging and letting him/her know how proud you are and that you have all the faith in the world in their decisions and abilities. These students are remarkable for being there in the first place and even if they get reassigned they are STILL remarkable for the challenges they face in their futures!

Comment by KC'smom on April 7, 2013 at 9:32pm

Would you believe, my sons very best friend & roommate actually graduated DLI, only to have some kind of breakdown during the days that followed. He was discharged from the navy right after. It was heart breaking. He actually attempted suicide during his breakdown. It was such a stressful time for him. It was extremely stressful for my son even though he did great academically. I met the young man and his parents at graduation - I never saw it coming& either did my son.

Comment by beckmcs on April 7, 2013 at 8:29pm

My son had several friends throughout his DLI time that left the program for one reason or another.  Without exception, they moved into another Navy job where they are happy with the assignment.  There is opportunity for those that are motivated to be sure!

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