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Comment by prov2324mom on June 23, 2011 at 2:06pm

CMom,

 Hope things have been sorted out to the good for your son. The Navy is hard for we the moms to deal with sometimes. The "rules" seem pretty arbitrary sometimes. There have been times I have been very angry over things that have happened. There's nothing I can do about it except pray. Later on I can see that despite the pain at the time it all worked out for the best for my son.

Still we moms aren't as good at accepting the different way of doing things the military has...I know how you feel and don't be ashamed for being frustrated with how things are done. The Navy's not perfect either but our sons and daughters learn through every hardship.

If you need to vent feel free to send me a message...

Comment by Craig on June 22, 2011 at 10:21am

CMom - The threats are to keep the sailor motovated.  They do it because it works.  Having the thought of scrapping barnacles off a ship makes the sailor realize that they need to stop playing the X-box and grabbing a book.  It worked for me and kept the thought in my head to study more than chasing women.   

 

CTN school is extremely hard.  It has to be.  What these guys do in the field is totally amazing.  To me, having spent 2 hours in a meeting sounds like he will be given one more chance (just guessing).  I'm betting he will be rolled back, and taught to relearn the material.  Just curious, how long has he been in CTN "A" school now?  If it is more that 1/2 of the course he's got a real good chance of continuing, but he will be rolled back to the next class (again, just guessing).

 

Lastly, the 1% is a rule.  Just like body fat or anything else in the Navy.  They set "the bar", and you must meet the minimum requirement.  Yes, their are waivers, but they don't hand them out easily.  As a mom, just continue to be there and to support him. 

 

Everyone has a problem in life.  Whatever the problem is, do your best. If at the end of the day you can say "I did my best today", then you have done your job. Everyone in life has a "Weak Link", there is always something you will have trouble with. Learn to overcome those problems and continuing moving down the track.

Comment by Northwest Annie on June 22, 2011 at 10:20am

Totally understand your feelings CMom. It is all going to work out for your son in the long run. He's going to be OK and happy. I don't understand the threat thing either. Some people aren't motivated by that. You are both in my prayers! :-)

Comment by momoffour(Ship 11 div 119) on June 22, 2011 at 3:54am

CMom--- I am so sorry your so is going through such a hard time. I remember that I was almost physically sick on the days I knew he had a test. When my son failed his first test, an instructor  told him that he might as well give up because there was no way he would pass the course and no way he would be able to do what he wanted after completing the course. He did pass and he is doing what he wants. I pray they give your son a chance to roll back a class. As a mom I feel your pain. Let us know how it turns out!

Comment by Craig on June 21, 2011 at 10:03pm

CMom - What was the outcome?

Comment by Giraffe on June 21, 2011 at 8:09pm

Hello CMom... My son is new to A school so I do not have any tangible advise.. However like Annie Im sending good energy and prayers your sons way and to you as well.. Let us know how it turned out if you don't mind

My son said they are revamping how they instruct.. not so many classroom hours and more study.. if that makes sense to anyone

Comment by Northwest Annie on June 21, 2011 at 9:51am

Hi CMom! I'm sorry for the difficulties your son is having. This has been a rollercoaster ride for my son too! (I'm riding in the back!!) I don't have any advice on what to expect as I don't really know how it works. My son asked to be rolled back to the next class rather than retaking a test because he knew he hadn't understood the material so even if he did pass by some miracle on a retake he would have still been lagging behind the rest of the class. He had failed one test previously and retaken it the next day and passed so he didn't have to see the ARB that time. It sounded to me like he had a choice to retake or go before the ARB and he chose the ARB. Sorry I'm not much help. I'm definitely sending prayers and good energy your way today. It's so difficult to see our kids struggle.

Comment by CMom on June 21, 2011 at 5:58am

Hello all - It's been a while since I commented on this site - I have tried to stay "low key" since my son arrived in FL and classed up.  I am very worried about him so... Here I am - He called last evening and was very upset - said he has to go in front of ARB this morning - 2nd time.  He said he is doing great on the homework and quizzes but seems to freeze on the tests  and has had to take them over but then passes - He said he is 1 point from "passing" and has to go in front of the review board today.  I am so worried for him as CTN is all he has wanted to do for so long and now he thinks he will be dropped - Can anyone tell me what to expect?  He is putting so much stress on himself.  This is all so new to him and I dont know what to say or do to help except keep telling him we will support him no matter what. I read back a few pages that someone asked to be "put back" into the next class is that an option or are there special circumstances?  I am just really worried about the whole situation - I am literally sick to my stomach and can only think about what he is going thru - any insight and or advise would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks!!

Comment by himmiemom on June 21, 2011 at 12:18am

Thanks for the advise Giraffe...I agree with studying way too much.  My son was obsessed with it and didn't give himself a break even on the weekends.  He would get so stressed out that he would do horrible on his tests.  Since he asked to be bumped back a month he has done great.  He aced the test he flunked with the previous instructor and has even made some "marine" study buddies.  He informed me yesterday that his new grad date is 9/28.

Comment by Giraffe on June 19, 2011 at 7:11pm

Thank Annie, prov2324mom, and clockard.. I was kinda worried that I should have said more to him.. but figured it would've been overload.. he is a thinker, planner, and saver.. always has been.. his older brother however is a damn the torpedoes full steam ahead type of character, with loads of charisma.

Congrats clockard to your son and his fiance'

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