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Comment by momoffour(Ship 11 div 119) on April 7, 2010 at 2:33pm

I am wondering how many they need to start a class. I ask my son everyday if he has heard about class starting and he says not yet. He doesn't seem too worried, just cleaning, escorting people into the compound and enjoying free time. He is living with three guys who are IT and they are always studying so he is glad they are not slackers.

Comment by LLovesmysailor on April 7, 2010 at 12:21pm

My son had a similar problem with the fact that he doesn't drink alcohol. It seems that the paperwork said that he "abstains from alcohol". Which they apparently interpreted as his having a problem with alcohol or a religious issue with alcohol. I spent nearly a hour patiently explaining that he just hates the taste. It took me that long to get through to the woman. She was from the FIS not the FBI.
She also had an issue with his lack of a girlfriend at the age of 26. It was a strange conversation that obviously danced around "don't ask, don't tell." Everyone of his family and friends told them that he was working full time, going to college full time and taking care of my mom's house almost full time. He had no time or money to date.

Comment by Craig on April 6, 2010 at 9:08pm

Mary, understand the Navy has a policy MPM 1300-1100 that says "Every
reasonable effort will be made for same immediate family members
to serve together whenever possible." So it really depends what the sons rating is.
Just want to make sure that you parents are not caught off guard about the duty stations. Alot of Sailors desire to go temporary active duty (TAD) and will volunteer for IA duty. So you may think they will be in Hawaii or Virginia, but in fact they are in Iraq or Afganistan. At my base we have over 100 TAD now. But it's what these Sailors requested.

Comment by momoffour(Ship 11 div 119) on April 6, 2010 at 5:58pm

Are they ever sent overseas for the first duty station. I am wondering if we should take his car to him if he has a chance of being sent overseas after his school.

Comment by juni on April 5, 2010 at 10:17pm

About OCONUS duty...please keep in mind that this is a fairly new rate and things change. I know then when we were looking at orders there were some for places in Asia. There has been talk of other places opening up.

Comment by LLovesmysailor on April 5, 2010 at 9:06pm

They told me that they try not to contact parents for the security clearance and only do it if they can't get the information any other way. My son was told that his only OCONUS (out of continental US) time will be his billet in Hawaii. Tough duty but some one has to do it. I have also heard that they are looking for CTNs to serve with SEAL units. I just can't imagine my son the Geek doing that kind of duty.

Comment by LLovesmysailor on April 3, 2010 at 12:49pm

Moma, It doesn't only happen in small towns. When my son graduated from H.S. he went to NYC to go to college. He decided to live with my Mom to save money on the rent. While there he went to work full time and went to school full time. He soon realized that my mother shouldn't be living alone, but she wouldn't give up her house. So he took care of her so she could stay in her home of 60 years. He had no time for the college social scene and so made no friends. His high school friends also drifted into a bad place and he didn't want to stay in contact with them. The only sad thing was that the Navy investigators had a difficult time believing that a young man his age would give up so much to take care of an elderly grandparent.

Comment by Craig on April 3, 2010 at 12:30pm

Moma,
Your son is in another chapter of his life now. He will make so many new friends in the Navy that he will never end up thinking about his H.S. friends. Yea, it's fun for these kids to come back into town in uniform to show their H.S. friend what he made of himself. But that it.

My own story is I left town to join the Navy because all of my H.S. friends were starting to get into drugs. I knew I didn't want that to be part of my life. Now, I hear stories of these "friends" and they have nothing to show for their life. In turn, I have seen over 75 countries, and have friends everywhere.

My only recommendation to you is to embrace his new life, and become a part of it. When the holiday season comes around you tell your son to invite a couple of his new friends (preferably those that don't have a home to go to) to your house for Thanksgiving or Christmas. That way not only do you have him for the holidays, he's got friends that he can hang with while home. Bottom-line, don't get caught up with his H.S. friends, because in a couple months, he won't.

Comment by LLovesmysailor on April 2, 2010 at 8:52pm

My son was 26 when he joined the Navy. He had lived in New York for years and went to college there. So there was a lot of history for the Navy to go through. I also got a lot of extra calls from basic.

Comment by momoffour(Ship 11 div 119) on April 2, 2010 at 7:18pm

The moving thing is what I was afraid of, my husband job has moved us alot so my 19 year old sailor has lived in five places. four of those being less than 2 or 3 years. We struggled even remembering people, addresses ect.

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