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[taracottagreen]

My husband and I celebrated seven years last weekend and he left the 4th for bootcamp The 5th was our actual anniversary.I received his box and then missed a call I didnt expect a call and could tell he was upset.He understood since I was at work (like always).I was wondering if anyone else had spouses or BF's in bootcamp right now?
I also have a question. Would it be weird to leave a message to him in my phone even though everyone who calls will I don't want him to be discouraged if I don't answer?Oh and if your loved one is in bootcamp how many people slept with the clothes from the box?lol.I cried myself to sleep cuddled up with his shirt.

[LaSue (Ship 2, DIV 948)]

You are not the only one. I cried two days straight and wore my SR hoodie. I didnt even want to wash it because it was the only physical attachment I had with her scent on it.

[Dany - Navy Wife]

Hi! That's true...you're not alone! I've been with my husband for 8 years...always together.

He left almost 4 weeks ago.Is still in BC and graduates next month. This last week was so sad...even after I got his letters.

At least you will have support here! It helps A LOT!

And about the clothes...lol...I washed all the clothes but the shirt he was wearing the day he left is here with me and I'll only wash it the day he's back!

[sailorwifenmom]

Hang in there! I know it's hard now but it will get blike etter! Also, I've known people who have done what you said - left a message on the phone. But you want to be careful that your message doesn't say anything about him being gone. (For one thing, it's good to start practicing opsec and persecute now so when he's deployed you're in the habit.)

Maybe something more along the lines of "if this is ___, I love you and leave a message! If this is anyone else, I probably only like you, but you can leave one, too!" and less of a "I love you ____ - see you on ___!"

Just hang in there - the time will seem like it drags on forever some days but before you know it, the weeks will pass by and you'll be seeing him again! :-)

[CHN-B]

I completely understand. I cried every day the first week. The nights r the hardest. I was not hungry nor could I sleep. I sat in our doorway on the floor with 'the box' opened in front of me & the last clothes he wore in my lap. It is hard when someone you love so much is away & there's no contact. I did not miss the "I'm here" call but did miss the call he made when he was at the airport, waiting for his flight. I told myself I will do everything possible to not miss another call. So I had my phone on me at all times, even when I'm in the shower. The only time I'm a bit more relaxed about waiting for his call is frm 22:00-06:00 (IL time). But just in case, I did leave him a message on my out going voice message. I said "sorry I can't take ur call at the moment. If this is _______, I love u & miss u very much". I did most of his laundry but kept a few items because I needed to have things w his scent on them. I hold his shirts & sleep with his favorite t-shirt. I have not washed our bed sheets because his scent is still on it. I've only been washing my pillow case. (I shower every night before climbing into bed to help keep the sheets clean. I know at some point, I will have to wash them).
It will start to get easier once u get the form letter with his mailing address & u start to write to each other. I stalk the mailman each week. Seven weeks has gone by for me & I am just ecstatic to see him this coming Friday!!
My suggestion would be: start writing to him now if u haven't done so. Mail the first stack out immediately when u receive his address. Ur letters will be a big support to him. U will find that he misses u just as much! Continue to write to him. Keep urself busy. The time will go by & u will grow even closer through this process. Good luck.

[keikilani]

My boyfriend of two years left on the 4th also! On the 5th, I did get his, "I'm here" call, but it was a short 30-second scripted call.  Don't beat yourself up about missing his call!  I am sure he understands.  I think that is a great idea to leave him a sweet little message for when he calls.  I know it is tough.  I have written him a letter every day. He is going to have a huge stack of letters once we get his address. :) We lived together, so I know it's tough not being able to see each other every day and talk every day.  Maybe our sailors will have the same PIR date.  Keep me updated!  

[Byron's wifey (ship 12 div 348)]

Hi :)! You're not alone at all! My husband left on Aug 28th and I cried everyday after that! I also missed his call and that broke my heart! I'm new on here and it's very comforting to know that there's soo much support for each other♥♥

[fhgirl28]

You're definitely not alone. My boyfriend gave me his Navy shirt he got for PT from his recruiter to wear. I think I got about 2 hours of sleep that night because I was so upset. Lol.

[Brod4586]

My husbands and my wedding anniversary was on the fifth as well..two years :]. He has been at camp since the 7th if last month. I slept in my husbands clothes as well when I got his box! The time will pass by fast though I have 23 days till I get to see him!!

[abuon18]

When my husband (bf at the time!) was in boot camp I sprayed his cologne on my sheets and slept in one of his tshirts every night! Also wore his cologne instead of my perfume on days I was feeling really lonely or down.

[taracottagreen]

So thankful for all the responses ladies.I feel like I have no support and no one understands what I'm going through.You ladies made me feel lots better.

[Ashley-PO2 Spouse]

I think it's a great idea. It lets him know that you are still thinking of him. I would also let my work know what's going on. i know a lot of places will be understanding about keeping the phone on.