Confused..

[NicoleH10]

Hi everyone ok so my husband leaves for bootcamp next Wed. for the Bulls Division (Mar. 27th) and we are 22 wks pregnant. After his bootcamp my husband will only have " A " school for 3wks due to him going in as a PACT SEAMAN, when he is out of school we fig. it would be mid June. I am due July 20th. Originally our plan was to have me stay home with family and have the baby and he would come back if allowed for the birth, but now there telling him that there's a very good chance that won't happen, and that it would be easier for us if I were to just move when he moves. Its my choice on what to do but its so hard with all our family whispering into my ear stay here have the baby when if I don't go it's hard for me to not have him present for the birth ( this is our 3rd child ). I think it's really important for him to be there and I just wish that no matter what I end up deciding they would all be supportive but I'm not getting that since no matter what someone will be disappointed.. 

[Angie]

Recruiters are like used car salesman, they only tell part of the story

[Saipan]

Kinda like how it's had a brand new paint job, engine rebuilt, blah blah blah. Well duh, it needed all that after it was blown across 3 counties in a tornado or was driven off a bridge by a suicidal owner!

[Angie]

yep...hahaha

[Angie]

As Anti M said the recruiters are wrong...He can work in the recruiters office his whole leave if he wants, but he will only get credit back for 5 days of it on his leave.  He is only qualifed to take RAP duty, which is the 5 days...the recruiters are talking about HARP duty (which is 10 days) but he is not qualified to do HARP duty right after "A" School.  Also his leave just can't be extended. Regarding the command allowing him to take house hunting leave (which is 10 days) that is up to the command, they do NOT have to allow him to take it.  Regarding going back home to set up the move and everything, after he is at the command...again no!  If they do give him the 10 days of house hunting (which most commands haven't been doing of lately) he will have to do EVERYTHING in that 10 days and if he wants to go home during that time to help you move, HE pays for it and pays to fly back to the base.

Lets get realistic here...YOU need to look into getting a place to live once you know where his duty station is. Once has the orders, you can use your POA to help set up the move.  You can either have the Navy move all your stuff, of you can pack it out and drive a Uhaul across country (I recommend having the Navy move you).

Also with the 2 weeks of leave after Undes SN school...it is normally only 10 days.  As they don't even have that much leave saved up yet.  They earn 2 1/2 days per month, 2 months of bootcamp, than just say one month for school...that is 7 1/2 days and they can't take a 1/2 day of leave.

Below are some hyperlinks for the different policy's you are asking about.  If you review the Paternity and house hunting ones, it talks  about CO's approval...that means they can deny it. It is a request, not a right.  Sorry to say that is how things work in the Navy.  Sailors have very few rights.

House hunting policy (click here)

RAP duty (click here)

Navy Paternity leave (click here)

[NicoleH10]

Thank you all so much for this information very helpful! So for me would it be the best and smartest decision to move right when he is out of schooling? That's kinda how it seems I should do it.

[Angie]

You can do what you would like, but if you move right after he gets out of schooling (assuming you are talking about while he is on leave between school and his first duty station) if you both are doing the move yourself than go ahead.  If you are going to use the Navy movers, they are normally booked out a few months in advance.  Also keep in mind if you do it yourself, he may or may not get advanced money to help with the move.  You both may need to pay for everything out of your pocket up front and he files a claim once he is at his command to get some of the money back.  Also you need to calculate in time to find a place to live that you both like, or if you want to wait for base housing that may take some time.  http://www.ahrn.com/ if you are going to live out in town, that website is a good place to start to look for places to rent. 

I understand you want him there for the birth, but I would recommend you wait for base housing to open up and get in there.  Why you may ask?  as 1 you know you are going to have military as your neighbors so they have been through all the fun times of deployments, duty, and separation.  You will have a built in support network.  Living in base housing you don't have to worry about paying rent, or about having issues with landlords when you need something fixed.  Normally the BAH (his housing allowance) will be taken right out of his paycheck and sent to the landlords.  some utilities are included also so you don't have to worry about that either.