Does anyone have to make the choice School or him?

[Jasmine<3]

I've been going back in forth about going to school. And my family and friends are all for school, but I was hope that maybe someone on here been through this situation. My friends and family are only think about me and not about me and Dante future. If I choose to get married and go away with him I will leave school up to a year. But if choose college I won't see him till January, and that too long. Everything in me is telling to stay in school, but I know I will miss him too much. I already have to go the whole summer without him, the first one in three years. Even his family wants me to stay in school. And Dante tell me it up to me. I need help!!!!!!!!

[Emily-aaronsgirl11]

I like the take it day by day attitude. I was in a similiar situation last year. I ended up attending my first choice college (Clemson University) even though it meant being away from him. Because if there's anything I've learned in the past year and a half, it's that being with him doesn't necessarily mean being with him. If I dropped everything and moved across the country to be with him, I'd end up being across the country from my family, by myself a lot, and most likely sad. 

You need to do what's right for you right now. Do what makes you happy. The rest will fall into place. If you two are meant to be, it doesn't matter how much distance is between you.

[Fur&FeathersDVM]

I got married and am still in school several states away from my husband. We've been apart three years now and have two left to go. It's made me love and appreciate my husband in ways that most of my friends can only dream of.  I never take a single second I'm with him for granted- and I mean that.  If you can transfer and finish your degree, great. I couldn't so I'm staying in school. It doesn't mean we couldn't get married, just that we have to live the "married life apart" for awhile. Tons of military families do it for their family's sake.  But please please please- for your sake- don't just give up on your degree, or take time off and go back to it. I see way too many girls say "I'm only going to take a semester or two off" and never go back and then something happens so that they're not with their sailor anymore and then they have no way to support themselves.

Your man is going to be a sailor. There are going to be times when you can't see him for months, even a year, and you'll have no say in it. So when you say you won't see him til January and that's too long, are you prepared to be married to someone who may have to go for a year (or even more) to someplace you won't be able to see him? It's a harsh fact of navy life. I'm not trying to be mean, but if you don't think you can handle the separation, you're not ready to marry someone who's joining the navy. That's why it's so important to have a life outside of him- he's going to be gone a lot and you need to not fall apart when he's gone. Having a degree in something you care about to help you get a job in something you love can be a big help for that.

[sailorsdarlin]

My opinion on this is you have to do what's best for you. Even though people might want you to stay in school its generally up to you. I had the same decision, but I chose school. I haven't seen my sailor since September of 2010. It's been 8 months, and I never thought I could actually make it this far and I'm actually kind of proud of how far I've come and how much I've grown. You think you can't make it, but all you need is support. School actually makes it go by pretty quick. But honestly it's up to you and what you want to do with your life. You could get your school done quicker and start yalls life together and set it all up.

[Jasmine<3]

I'm happy to say that I am going to stay in school. yay me right????  I'm going to try to summer and fall at a junior college close to my family. Let see how it goes, everybody wins I'll be in school and just an hour and half way from him.

[Jess_0411]

Yay for staying in school! Your education is something that will follow you wherever you go. It will help you get a job, which will help you guys lead the lifestyle you want. I've seen quite a few Navy families with the husband being the only one working, he's an E-4, and they struggle to make ends meet. No one wants that. Best of luck with school (:

[sailorsdarlin]

That's great! You're being so smart about it too. Making things better for the both of you in the end(: And you're not too far from him very lucky! Best of luck! (:

[FelicitySillyGoose]

I encourage you to go to school! This is an opportunity for your personal advancement while he works on his and when you reunite, it will be an even better situation. I am in a similar situation with my SR. He just enlisted and I am beginning my PhD this August...that's a minimum of 3 years apart! It's a tough decision to make but you have to think big picture/long term. It sounds like your SR is like mine with the unconditional support....so use that as your strength to work hard at school and you know what the reward will be after that accomplishment.

[Janae' *My Love is HOME :)*]

I have been through this... I went away to college for a year and the second month I was ther I started talking to my now husband who lived in my hometown... I drove 4 hours home every weekend to be with him... When may came Home i moved with him and he was leaving for boot in august. Everyone wanted me to go back to school but I chose not to because I knew it would be harder for us and I felt my relationship with him meant more to me than school... He's the love of my life and I have no regrets about not going back to college. I'm n community college now but am also able to work and still be able to be here for my husband and do things he needs me to do while he is deployed..... I followed my heart and I think you should follow which every is on ur heart the most because u could be different from me.... If I knew I wouldn't find a job without my degree I would have transferred closer to home but I found a job and I started online school then switched to community college..... I'm sure your man will be there for whatever decision u make.

[Jasmine<3]

I completely agree with you more, I think love should be above school. But trying to explain that to my family is not happening. And my family even happier that i will be staying at home with them and going to school. And my boyfriend happy too. So I guess I made the best decision  for "me".

[lexievelyn8179]

I'm losing so many credits moving with my husband, that I'm also planning on doing the online thing. Unfortunately online schooling is harder and more expensive, but I for one will get frustrated with constantly losing credits every time we move.