Feeling real uncertain and stressed...

[Nicole_66]

Hello Ladies!

My boyfriend left for boot camp on Feb. 10 and it's been real hard ever since, especially Valentine's Day. I feel like I am just stressing myself. This may sound weird but all these "what ifs" keep running through my mind. Like what if he doesn't write me at all or call me, or what if he's fallen out of love with me, or what if he doesn't miss me like I'm missing him. I feel so stupid because I know none of that is true but I just can't help but worry about it. I just want a letter from him already or at least the form letter to start writing him. We think his recruiter gave us the wrong address so I don't want him to think I don't want to write him or talk to him since he hasn't been getting any letters from me. I know all these worries sound really stupid but I can't help it. I just want to talk to him already, I miss him so much!

[abuon18]

The way you're feeling is totally normal! I felt the same way when my at the time boyfriend left... Now husband. I was so worried that I would never hear from him again lol! But obviously that didn't happen. Just keep writing to him. I would say hold on to the letters until you get the form letter that has his address on it, the recruiters often have the wrong address. They can't receive mail until their division's mail PO is trained anyway so if you send them now he won't get them yet, they will just be held in the post office, until the mail PO is trained. You'll probably start receiving letters from him week 3, 3.5 but he'll receive yours before then! The first few weeks are definitely the hardest, while you're waiting to get his letters, but I promise you it gets a lot easier once the letters start coming!

[Nicole_66]

Thank you so much! It's nice to know I'm not the only one feeling this way and like I'll never speak to him again! Yeah this past wee has been really hard but I bet it will get easier once I do start getting letters! Thanks for the advice!

[Thinton88]

Wow! You sound just like me when my husband left for boot camp back in December.  I'm still kinda new to all of this because my husband just graduated boot camp last week, but I hope my story is at least somewhat helpful.  I got the form letter about a week and a half after he left.  I wrote him everyday but he didn't receive my letters until he was about three weeks in.  What was even worst was he couldn't even send out mail until he was a month in.  Luckily your boyfriend didn't have to do boot camp during like Christmas and New Year's.  My best advice to you is don't worry.  I know it's easier said than done.  Your boyfriend is in good hands, if something happens to him he will call you (or his parents).  Just keep yourself busy and the time will go by so fast. Oh, and try to keep your phone on you during the day.  Sometimes the recruits will get a phone call as a reward.  If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me.

[Nicole_66]

Wow that must have been so hard for you having your husband gone during the holidays. Congrats on him graduating, that's awesome! It definitely is hard and I'm trying not to worry but like you said easier said than done. And my phone is glued to me now lol :) thanks for the advice!

[Thinton88]

Oh another thing I forgot to tell you.  Please understand that I'm not trying be negative. When you find out your boyfriend's PIR date you may or may not want to join that group (whether it's on this site or facebook, or whatever).  If you do, sometimes you might see someone say that they got a call from somebody in your boyfriend's division.  If that happens and you (or his parents) don't get a phone call, don't get upset.  It doesn't mean that something is wrong or he doesn't want to call.  It happened one time with my husband.  His division was able to make an extra call but he wasn't able to because he had to get his wisdom teeth removed and others were in SIQ cause they had pink eye.  When you write him suggest to him that if his division does get calls and he's SIQ, see if he can get another recruit to make a quick call to you (just so you know what's up).  Sometimes another recruit can do it and sometimes they can't.  

[Proud Navy Girlfriend]

I waited until my boyfriend wrote/called me. And he missed me so much it was crazy, it was like he was a whole new man. I wasn't expecting him to be so lovey in his letters. But i felt the same way you did when my boyfriend first went to boot camp. Insecurities get the best of us:/ but like everyone else said, just hang in there because it's worth it! He won't be upset with you either, he probably is excited to hear from you though! :)

[e_dub]

Hi,

I'm in your shoes right now. My bf left for basic the last week of January and don't get me wrong I have been keeping plenty busy but sometimes you just cannot stop those thoughts. Let's help each other get through this. Like, right now I'm just feeling bummed and down..missing him. Anyhow, let's support each other as we are in a sisterhood now. :)

E

[NavyGF88]

Hi,My boyfriend also left on Feb 10th,I was feeling the same way.Lucky I got a text from his mom today with the address..That made me feel so much better.I been writing letters since the 12, im sure my boyfriend will love to get the letters I have been writing.