Hello I am new here! :)

[lovelyblueily]

My boyfriend left for boot-camp this July and I did not realize how much I did not know about the Navy!! It has not been great being without him but I am so proud of what he is doing. With that being said, I am thankful to have found this website and this group! I do not feel alone any longer! I have many questions so if anyone could give me any tips, job ideas for a Navy gf/spouse, or general information, I will greatly appreciate it! :D Thank you all in advance, I look forward to my journey with you people and of course my future sailor! <3

[Michael]

A good website is usajobs.com but you get no preference treatment unless your legally married spouse. The navy does not recognize girlfriend boyfriend. If you expect to move with him and live with him you must be married. Also it's no gurentee even to get spousal help with jobs as me being a spouse it has taken me 12 months to find a job and I HATE my job miss my old one but I supported my husband in his future. Learn as much as you can it's hard the first few years getting into the life style ever spouse has a different experience what one tells you of rainbows and unicorns another will tell you of hell and tourcher. Military life is hard and has a huge divorce rate just like police which I was. It takes strong willed spouses to fight for their marriage have consistent communication and loyalty. I don't want to scare you but I don't want to lie I like telling people the truth some people don't like that. But being a cop for 13 years I always got more cooperation with the true then smoke screen. Being a spouse will make you a stronger person or will make you fall aspart. If you marry him marry him because you two are madly in love because him being away 6-9 months will take a toll on you. Find a support group but try to stay out of the drama in the support group. Look I'll put it to you this was I am gay married to my husband for 3 years together for 7 and we have a daughter and it's tough, tougher then being a cop but I have to keep the family together for him and out daughter and a ton of spouses do it and some can't I want you to talk answers from everyone as we all have our own input own experiences and have a open mind. Now I will tell you this being a openly gay married couple I thought we have issues but no. Other families have been wonderful to me. My husbands CO has been great to him and me and has given his time off given him early premonition and more that's only because my husband is prolly one of the hardest working people I have ever known next to my father he always stays late to get the job done and does not slack because of his upbringing that was the hardest thing for me to get used to him working 4am to 7-8pm because he can't leave until all his work is done that's HIM it's his OCD i call it. You can do it but just always have the lines of communication open have we argued hell yes we are not perfect but when we have I tell him take your Ass to bed and talk to me when you had sleep lol then we are good. You can do this just read ask a shit ton of questions from everyone some people have been right on here some wrong and if I feel I smell BS being I am a spouse I go to my husbands ship outbudsmen and I get the answer from the horses mouth not to mention I am also good friends with the base commanders wife by complete accident but on a professional accident as I teach her son ( her sons a good kid but I don't like teaching I miss being a cop)

[lovelyblueily]

Thank you so much for your response I really enjoyed reading it! We do plan on getting married soon! Before his first orders hopefully. We are very much so in love. We would be getting married regardless of he was in the Navy or not. We talk about how it is going to be when he is deployed and such. We are a strong couple, so I am confident that even when things get rough we will work it out, because shoot, we both love each other too much to let something come between us. I am a little worried about not having a job though.. When he's deployed especially.. I dont want to work a part time job for the rest of my life but I cannot really afford college, maybe a few years at a trade school. But since he will not be staying in one place 'forever' it worries me that i may not be able to find the job I went/go to college for... 

[Michael]

Remember you can do school online and get a degree. The military will help you get schooling. It is hard getting a job I got one 6 months after we moved I hate my job but hey it's a job. It's about the love for my husband and our family. You can do it just follow your heart and take to many and weigh your options we all have different experiences but you can get help from the military to find work and schooling.