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[Navywife_Nuke]

My husband left 11 days ago and it is stillong making me an emotional wreck. I know it doesn't help that I am pregnant and have a toddler, but does anyone have any suggestions on how to be okay? It is mainly at night. I have been writing everyday, but cannot send them because I have not received the former letter yet. I have been doing projects and fun things with my son, but once night rolls around I just feel so alone. When will this feeling get better?

[Sunshine]

Hi, my name is Madeline and my husband left 5 days ago. We have a 5 year old boy and this April is our 10 year anniversary. I dropped of my husband a day before and the next day I was crying a river. It was very hard for me, because we would always be together. You know what has helped me? Thinking positively, especially with my little boy, he's at that age where he's asking questions about everything, and I can't let him see me down. Watch tv shows, Netflix. My husband and I never missed The Walking Dead on Sundays, but now since he's not here, doesn't mean I can't watch it hahaha. Play pretend. I pretend like he's at work, maybe he went hiking, he's sleeping. I truly wish you the best, because it's not an easy path we're going through and with our children ...oh lord! Hope this could help(:

[Sailorswife2716]

Hi! My husband graduated BC on November 14th, it was our first time being apart and we have been together almost 10 years and I thought I was going to be a wreck the entire time especially with a child. The first week was hardest and from there it went surprisingly well for both of us. Use this time as an opportunity to grow as an individual, wife, and parent. Keep busy which is easy when you have kids. Take things day by day. It's ok to cry.

We have a 2 year old. While he was at BC my husband missed his 2nd bday. That was tough but my husband recorded from videos for him to watch. Some days will be harder than others. Write your husband every day even if you don't have his address yet, write him. Let him know what you did that day but leave out stressful parts. Give him a feel of home, send lots of pictures, quotes, that will tremendously help. Join his PIR Facebook page once you find it the PIR date, it'll help to go through this with people counting down to the same date as you.

My husband didn't get to write me much because he was busy, before bootcamp he set some goals for himself to achieve. He acheieved every single thing he said he would and that made only receiving 3 letters totally worth it. This is my husbandS dream job and he finished bootcamp with being his division leader the entire time, and he also graduated as honor recruit. It sucks when you see everyone getting letters all the time, but I knew my husband and I knew he would if he could. I relied on the phone calls which I got one every 3 weeks and then after the I'm a sailor call I got one every day until PIR. Every division will be different though so that may not be the case for you. But hang in there it's all worth it in the end :)

Stay optimistic and positive. Embrace the fact that your new navy life is a rollercoaster of emotions. I used to be a planner, and need to know everything, and have anxiety, but I'll tell you that I've learned to just go with the flow. Have no expectations and always prepare yourself for different outcomes. This has made my marriage so much stronger and its continuing to, it has also made me stronger individually, I hope it does the same for you :)

[Sailorswife2716]

As far as nights go, I had a hard time sleeping well during BC, what helped me was just reading about the details of their day to day before bed every night. It gave me a sense of knowing what was going on. I also watched YouTube videos of the BC days, stuff like that.

This never gets easier, you just learn how to deal with it better with each passing day.