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My sailor has been deployed for about two months and I miss him greatly! I try to stay occupied but sometimes I find it so hard to get out of the house because I automatically panic if I were to miss his calls so I rather play it safe and stay in and its affecting me in the long run because I just sit there depressed waiting for his call (if I even get one). He tells me to get out and distract myself but its hard. And its even harder when no one close to me gets the whole long distance relationship. I just want to know how you all do it to keep busy and be there when he needs you and if anyone is in the same situation where you're surrounded by people who constantly ask "why are you doing this?" how do you do it? At first I could blow it off but now it just frustrates me!

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If he's telling you to get out, you should get out. If you don't have a cell phone, get one that you can pay by the minute and get yourself mobile. You aren't doing yourself or him any favors by allowing your health and mental state to deteriorate while he's gone. 

I can't tell you how to deal with the people because I'm honestly so much of an introvert that the few people I have in my circle understand and don't ask me what my motivation is. So, maybe an evaluation of the people you want to be close to you is in order? Or what you tell them? Start a journal just to get out of your own head? Just my $0.02 lady, ultimately, you have to do what is best for you. 

In the meantime, get out try something you have always wanted to try, or just go around the block. Babysteps. Doesn't have to be anything massive, just get out of your rut to start with. 

Thanks ladies that was a great help and I needed to hear it. I'm gonna definitely try to pick up a hobby so I don't just go from school to work and then do it all over the next day. Thank you all so much!

My sailor hasn't been deployed, he's just been at Officer Candidate School since July but I haven't seen him since then. The first 2 I hardly even got to talk to him because he was only allowed to send letters and they were sparse due to how busy they had them. I totally understand how you feel with missing your guy! It's really difficult, especially if you're used to being around them a lot. And I was in a very similar situation as you at first, really struggling with what to do without him around. I stayed in a lot as well the first couple of months and never wanted to miss getting a letter from him or a call or something. But I realized quickly how unhappy it was making me and knew I couldn't keep going like that. It made me worry too much and kept me down which then turned out bad when I actually could talk to my boyfriend because I would still be kind of upset or frustrated at how little we could talk. Plus it didn't help because my family didn't understand at all why he chose the military and why I was staying with him when we'd have a difficult relationship at such a young age. But when you love someone, you love them and you make it work. The people around you will have to accept that and respect your decision and if they don't, you gotta do what makes you happy. And get out and pick up some hobbies and stuff. I started working out more, traveling a little, and doing some more fun things. It has helped tremendously by keeping busy and having fun still. Obviously have a balance so you don't do things that he might get upset by but you have to do what will make you happy too, especially when he is not there.

Yeah I totally get you. The reason I rather not go out is because i become paranoid with the phone, so much that I don't even enjoy my time out. And you're right I can't fully enjoy the times I do get to talk to him because i also become frustrated with the limited phone call times. He tries his best to talk to me but i understand there's only so much they can do for us while they're out there. I also don't want him to worry over me, its like they said i need to be strong and independent now that he's out. I'm having the same trouble with family and friends where they are negative about our relationship because we too had difficult times when we were young. But its like you said when you love someone and you know they love you back you'll do what it takes to make it work, and i've known him for ten years already. Thank you so much for the advice i appreciate it! :)

Exactly! My close friend called me dumb. For choosing to be with him during this time. I honestly believe that i've been a great help for him throughout this deployment and he lets me know that every day, so how could I not be by his side through all of this. I get your aggravation. Just reading what your friend said to you kinda upsets me too. lol Way before I went through this i said "no way the military girlfriend life will not be for me." But hearing my bf talk about his job and the tone he has in his voice just lets me know he loves what he does. And want to support him. You're right no one knows what's it's like on this side.

Hey Valerie_hc. I'm new to this Navy gf life also. I don't write much on here but I'm also going through the same situation. I just wanted to let you know that your bf would not be upset if you got a new hobby or did anything to keep you happy and sane through this time lol. They know we have to do something to keep us from going crazy. Luckily my job keeps me moving and on my toes. I'm still in the bootcamp stage which is very hard for me because I'm use to seeing my bf all the time. Ppl that aren't in our situation really don't understand and I'm sorry your friends are not encouraging u or helping you keep yourself occupied but you have us on this site. I know I'm glad this site is up because it's very helpful. Those "why are u doing this" questions can be very frustrating. When I get those questions I give everybody the same answer. I'm doing it because he would do that same for me. I tell them when u find a man as good as mine that is worth keeping you'll understand why I'm doing it, and I leave it at that lol. To cut this short, your bf needs you to be strong for him and for yourself while he is away. You Got this Girl. We all in this together. I'll keep you and you bf in my prayers and Goodluck to you two.
Everything I've heard so far has really brought my spirits up.I rely on this site and a lot of the people on here because they get me lol And I love it. Thank you so much Amanda. I will pray for you and your bf as well :)
Np I'm glad I could help. I'm
Here if u want to talk or vent it whatever lol.


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