Help I am new and have so many questions. Please :)

[Jessica21:)]

Hi I am new to this whole new Navy life. If that's the way to put it. Lol my boyfriend is in bootcamp right now in Great Lakes. I will be seeing him soon. :) I just had a few questions maybe someone could help me. Since he doesn't have a lot of answers. Okay here I go. 1) when he graduates how will I know if I get to see him the next day? He is going to A-school in Pensacola so how soon does he leave? Some people say I could see him at the airport but idk if I will since my flight leaves at seven in morning. 2) when I go can I take his phone to him? Most people say that you can I just need to be sure. And is it true we will be able to communicate a lot more once he's in a school? 3) once I go see him for his graduation in A school can we come back home together? Because I know they give him some days before going to the date of his orders. 4) will he live at the school will he have roommates? Will he see a lot of girls? Lol after phase three is that when he can leave the school to maybe see me if I would go. 5) we have plan to get married after his graduation like when he comes back home. Because idk if we can get married wen he's in a school. Lol but will the navy still pay for the move or no? And will they give him information for housing because I plan to move with him. And where do we go to get added to his dependents and to have my id that people say you need as his wife. And is true that if he gets orders outside the US that I can't go with him if he's not in E4 or can I go since we will be married. I think those are all my questions for now. Sorry super long. :)

[Anti M]

Welcome.

1.  Usually, if their A school is not in Great Lakes, they fly out Saturday morning. They must take the Navy's bus to get to the airport.

2.  He can't take his cell phone back to RTC on Friday night, which is why most of them get it at the airport from loved ones.  Since you have such an early flight, you might not be able to arrange this easily.  You'll need to find his flight information when he gets it, and see what can be done.  You may have to mail it to him later.  

3.  He can communicate more often in A school, but he will not be allowed to have his phone with him when he is on duty or at the school itself.  Don't expect frequent or long calls, or long hours texting, or immediate replies. 

4. Most sailors do get a week to ten days after A school to take leave and go home.  If he is school over Christmas, they can also take leave then to go home.  Both trips are at his expense.  They earn leave at 2.5 days each month, it is paid vacation time. Liberty is normal tine off and is controlled by the school.

5.  He will live in a barracks room, and will have roommates.  

6.  Yes, there are a lot of women in the Navy.  Young, smart, physically fit women.  But you have to trust him or you are sunk right now.  He will always be working with women.  

7. When they reach phase three, yes, they can have overnight stays offbase on the weekends.  

8.  You can marry during A school, but you must go to him, and he must ask permission via special request chit.  They never say no unless you're underage or a foreign national.  He may be required to go to a class or counseling first.

9. When he is home on leave after A school, he will already have his orders.  If he is single, these will be unaccompanied orders, and your move will not be authorized by the Navy.  Meaning, no, they won't pay for it.  You must be married and have the paperwork in at least four weeks before he is issued orders.  But don't rush the marriage just for a move.  

10. He goes to PSD (personnel) to put you on his page two and enroll you in DEERS.  That office is generally the same place dependents get ID cards.  Yes, a spouse needs an ID card for everything.  It also acts as your medical insurance card.

11.  Of course he can get information on housing once he's married.  He applies for BAH, the housing allowance, and then may choose to lived in military housing (which may or may to be on the base itself) or rent privately.  In either case, housing office will be of assistance.

12. Yes, a sailor must be an E-4 or above to take dependents overseas.  This includes Hawaii.  There are plenty of married E-3s in Japan whose spouses must stay behind in the US.   

[Jessica21:)]

All your information helped me so much. Things I kinda knew but wasn't sure. Okay so I will try to see what he can do about his phone. But I thought we couldn't mail cell phones in the US. If not would he have to use phone cards? And okay I just wasn't sure if girls would be in the room. Lol I trust my honey our relationship is stronger then ever after these years we have been together. :) oh so when he's done with A school he has to pay for his ticket back home I would think they would pay it. So does that mean we can come back home home together. You say a week but could it be longer just depending on his orders. So I need to make sure he starts looking into housing while he's there. And where can we find a office to do the military id stuff for me and my daughter, okay so I was kinda right that they would move his but not ours. Would they give us some type of money back for us moving ourselves. What about my puppy? Can I take her? And do we drive in our car to wherever it is we go? What are the chances of his first orders being out of the states? So will need to show them our marriage license? One last question if I go over there to get married like you say were would we even go? Like what place? Lol thank you for taking the time to help me.

[Anti M]

You won't get any money for moving yourself, and yes, you have to move your car yourself.  You can take your dog, although some housing areas have rules about what pets are allowed.

Of course they will need the marriage license.  In preparation, you should be sure you have a certified copy of your birth certificate, your SSN card, and your daughter's birth certificate.  All certified copies from the state/county.  Make a file for such paperwork now, so you will always have it on hand.  He can take you to the nearest facility and get you added on/enrolled.  If there is any sort of base nearby, he can do it there.  HE has to do the initial paperwork, even with a power of attorney, some bases require the service member to get things started.  To find the closest facility, use something called the RAPID site locator.  Google it.  

[Jessica21:)]

Thank you so much. :) all this has truly helped. Have a great day! :)

[Lily_ter'swife]

I found this helpful info on moving! be sure your husband reads it too!! I highlighted some important info for me, but might also be helpful for you! its the move.mil pamphlet :)