Kind of have a question..?

[SavingGrace]

Hey everyone,

 

I joined this group a couple of weeks ago, I wasn't really sure what to say or do on here but here's my story. I met my sailor back around february though its kind of an awkward sort of long story. The short version is pretty much my best friend set us up over the internet. We emailed back and forth or a while then got to skyping a lot he came down the first time to visit for Easier & a few more times over the summer. He's stationed in Pensacola & I'm way southeast of their in Boca. We started dating in late May so its only been a few months that we've been together. I understood the distance & time would be a challenge since we have different schedules & over 600 miles in between ( plus he said something about me being out of bounds? I'm not sure what that means again). Lately He's been traveling a lot ( He's a Blue Angel) all over the country & I've been pretty occupied with work, classes, bible study, family etc so we don't get a lot of talking or skyping in and when we do its like its pretty simple conversations like "hows your day been " & then just crickets.

I guess what I'm trying to get at is our dilemma is, is that we really do care about each other & we've had communication problems before but how do you keep something going when conversation is lacking but its the key since there are the hindering factors of distance & time? I feel as though I make a big deal about it when we go days or weeks without talking but then I remember that he's working & its not a 9 to 5 job, sometimes they go all night if a jet is down. I just want to be more understanding but also I don't know how else to keep it going without communicating somehow.

I apologize if I rambled to much =]

[abuon18]

It's tough but you just need to find what works best for you. My fiance is in school still, so we get to talk pretty regularly but still not every day. When he was in boot camp I would make a list of things to write to him about, things that normally I would tell him about when I got home or that I would text him during the day. I have the memory span of a fly so writing it down helped me remember what I wanted to say to him and would fill in the gaps in my letters if I didn't have much to say that day. Maybe you could do something like that? It's hard sometimes to remember or think of things to talk about on the spot!

[Ari♥]

A tip, when you are tired of writing or you hear the crickets, you can watch a movie with him, thats what I do sometimes with my boyfriend, we search an internet movie www.cuevana.tv and we start a conversation by skype, you can be watching the movie and talking with him as if you were watching it together.  You have to be creative because with distance sometimes it becomes a little bit boring, don´t let the sparks die :D

 

 

 

[SavingGrace]

Thank you guys very much! I really appreciate the advice. =]

[Calgirlntx]

Your story sounds very familiar.  David and I meet six years ago. I was in the Middle East and he was in Japan. So talk about distance. The time difference and the miles was overwhelming at times. What I did during those times was cherished the moments we did talk, IM, video, email etc. I use to write down all the things I wanted to talk about and kept them available. That way we had lots to walk about.  The advice given by the other ladies are excellent suggestions.  Also, you may want to Google ideals for long-distance relationships.  I did that and some were to write letters, and plan trips together.  I would do that and the trips gave me something to be excited about.  In the end LDR’s aren’t always easy – but they can work. David and I have had our fair share of challenges; however, we survived and are getting married next year. Hang in there and Good Luck!

[SavingGrace]

Thank you very much, I will! & Congratulations!

[Anti M]

"Out of bounds" means past their liberty limit (300 miles).  He can't travel that far without permission or taking leave.