Looking for Understanding...

[flipflops91]

Hey Y'all,

Im brand new and just looking for a friend who can understand me. My sailor leaves in 6 days for boot camp and I am terrified. We have been together for almost 3 1/2 years. He is my first love and my only love. We are engaged and in the most perfect place with our relationship. My problem is he hates to see me emotional about him leaving and I cant truly express to him how I genuinly feel about his leaving. I am soo happy for him and will support him, don't get me wrong but I'm upset because he never officially asked me how I felt. He signed up and expected me to be happy.  Im 20 yrs old and we are just figuring ourselves out as young adults. Im prepared to support him in his career choice (because he does plan on doing this for the rest of his life) I just wish he could let me cry on his shoulder when I am feeling overwhelmed by being left home alone with his parents, our dog and our life.  He is my best friend and the only person who I can tell everything to. Im going to miss him like crazy and he doesnt understand why this seperation will be hard to endure.  We've been away from eachother for 6 weeks, while I was in Europe this summer and I know absence makes the heart grow fonder and reunions are like falling in love all over again, I get that. I just want him to get how this lifestyle he chose for us (which I accepted)  is gonna take some getting used to. I guess I just need someone to understand me and who better than the people who are going through the same thing.  So I guess all Im looking for from everyone is understanding and that person who knows it will be alright and will just say those words to me. Thanks!

[CUPCAKE]

P.S I love you- I understand how you feel. My boyfriend left October 4th and i was a wreck. It is extremely hard especially when he is in BC.I have been freaking out ever since my boyfriend left. This site is the best. Just know that once he is in BC he will be missing you. I have not gotten my first letter yet but everyone says i will cherish it.Maybe you should sit him down and tell him to listen and say everyone of us go through it

[Mary]

My fiance has been gone for 2 weeks today. In the beginning it is extremely hard, but you get use to him not being there. You find a routine, and instead of moping around you start to busy yourself. The closer graduation gets the more excited you are. You guys will make it through this, and so will you. You'll find out you're stronger than you think you are. So yes its sad but the pride you feel in the end is worth the couple of weeks of sadness.

[ALEX'S WIFEY]

P.s. I love you I DEF understand you....I am 22 married with a KIDDO. My hub and I have been together 6 yrs and married for 10 mnths. He left in september and I was feeling the same way you are but my hub and I talked about it and I am supporting him all the way but I put my feeling to the side when I saw that he was willing to stay home with us and now have his career...that made me realize he was really doing this for us! HUNNY everything will be fine he is going to protect our country and make a better life for YALL! Being a military spouse is a very hard job but we have to adjust to the life we are now apart of! You will miss him just like I miss my HUBBY but you have to keep your head up and hold everything Down while he is away. Keep busy while he is GON and time will fly by I promise I only have 2 more weeks to see my hubby.try to accomplish as many as your goals as you can while he is away. Then you could be proud of your love and yourself! Keep your head up chick and if u even need me just private message me <3

[Porsha]

This will probably be one of the hardest things that you do! My husband's PIR was last Friday :) We have been together for 7 years and married for 5 months. My advice is he probably doesn't feel the same way that you do right now because he is the one leaving, not the one being left. But I promise you that once he gets there EVERYTHING will change!!! I was shocked by my husbands letters! He will miss you more than you could ever imagine! Just support him, and write him everyday. I wrote my hubby a letter everyday and after I got his address I dropped a letter in the mail for him every single day that he was gone. He loved it, he said that my letters are what helped him push through it all. Writing is good for both of you! Its helps you stay connected so that you know whats going on with eachother(even if it is a week behind :)  ). Just stay positive! He will need you to be positive! The first 2 weeks are the toughest, but it does get easier! And when you see him after PIR and get to spend time with him all of the agony that you went through over the past 2 months won't matter anymore. It is the best experience ever and the amount of pride that you will feel is unreal! And after BC it gets alot easier. You can give them their cellphones and you will be able to talk to him everyday. It's awesome!! Just make the most of your time with him now . Best of luck!

[flipflops91]

thanks all of you...its hard being all alone and i appreciate knowing itll get easier and he'll understand a little better after he is gone...knowing to send him letters is good too, he has told me not to write him everyday but i think i want to anyway just because of all the good i hear it does...seriously thank you, this helps a lot :)

[CUPCAKE]

Once he is in boot camp he will cherish those letters