My boyfriend left for boot camp on 10/24...I am having a REALLY hard time :(

[Carrie19]

Hi!

My boyfriend just left for boot camp on 10/24, and I am missing him so much!  As soon as I wake up, I remember where he is at and that I won't hear from him in a long time.  I am so used to being in constant communication with each other so this is hitting me really hard.  I miss him so much it hurts!  Getting through the day right now without crying a lot is a pretty big challenge. Not being able to see him or talk to him is difficult.

 

I am so proud and excited for him, but I miss him more than anything!  Does anyone have any advice on how to get through these next 8 weeks?  I am staying really busy with pursuing my career goals, etc. but I feel like a HUGE part of my world has been stripped away.  I wrote him my first letter last night and will send it as soon as I get his address.  Any advice would be helpful!  Thanks!

[CUPCAKE]

I went through the same thing. My boyfriend left 10/04. It is very difficult for the first couple of days or weeks. I have to keep myself busy so i don't really think about it. But i write my boyfriend everyday and it helps to get everything out. I was told to write, make a goal list, do things to keep my mind busy. It really helps. There are days that are the hardest, trust me. When my boyfriends mom got the form letter and read to me what the back said I cried till i went to bed. We got the form letter about 10/16 and he wrote it and sent it 10/11. But I live in Colorado so it took longer. Now I am waiting on my first letter and it has been three weeks. It helps to have support groups. If you need to talk message me.

[Carrie19]

Thanks for the advice!  I found writing letters very helpful because it makes me feel closer to him...like I am talking  to him.  :) Keeping busy has been helping too! I keep reminding myself of what everyone has been saying here...write and keep busy! And it helps.  So, thank you!  I am waiting on my first letter too.  We just received his box yesterday.  Hey! I live in Colorado too! :D Message me if you ever need to talk as well.

[Absoltuekraze]

I would recommend more writing. If your'e used to being in constant communication, make this your new form of communication. It's the only communication you'll get for a while. Trust me it will make you feel better. Tell him about your day, the things that make you miss him, or just how much you love him. He'll appreciate it! And it will make you feel closer to him. I've heard from many people that the worst part of Boot is being cut off from the outside world. Letters from home are like a lifeline.

 

Oh, and one more thing, I wouldn't wait until you have the address to write more. I didn't get an address for a few weeks. I ended up sending a huge pack of letters and he was so excited when he got them! :]

 

The next few months will be hard for both of you, but it's worth it when you get to see each other again. Hang in there!

[Carrie19]

Thank you!  I took your advice and wrote him a letter last night telling him how much I love and miss him as well as how proud I am of everything he is doing.  This is hard, but it will totally be worth it!

[Carrie19]

Thanks!  I, too, cry myself to sleep every night.  I find the mornings and evenings the hardest.  I can't wait to get his first letter and phone call.  Then I will be crying over tears of happiness!  It is hard to get out and do things.  I have been wanting to stay isolated but I have been making myself go out with friends and stay busy.  This along with writing letters has helped. 

How do you find the division they are in?  Do I need to get his address first?

[flipflops91]

My boyfriend just left yesterday and im having a hard time to. I did spend a month and a half in europe this summer so i understand it seems like your never going to get through the months without him but you will and the moment you see his beautiful face again it will feel like no time has passed...letters are a must and definitly make you feel closer than you ever have before, im definitly here to if you need someone to talk to. maybe our boys will be in the same division :) and we can help eachother out! good luck with the letter writing!

[Carrie19]

Thank you!  Maybe they are in the same division! I have been writing a lot...I hope you are doing okay.  Message me if you need to talk, be heard, or anything! :)

[welshcorgi25]

Write him every day that really has helped me out a lot. My bf graduates next week on Friday the 4th and I can't wait to see him. The next time I will get to see him is on Christmas and I can't wait till then. Just keep busy and write letters. Ask his parents in a little over a week for his address they might have it. You might not get your first letter for 2-3 weeks. Also keep an eye out for the area code 847 it is a good chance it may be your sailor. I got two phone calls so far. I am waiting for the i am a sailor call now. It was hard going threw it but I made it threw. We are going to have to go threw this again but it is going to be flip flopped. I joined the navy when your bf went to boot camp. I might have saw him at meps. Go to this one sight on face book if you have an account. it is called U.S. Navy recruit training command. every Tuesday is trivia (I don't usually do that one) Wednesday is a wacky photo. If you are the first with the right answer you win a photo of your recruit's div and you can request your recruit to sit in front. I have not won one but you may be lucky. Wish you two luck!

[meagan5220]

I missed all but the last two. Working two jobs where I would get fired if I had my phone on me caused that :( but dont get too hung up on missing calls. It does suck but if you get to caught up on it you will just be miserable and you need to be super positive in your letters! :)

[Carrie19]

Thank you for all your advice!  I really like the point you made of putting yourself on a similar schedule, and I have started doing this.  I also have made a goal that I want to achieve in 8 weeks.  It has helped SO much! Thank you!

[Carrie19]

Oh! I am totally going to do the countdown thing! Cool idea!

[meagan5220]

I wrote my hubby novels I feel like lol! Everynight I wrote a letter and numbered it at the bottom, and doodled on it and at the end of every letter everynight I wrote a countdown... Im not gonna lie... I had like 5 lol one for when I would leave for his PIR, one for when I would get there, one for when it would start, one for when it would be over and I finally got to hug and kiss him (a peck ;) lol) but he loved that! I also sent him jokes, stuff from text from last night, FML, emails from an asshole, and questions. I would ask him random questions and he would ask me some too. It helped. Stay busy. I worked two jobs and went to school 18 hours. It helped a lot bc I was always tired lol. plus I worked retail and it was during holiday season. Goals like the other girls said are huge! and meeting ppl with the same PIR you are. I met one girl and found out her hubby was friends with my hubby! We are going to be stationed by each other early next year and so I already have a friend! Plus he has a friend! Be super positive with your letters it will help him! If I was having a bad day I wrote one filled with all the crap that had happened to me then threw it away and wrote one that was just positive. Most of all continue with your life. Make sure you have your own life and you have support to lean on. this is the best time to start branching out. Other wives get it the most bc they understand that when he is gone you need constant outside activity and when he is back you want alone time. If you constantly are wrapped up in him it makes it even harder when he is gone.