Sailor Recruit Leaves Tuesday...What Should I Expect?

[Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors]

When will I receive his first letter? What did you guys do when you sailor left? Does time go by slow? HELP!!! Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.

[maryquitecontrary (1131 M)]

I definitely recommend that you look through previous discussions - most, if not all, of these questions are there. This sites is a fabulous resource! First letters come anytime around the 2nd to 3rd week (sometimes later!). You (or his parents) will get a box with the clothes he was wearing when he arrived at BC, that usually takes a few days to a week. After that, you will get a 'form letter' that has his official address on it. That address is where you are going to send your letters to. Some people try and get the address from the recruiter before the form letter arrives but that isn't always correct. Best to start writing and wait to send them. Mine arrived on day 9.

 

As far as what you should do...stay BUSY! Keep yourself distracted. The busier you are the less you can be sad. The day to day will drag by, but all the sudden you will be getting ready to go to PIR. Good luck!

[Jasmine<3]

AW I remember asking this question. Well this is how it went for me. The first call went to his mom first day. Then week later I got my first call it was very short he didn't know how to use the calling card, (hint) you might want to clue him in on that. To make sure he knows how to use the phone card. I got my first letter about three weeks. They can only write on Sunday's at  first, and the letter usually come on the same day each week. At first I didn't write everyday, then I had so much to tell me and answer i just started writing everyday. Which help both of us so much. But it so funny before he left we both planned on only writhing one a week. I got five call all together his mom too. But the again his division was like one of the best so alot of the call were reward calls. Three is the usual. Yesss stay busy that a must I will help keep your mind off him.

[erinlynn87(7/289)]

Hey! Wanted to throw my 2cents in as well...I know what this feels like for sure! My fiance left on 7/11. I did not get the "i'm here and safe" call because he had his phone set to be suspended at midnight (i later found out that he tried to call me at exactly 12:04).

 

So, after that i got his box of belongings on Thursday (7/14). Then came the form letter on Saturday (7/16). Then I heard nothing until 7/29 I got a few letters. Then TODAY 8/1 i got an hour long phone call :)

 

Time is definitely going by faster now that I've had some communication with him. The first week or 2 were AWFUL. We've lived together for 4 years so it was a shock to be apart. I work 5 days a week so that helps pass the time. Only 30 days to go now! Good luck with everything!

[Sailor's gf (Ship 10 Div 261)]

Hey girl! Yay for your man! My sailor left on June 21 and graduates in 7 days! It's been pretty tough sometimes, but it also went by really fast. I'm not sure what you already know since you were in the navy so I'll just say it all! As the others said, they make a phone call when they arrive, which is usually to their mom. My boyfriend had promised to call his mom and then me but they literally barely have time for one phone call. Their box of civilian stuff along with a formal letter comes within the week, and then you'll have his address to write him! I started writing letters the day my SR left so I sent like 5 when I got his address. It means so much to them to get letters even if they can't send them back yet! The important thing is to stay busy, write often, and be supportive. The 45 minute phone call I got was amazingggg so TAKE YOUR PHONE EVERYWHERE! Around the 3 week mark you won't want to be far from your phone in case he calls you :) That's all I got haha