What do I need to do to get married?

[OceanGCN]

 I am not a hundred percent sure how to explain my situation, but I am going to give it my best shot.

   Let me start at the beginning. My fiance signed up for the Navy last April and as we were waiting for his background check we decided to get married. So we got engaged in October and tried to get married in December. Had it all planned out.
    So we went to see the recruiter to fill out papers so that we could get married. His recruiter was happy for us and wanted to help us out. Until I told him that I have two citizenship.( My mother being Brazilian and my dad American. So I am American and I am Brazilian. I have my mother's citizenship as well. But I have never worked or voted in Brazil. So I am pretty much American in that aspect.) The recruiter told that we had to wait to get married until my fiance was at least an E-3 rank. (Because he is going in as a Nuke. I guess they have pretty high security and that's why we had to wait.)
     I would like to know if there is anything I can do to help us get married soon. We were hoping to have a July wedding this year. He should be out of boot camp by then and in A school. Hopefully he will be an E-3. We are both new to this situation and I was hoping that maybe there was someone who could walk us through it. Or if there was a general place to ask my question and get some answers.
    Hopefully I made some kind of sense. Any kind of information or guidance would be very helpful. Thank you guys so much! I am trying my best to feel not lost and confused so anything really would be helpful. Thanks!

[Michael]

Well I can tell you this for FACT as my husband was Canadian and American and I am a American. So here is the real fact about the whole thing as we have gone through it. Having a E-1 or E3 has nothing to do with it. Yes it's true that nuke has Top security clearance and my husband was married to me for 4 months and had a green card was not even a American yet. It held him back from going into Nuke because he got his American citizenship in boot camp and had duel citizenship. My husband had to give his Canadian passport to the navy and he have to give up his Canadian citizenship. Now this is the same for the sailor and or spouse as I have been through this with navy legal and I very well versed in this. If he gets married now he will have to wait one whole year before going to Nuke school as my husband did because of top security clearance. Also if your not married by the time he is done with boot camp you will not be a dependent and will not be able to go with him to A school in South Carolina as he will live in the barracks and not in housing as you can't be with him. Being married they pay for the both of you two to move not being married they will only pay for him to move. Also just be ready Nuke school is hard as hell they have a 55-% roughly drop out fail rate. My husband had 46 people start the same time as him and there are only 19 left. They have inspections almost everyday test everyday its 100 times more strict then boot camp my husband tells me when he comes home just drained but there's a big reward in the end being a nuke. If your husband can wait a year to go into the nuke program I say do it there is no reason to rush my husband had to rush as he was 30 not a spring chicken but still beats all the 20 year olds in swimming and running because he just does not accept failure it's just him believe me I have had to deal with it but love him to death. Look at everything do what's best for the both of you. If I were you if there is a navy base close to you find the number for navy legal and go and see them to get the right true answer. Recruiters don't know everything and we all don't we only can go by our experiences. So call navy legal to get the real truthful upto date answer

[lizzylou191]

Can confirm (some) of this. Wife of someone in hubs division in bootcamp about 20 months ago said he had dual citizenship and had to declare one or the other. However, for spouses it has not affected myself and husband at all (I am dual and he is not). I am still a dual citizen and we were married when he was an E-2. Recruiters just don't like extra paperwork. Take care of it in A school, it's much more manageable and less red tape in my experience. The recruiter was just a jerk. 

[Lovelymom]

I did not know about this

[Anti M]

When your husband gets to nuke school, he needs to go talk to the nuke security officer about marrying.  NOT base security, don't make that mistake, but the officer who handles security clearances for the nukes at school.  Because you technically have foreign contacts, and technically are a foreign citizen yourself, this will be a factor.   I know this because my nephew is a nuke who nearly married an FN (foreign national), and he had to choose between the marriage or keeping his nuke school.   She was from a country which is an ally, and he still would have lost his clearance for marrying someone without a green card.  Your guy has to ask his security officer and his chain of command about your unique situation once he is at Goose Creek.  

Are you an American citizen?  That is a good first step.  Are you willing to give up your Brazilian citizenship?  That may be necessary.  

Your fiance is already going to be an E-3, all nukes are upon completion of boot camp.  This has noting to do with getting married.  The recruiter just doesn't want to lose a potential nuke quota.

Do not set a wedding date until he is in A school.  The Navy will set that for you.  He will not be given leave to go home and marry. You may need to settle for a courthouse marriage initially, and have a wedding later, when he can take leave after Power School (the second of the three schools nukes attend).

[Kristenz12]

Wait to set your wedding date. My fiancé just finished A school in Goose Creek. His graduation leave (10 days off) ended up being about 6 weeks after his actual graduation. Don't assume that they will get leave as soon as they graduate A school, because it isn't always the case. We waited for them to tell him the dates of his graduation leave and planned the wedding so it would fall within that 10 day period. I don't have any advice on the status of dual citizenship, but for the purposes of planning, don't schedule anything until they give him a date. We made that mistake and had to push our date back one month to accommodate his schedule. What I have learned so far in my short time as a milso, is that you have to be very flexible! Hope you get it figured out and good luck!!