what to do?

[mollybub]

Ladies, I am distraught. My SR and I spoke on the phone on Tuesday, and all he wanted was to come home. And then, when I received the letter he wrote and sent on Sunday, all he talks about is getting out of the Navy and being home with me every night. I have no idea what to do, especially since I can't call him up and talk about it... I have to say it all in a letter, and I'm not sure what to say. Because, obviously, I want him home with me more than anything in the world, but I want what's best for him too. We decided the Navy was best when he joined, but now he is telling me in his letter that he was wrong, that the Navy is wrong for him. He is so unhappy. 

I don't know what to do. I miss him and love him so much, and I am willing to do anything to be with him. As I've said, I have been planning to go to him during A school so we can get married and I can live on base with him when he gets his orders, and while he does want to do that, it seems that he wants to come home more than anything... he is regretting his decision to join the Navy. What can I say to him? How do I support him? Please help. I'm so worried about him...

[nish]

Same here... My spouse too wrote in letter that he might fail in swimming and i don't want him to loose his hope way before the graduation.So i kept on reminding him that he is a same strong guy whom i fell in love with and i never saw him failing or loosing hope.So i wrote a letter today with all encouragement and boosting his confidence. I really want him to pass. I can make out how you are feeling dear. I am feeling the same and there is emotions overflowing . Lets pray and hope that our guys pass the test and graduate during thanks giving

[nita]

I know how you feel my husband said the same thing to me while he was in bootcamp he hated it. But he mostly hated it because the people that were in his division were making it hard for everyone else. Tell him not to give up and no matter what he'll be able to get through it. In the end it'll all pay off, just continue to support him. My husband wanted to quit and come home too he said the same thing in the letters. I too worried and probably cried like a baby more than anything lol, but time eventually passed he graduated he was glad he didint give up and now we're in Florida! Im pretty sure your SR will feel the same in the end :)

[mollybub]

Thank you for sharing that with me! I have hope that the same will happen for my fiance, and tomorrow is a letter day for me - just hope there's one in the mailbox! Haha. And hopefully he will have more positive things to say in this letter... fingers crossed. But if I had a penny for every tear I've cried since my SR left, I would have quite a bit of money, lmao. I just have to remember that it's going to get better!

And I just hope that everything will work out, once he's graduated, and we will be able to get married and live together when he's stationed. Getting to that point is really all what's getting me through this right now!

[RebeccaProudWife]

My sister did the same thing when she was in BC. She called my mom and cried the whole time. She wanted to come home so badly but my mother told her to stay. My sister is so gald she did. She even wishes she stayed in longer.

I would tell him how proud of him you are. Reassure him that you are ok, even if you are not. (don't lie but search for the positive things to tell him)

I wrote to my husband and told him that I was proud of him for taking care of me (our future) by going into the Navy. He said that helped him to get on the plan for BC

[mollybub]

In every letter, I tell him how proud I am of him. And like you say, I don't lie, but I tell him I'm getting through this. One way or another, time is passing. Everything will work out. It's like a chant, in my head, haha.

I have said that to my fiance, as well, that I am proud of him for going into the Navy, to secure a future for him, for us, and our family to be. It seems to me, though, that it makes him feel worse... like it intimidates him. Man... such a whirlwind :/