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Comment by NavyWife10 on March 30, 2010 at 6:33pm

Hey tina(richies wifey) have you gotten a first check or bah in yet? I'm worried there's going to be a delay in those ?

Comment by NavyWife10 on March 30, 2010 at 6:32pm

This is the hardest thing I've ever done.. I had no idea how bad this would be.. I figured after the first few days- week, I would be better... but's it not getting easier.. it seems like it's only harder for me. Maybe after the first letter or phone call it will lift my spirits.. I sure hope so.. I've never wanted to hear his voice so bad in all of my life! Any supportive words, and or advice is greatly appreciated, God knows I need it... not only for me, but for my husband and daughter as well :-(

Comment by NavyWife10 on March 30, 2010 at 6:19pm

Thanks.. Tina. I was wondering about that.. So, I want to know, how in the world are you spouses out there handling this? I have been so upset everysince my husband has left. I feel sick to my stomach 24/7.. I don't know what to do.. I just want to hear his voice, and then, just knowing the fact that I can see him for three days after his PIR, I have to leave him for 8 more weeks, just KILLS me.. I don't know how I'm ever going to handle this ?! :-(

Comment by NavyWife10 on March 30, 2010 at 5:38pm

Speaking of military I.D.'s Will I be getting anything in the mail for my military I.D. ? And when does this come is that's the case? I'd like to have one before I went up for PIR just to avoid any hassle, we're staying at the Navy Lodge also....

Comment by MrsLindsey (Ship 09 Div 134) on March 30, 2010 at 2:53pm

Hear Hear for being independent women!! I always told my husband that I am proud to be an independent American woman (he was born/raised in another country). I was independent prior to his decision to enter the military and I think I strive to be more independent now that he is away. Other people just have to realize they most likely see you on your "down days" because everyone has their moments when they want to be coddled and cared for.

Comment by Aimee G on March 30, 2010 at 1:59pm

Gatorgirl- thanks for sharing that quote it helped me to keep looking forward. I’m having a rough day today :(

Sailor's Girl 13 - You are so right! It takes a very strong and independent woman to be able to be in the relationships that we have. I feel that this distance has brought my BF and I so much closer.

Comment by Cassandra Rose on March 30, 2010 at 12:40pm

Jenn- the same thing happened to my fiance when he went into MEPS! He ended up not being able to call me until he got back to his house and I remember those two days feeling like foooorever. Lesson #1 of the military: you have no control. Over anything. Haha. Whether you worry and make yourself sick over this or not, the outcome of his time at MEPS will be exactly the same as if you were to get a good night of sleep and feel completely perky and happy. So just take a deep breath, and try your hardest to relax and have a positive mental attitude. I promise, it makes a world of difference.

Comment by Cassandra Rose on March 30, 2010 at 12:34pm

PumpkinHead: I totally agree with you! It's sooo funny because the people who often say those types of things to me ("Are you sure you want to follow him around?" etc etc) are the types of people who are DEPENDENT on their significant others haha. I'm looking at them like, oh really? Because you don't spend every single day with your man? So you don't plan your entire day around his schedule? And I'M the one that's here without him, doing what I want to do to make myself happy in the meantime. I'M the one working towards my personal goals, doing my favorite activities, etc etc while he's away. I'm the one being strong for myself and for him- I'm the one growing up. And believe it or not you can have a life of your own if you're with a service member! I know it's shocking... but haha. It just so happens that our men have a different type of job. If their boyfriends/ fiances/ husbands moved around the country for business say with IBM or Apple or something it would all the sudden be acceptable. But once it's military people start being like "are you sure?" "you know if you're not with him you can have a life of your own." So weird.

Thank God I don't get this anymore now that we're actually engaged and getting married, but sooo funny how it's the dependent ones that wanna make cracks at us women who are being completely independent while our sailors are away.

Comment by Jennifer on March 30, 2010 at 12:27pm

So yesterday my bf headed off to MEPS..Unfortunately His cell phone quit working on the way up and it can't be fixed till he gets back home today...I'm so stressed out..Everything is up in the air right now and I know nothing...What goes on in these two days will change our lives forever...Its a really big decision with no turning back...Since he was gone yesterday I spent the evening with my best friend and we went to dinner...We went back to her house and I made a cake for my bf=] Its says Congrats Jordan with a sailboat and anchors on it haha..I came home last night in time to get to sleep but that didn't happen..I lay there and toss and turned for hours.. no lie...I just kept looking at his side of the bed and thinking "I'm going to have to get use to this"...An empty spot where he should be...I only slept between 1:30 and 3:30am and 5:30 and 6:30 am then got up for work..Only three hours of sleep...Not to mention the nauseous sick feeling in my stomach...I wish I knew if he got in and everything thats happening with him today while he at his physical...Ugh So many feelings running through me today...Sorry for rambling...Just don't know what to do with myself


Jenn

Comment by PumpkinHead on March 30, 2010 at 12:01pm

anna_mac, i agree with everything sailor'sGirl said. Through my bootcamp experience many people didnt understand what it was like and i constantly pushed their opinions to the side. You know how you feel, and so do the other woman on this site. Stay strong :)

My boyfriend graduated from BC this past friday and it was great seeing him. although i was upset to come home and have friends ask if i felt it was fair to wait so much, if i wanted to follow him in the future and more.. it really hurt me. yeah, waiting is hard and its lonely, but seeing them makes every tear worthwhile. And i hate that people look at it as im following him and not being independent. Im more independent now after not being able to talk, i feel our relationship is stronger after going through BC than many of those who get to see their loved ones everyday, and i feel if they were in our situations they would wait and follow their men as well. love isn't about convenience, it involves sacrifice (waiting) and commitment, among many other things. I dont see a problem with someday wanting to move where he goes and i dont see how it would make me not independent. Im still in school and plan on being financially independent and staying busy with my own interest just as i would if my bf wasnt in the navy. I will always love my sailor very much, and i will always support him regardless of how people view this type of relationship. maybe im just rambling now, but it just really hurt my feelings.

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