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Comment by Anti M on September 11, 2009 at 10:32am

Uh, Lindsey... if he has watch and you show up, he can potentially get in trouble. Mostly grumped at, but if you interfere with his duties, he pays the price. Most of all, he must not miss muster! And he may have duty in a secure area where you will not be allowed entry. What will you do then until he's off watch? You're a GF, you will have to be escorted the entire time you are on base, no wandering around on your own. Have you checked this out all the way through? The friend getting you on base must stay with you until your BF can escort you, but you cannot wander the base alone. Maybe he can find out your BF's duty schedule.

Ask him! A surprise is nice, but not when it gets him busted.

Comment by Anti M on August 28, 2009 at 5:01pm

I'm headed out, see y'all in a while. Going where there is no internet!

Comment by Anti M on August 28, 2009 at 2:18am

J have been doing this all my life. I was raised Navy, so it seemed normal to me for dad to leave. I moved away from my family with little thought. And I married Navy. even now he has a job which takes him away from home.

You learn how to do this one day at a time. You learn how to communicate, what to say to bring you closer not drive you apart. You learn that it is about sacrifice, and how that makes the time together so much richer. Women that have their men full time don't always appreciate the fullness of a good relationship. We rarely argue, because we have had so much time apart, we make the best of our daily lives and don't let petty BS bog us down.

You learn to be independent, to make the best of yourself for him and for yourself. You aren't the focus, your relationship is the main thing. Any girl who has to be catered to and reassured constantly isn't going to make a Navy wife. You will doubt yourself, doubt the long nights alone, but only briefly. Because in the long run it is all worth it. 22 years and I'm happy as happy can be.

And then there's the homecomings... a lifetime of honeymoons!

Comment by Anti M on August 27, 2009 at 1:33pm

LOL, I haven't been in Glakes since 1980~81.

Hey, Utah's near water, we have the Great Salt Lake.

And I'm maggiemayday on twitter, although once we head out, I'll be completely offline for over a week.

Comment by Anti M on August 27, 2009 at 1:26pm

Smoke, the Navy is what it is and you just have to deal with it as best you can. Eventually it brings more good than bad.

Look me up on couchsurfing.com, I'm listed as Anti M there. You can see my house... I live in Utah so you may have to travel for that coffee!

Comment by Anti M on August 27, 2009 at 11:23am

I have to go dye my hair purple now....

Comment by Anti M on August 27, 2009 at 11:23am

NYNG... sounds like he's on track. He should wait until he reports to prototype. He will have a different COC from A school, no need to repeat the paperwork. He can ask the timeline when he gets there.

Smoke, I feel awful for you because I know exactly how the Navy works.

I may pop in tomorrow, then I'm off to Burning Man and will be out of touch for a while.

Comment by Anti M on August 27, 2009 at 10:55am

Everyone, don't panic! Just make sure your sailor has checked things out from his end!

Comment by Anti M on August 27, 2009 at 10:50am

Yes, sailors in A school are supposed to ask permission to marry. It is rarely refused unless one of you is under 18. Technically, all sailors are supposed to inform their commands beforehand. I had to my first time, I was overseas and an E-5.. The next time I was an E-6 and married another E-6. We were between commands, so it wasn't as critical. We both had Top Secret clearances, so it wasn't much of an issue.

Prototype is still training. The nuke field is especially sensitive to changes in status. Yes, spouses are checked out by the FBI in conjunction with Homeland Security. You may not "go through" a full on security clearance, but they will take a look at who you are, criminal record, radical groups, citizenship. Mostly a matter of public record that anyone who knows how could look up. Some debt is okay.

Smoke, I think you're fine, ETs are less critical than nukes. I worry about nukes, there are so many rules. I can understand your frustration, the Navy isn't about easy, is it?

Comment by Anti M on August 27, 2009 at 9:30am

Courtney, from what I've read, Smoke's fiance is doing it the right way and going through the Navy for permission to get married. There's a lot of paperwork involved. They get really ticked off if the sailor just goes and gets married, especially in A school. Just going down to the JP can cost the sailor an A school ... why? If he has to have a security clearance, you have to be cleared also. I know some guys just go get married, but the Navy really, really hates that.

So Courtney, does your nuke have permission to marry? Because in Nuke school he CAN lose that security clearance. He may still be in the Navy, but he won't be a nuke anymore. Do it right, by the Navy's rules. If he says he doesn't need to? He is dead wrong. I've actually seen this happen in the past. I don't want you to worry, but I also don't want you to rush into marriage uninformed and potentially ruin his career.

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