This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors


Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3875
Latest Activity: Feb 3

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Help needed!!

Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies

Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue


Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue

Graduation coming up

Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue

Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!

Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply

Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other.  A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue

New here!

Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies

Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue

Fiancé Advice

Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies

My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue

Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??

Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue

Tags: moving, chicago, illinois, Lakes, Great

Hello Everyone!

Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply

Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue

POA to get a military i.d.

Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies

Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue

sending photos

Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies

My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19.  I just received his box but no form letter yet.  As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos.  I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue

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Comment by Anti M on January 20, 2009 at 8:27pm
Hey, I'm going on vacation tomorrow, I'll be out of touch for about a week. Have fun, be good, and think warm thoughts about your sailors!
Comment by Anti M on January 19, 2009 at 3:15pm
Ah, Britani, hang on. Take a long slow breath and try to relax.

Hey, sometimes our sailors forget how much communication means to the ones back at home. They get rushed or busy, maybe they're in a bad mood or have a headache ... you just never know. This is when the trust and love has to kick in, the knowledge that the two of you will be fine, even if today hurts.

Don't nag the guys, but when you do get that call or letter, thank them for it, for keeping you in their heart and on their mind.

Sending hugs to Britani, and anyone else who could use one!
Comment by Anti M on January 19, 2009 at 2:41pm
Look at the bright side .... every time you get back together you get to have a new mini-honeymoon. Or family reunion!
Comment by Anti M on January 16, 2009 at 4:34pm
LOL, my hubby is now a trucker, and he takes steel down to Vegas when the big casinos start building. He knows the name of every dancer at Coyote Ugly's and has introduced them all to me! They call him Moses because of his beard. It's cute, they're so beautiful and hot they're no threat to me, he's safe with them and they like him. Does that make sense? Or am I crazy to trust him with Vegas dancers? LOL. I'm crazy, he's a good guy. That's why all the girls tend to like him in that little sisterly way.
Comment by Anti M on January 15, 2009 at 9:09pm
Giget, don't worry. Most of the worst ports, like the Philippines, are closed. Most sailors are smart enough to stay away from those people. Besides, it's the bored Navy wives who are the worst threats! And yeah, I didn't let any of the skanks near my guy!
Comment by Anti M on January 15, 2009 at 8:24pm
I was already in when I met him, that was the easy part because I knew what being a sailor is like day to day. I only did nine years instead of the full 20 because we couldn't get stationed together.

On another topic, someone posted a link on another group I am on, it is the OPSEC training video some of the troops have to watch. Since most of the ladies here are not experienced Navy wives or sailors, I thought you might find it very informative.
Comment by Anti M on January 15, 2009 at 8:08pm
Yes, some of the married guys are seen as safe and can make friends with women ... but there's women out there, and I have met them, who like to hit on married guys to see if they can "get" them. It disgusts me because they are usually Navy wives whose husbands are away and who think they're hot stuff. Grrr. When I was dating hubby, and this was on Diego Garcia, military only and isolated, 2,000 men and 200 women, none of the girls were interested in him until he was taken. There were plenty of men to go around, single men, but no, they had to flirt with him. One even did while he and I were dancing! So your guy has to be strong for you, because there's a lot of troublemakers out there.

And I dated a couple sailors who I dropped fast; they were married and didn't bother to say so! That made me mad, but it didn't happen often.

I know this is a touchy subject, and I'd just like to say I hope I don't scare anyone if I get a little too honest.
Comment by Anti M on January 15, 2009 at 6:16pm
My husband had a ton of chances to cheat, he was sent to places like the Philippines and Thailand, and wow what goes on there! His buddies partied, and hung out with bar hostesses, and got massages, and would bring him along as the designated mostly sober watch their backs guy. Anyway, I simply had complete trust in him and it never was an issue. He knew I was a sailor too, and if he had opportunity, so did I. So we never crossed those lines.
Comment by Anti M on January 14, 2009 at 10:01pm
They can give you an approximate length of time for deployment ... it will change anyway, most likely. There's good thread about OPSEC (operational security) in the General Discussion forum. Can't hurt to understand the basic concept that the bad guys are on here too ... really, they are, and little bits of info add up.

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