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Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)
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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed. Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.
**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.
**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:
In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).
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**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED. Vaccinations still required.
**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.
RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021
Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.
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Help needed!!
Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue
advice!
Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies 0 Likes
Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue
Graduation coming up
Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies 0 Likes
Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue
Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!
Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply 0 Likes
Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other. A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue
New here!
Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue
Fiancé Advice
Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies 0 Likes
My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue
Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??
Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies 0 Likes
Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue
Hello Everyone!
Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply 1 Like
Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue
POA to get a military i.d.
Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies 3 Likes
Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue
sending photos
Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies 0 Likes
My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19. I just received his box but no form letter yet. As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos. I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue
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Comment by Anti M on December 29, 2019 at 1:59pm
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He definitely cannot live in the barracks if he begins to pull BAH. Even if you do not move there, they will make him move out once they catch on. Only during boot camp, A school, and sometimes when they are at isolated duty stations where dependents do not go do they get to double dip on BAH and a free barracks room. Now that he is at his new duty station, that all will change.
Of you read up on BAH, it is based on average rentals near the duty station. It is not intended to cover a mortgage. Honestly, we didn't consider using our VA loan until my husband retired, because we were flexible on where we would end up. You cannot use your VA eligibility to buy a home to rent out, and it is worth hanging onto until you are truly ready.
As a homeowner, I know there's much more to a house that just that mortgage payment. It's crazy how expensive it can be. Property usually appreciates, but not if you get stuck with paying for a home you cannot use, or get bad renters, or it sits empty.I would suggest a LOT of research before making that decision.
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Comment by Kristy on December 29, 2019 at 12:07am
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I think you should rent a place there first, and see how is the housing market in the area before you decide on any big decision
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Comment by Jarj on December 28, 2019 at 10:56pm
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Hi Allison,
Thank you for taking time to respond.
We are new military couple and are hoping to be first time home buyers so we really do not have any idea on what is about to happen. We are so excited and overwhelmed.
(at this point...I don't know what else to type) It's just a lot to think about in so little time since my husband might get deployed anytime soon.
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Comment by Allison on December 28, 2019 at 2:32pm
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Also, if you go with any other financing and think you may want to rent out the property, make sure you take a look at landlord tenant laws and stuff in your state. You may find it’s not worth the trouble at this point in your lives, but if you were to (or have to in some states) hire a property manager, you need to weigh out whether the rental value of your property is enough to cover the mortgage, mortgage insurance, insurance, HOA (if applicable), property tax (if applicable), maintenance, paying the property manager, etc.
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Ugh. I wrote out this whole organized thing for you, and then my phone glitched and deleted it. Anyway, long story short, I personally would not recommend buying a house right now, but I don’t know everything about your financial situation. Consider speaking with a mortgage broker that is not directly affiliated with a bank. If you find a loan with them, you have to pay them, but it’s SO worth their help. I can also give you more information if you like about my thoughts, but I was worried I was making it sound terrible and impossible, which it’s not at all haha. So I’ll leave it out unless you ask for more.
One important thing I want to mention though is that if you’re going to use the VA backed loan, you cannot rent out that property unless you also live there. The VA will only back financing for your primary residence. Also, depending on your state, it may impact how you file taxes to own property there. Virginia I know is one of them because my husband was a resident there before he got out and we moved to my home state, and I’m so glad we never bought any property there.
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@ Kristy, Thank you for your comment. My husband just graduated too. PIR 11/08.
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I’m thinking the thing as you too. We r also married and have 1 kid. But, as my research i don’t think he can stay in barracks for long time since he is getting his BAH. Also, i heard ppl say that housing in VA isn’t cheap. It will be more than whatever u rent. But, i still like the idea of investment into a house.
Sorry, my husband just graduated and i don’t have any advice for u.
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Hello fellow Navy Wives,
I need your advice!
My husband just got stationed in VA a week from today already. He is staying in barracks. I didn't move with him to VA because we wanted to get a house already.
We wanted to get a house already because we wanted to invest early while we can. (Thinking that properties could appreciate in value in the next years to come). And as much as possible we wanted to maximize the use of BAH by using it to pay mortgage.
With that, we may have a house but there might be less time he'd be able to go home because he still have to travel (from his duty station).
Another option is we buy a house, and if we plan to be together where he is stationed at, then we will rent out the house.
Anyone, please advice or share any pros and cons.
Thank you.
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Paige
Ummmm if he has you and your child on his page 2 living where you are living then no he can not use the BHA. The BHA is for the spouse and child
NOT him as if he was not married he would
Not be getting it. Second he can live on the barge free of charge my husband did before we moved out to Norfolk. So he is lying to you. His mother or any family member is NOT allowed to use his BHA it is only used for who ever is on his page two. Spouse and children unless a parent is listed that has severe medical Issues and you are taking care of them. If he is BSing you now you better nip that in the bit now. In the navy they look out for families if you have issues just contact his command or go to a navy base and speek with someone in deers and such
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Comment by Paige on December 8, 2019 at 12:02am
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Hi you all, I have a quick question.
My husband just got orders to be on a ship that is in the ship yards and he has an option to live on the barge but he doesn't want to.
He said that if he stays on the barge, the BAH will be taken. I live in another state with our child, and I use the BAH to support us and I'm under the impression that BAH is for spouse and dependents.
My husband thinks he can use BAH to qualify him and his mother and sibling who are not legal dependents for an apartment.
Can he use the BAH plus his base pay to get an apartment? & will BAH be taken away if he stays on the barge?
Thank you
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