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Comment by Anti M on July 21, 2017 at 7:29am

Welcome Timsgirl!  Be sure to join the boot camp group so you'll know about writing and phone calls when he is in basic.  If you have any questions, please ask.  Even a tiny detail may suddenly make things click for you if you're confused. The Navy doesn't always make sense.

Be sure you know the rating he signs for, so you can join those groups too when he goes to A school.  

Comment by TimsGirl on July 20, 2017 at 9:24pm

Hey guys, I'm new to this site. My boyfriend and I are now in the steps of doing paperwork for Meps. He should be going to MEPS by next month. This entire process has been exciting and also a bit confusing. I'm so grateful to have found this website. You guys have so much support & knowledge for one another. I'm happy to be a part of this website.

Comment by 427navy on July 13, 2017 at 2:29pm

Carly, Once you get his address, WRITE HIM EVERYDAY!! It helped my fiancé so much. They go through so many stressful situations and need support through it all. Keep your head up and be strong for your boyfriend! Time will fly by & before you know it he'll be graduating bootcamp!

Comment by Tleiiigh on July 13, 2017 at 1:30pm

Anyone used sandboxx before?

Comment by Michael on July 1, 2017 at 7:22pm

They can't deny a marriage but they can kick you out of the navy and or not give her or him the spouse a ID card and rights to a base or base housing if they are a felon or have been charged with a felony and anything domestic violence related. My neighbors wife was escorted off the base ID taken away after they found out she was arrested and was in jail 15 years ago for armed robbery and someone did not spot it. The military personnel was told two things when your contract is up you will be honoredbly discharged or you can divorce her if you want to re-enlist. She's not allows on any base any base housing or to receive any military benefits

Comment by Michael on July 1, 2017 at 7:16pm

Fiancé visa facts from immigration
This page provides information for U.S. citizens wishing to bring a foreign national fiancé(e) living abroad to the United States to marry.

If you plan to marry a foreign national outside the United States or your fiancé(e) is already residing legally in the United States, you do not need to file for a fiancé(e) visa. See the “Green Card” page.

Application Process

File Form I-129F, Petition for Alien Fiancé(e).
Eligibility Requirements

If you petition for a fiancé(e) visa, you must show that:

You (the petitioner) are a U.S. citizen.
You intend to marry within 90 days of your fiancé(e) entering the United States.
You and your fiancé(e) are both free to marry and any previous marriages must have been legally terminated by divorce, death, or annulment.
You met each other, in person, at least once within 2 years of filing your petition. There are two exceptions that require a waiver:
1. If the requirement to meet would violate strict and long-established customs of your or your fiancé(e)’s foreign culture or social practice.
2. If you prove that the requirement to meet would result in extreme hardship to you.
After the Fiancé(e) Visa is Issued

Once issued, the fiancé(e) visa (or K-1 nonimmigrant visa) allows your fiancé(e) to enter the United States for 90 days so that your marriage ceremony can take place. Once you marry, your spouse may apply for permanent residence and remain in the United States while USCIS processes the application. For additional information, see the “Green Card” section.

Treatment of I-129F petitions where the Department of State (DOS) refuses to issue the K-1 visa and returns the expired petition to USCIS.

Once USCIS receives a consular returned I-129F for K-1 classification from DOS and the petition has expired in accordance with 8 CFR214.2(k)(5), USCIS will allow the petition to remain expired and will not reaffirm or reopen the petition. Please note that this will not preclude the petitioner from filing another petition.

Children of Fiancé(e)s

If your fiancé(e) has a child (under 21 and unmarried), a K-2 nonimmigrant visa may be available to him or her. Be sure to include the names of your fiancé(e)’s children on your Form I-129F petition.

Permission to Work

After admission, your fiancé(e) may immediately apply for permission to work by filing a Form I-765, Application for Employment Authorization with the USCIS Service Center having jurisdiction over your place of residence. Any work authorization based on a nonimmigrant fiancé (e) visa would be valid for only 90 days after entry. However, your fiancé (e) would also be eligible to apply for an extended work authorization at the same time as he or she files for permanent residence. In this case, your fiancé(e) would file Form I-765 together with Form I-485 as soon as you marry.

What happens if we do not marry within 90 days?

Fiancé(e) status automatically expires after 90 days. It cannot be extended. Your fiancé(e) should leave the United States at the end of the 90 days if you do not marry. If your fiancé(e) does not depart, he or she will be in violation of U.S. immigration law. This may result in removal (deportation) and/or could affect future eligibility for U.S. immigration benefits.

We want to make plans for our wedding. How long will this process take?

Each case is different, please check the current processing times for the I-129F petition, see the “Check Processing Times” page. We process fiancé(e) petitions in the order we receive them. Once we complete our processing, your approved petition is then forwarded to the National Visa Center (NVC). The NVC will then send the petition to the U.S. Embassy or consulate, which will need time to process your fiancé(e) for a visa.

hope this helps

Comment by NavyGF on July 1, 2017 at 2:45pm

Hi there! Oh, that's nice. How was the journey of your relationship during deployments?

That's true, but I am alone here. My family are in Spain, since I'm not fluent in spanish, I went here in UK. And you know how things are when you're alone. I've got no friends too as I just moved last june 2016. To be honest, now that I think about it, i don't know why I'm rushing either. I feel so bad now, we had an argument about it last night and I was drunk. Ugh, the things I do is maddening. I must be desperate to get out of here and get him.

Comment by NavyGF on July 1, 2017 at 2:02pm

Thank you guys. I guess he's just not ready. I'm 23 with a full time job, but I'm not a US citizen yet. I visited him before he went into bootcamp (im from UK) so I think we're on the safe side with regards fiance visa. I just dont know, it's turning me crazy! Do you guys see the point of waiting 2 years given that we're in a long distance relationship? I'd understand if im in the US also, but I just really want us to be together. He says he got my point but it's forbidden so he's not considering the idea yet. Can you help me sort my mind guys, please? I'm sorry. Maybe I'm the one who don't understand. Sigh.

Comment by Anti M on July 1, 2017 at 9:58am

SSS28, abuon18 is correct, the Navy cannot forbid a legal marriage.  In A school, the student sailors are supposed to ask permission, but that is primarily to screen for fraudulent marriages for benefits and money, and to check for security risks.  Otherwise, there is nothing which says your sailor cannot marry for two years. His instructors cannot deny the request chit without a written explanation, and an agreement all the way up the chain of command.

One of his instructors (not RDCs, those are boot camp only) probably has had a bad experience, or has seen too many A school marriages crash and burn.  It is common advice to "wait until after deployment".  But no, the Navy cannot forbid him from marrying.  Nothing wrong with waiting a bit, either.  Perhaps he isn't ready for the big step without knowing what his first duty station will be like.  That's sensible and completely normal.

I only saw one marriage chit disapproved, and that was overseas and the bride was underage.  I know, because I was the one who disapproved it.  She couldn't get a parental signature, so it wouldn't have been a legal marriage.  I couldn't say yes to the chit!

Comment by abuon18 on July 1, 2017 at 8:39am

SSS28, when they are in A school, they have to submit paperwork (called a "chit") to get married. It does have to go through their chain of command and be approved, and it can be denied. Sometimes they'll be required to go to classes also. USUALLY when their higher ups tell them they are not allowed to get married, it is because 1)they don't want to deal with paperwork 2)they have seen many young Sailors get married during A school and then those marriages fail, and that is messy 3) depending on the A school, some of the instructors DO try to discourage marriage during A and C school because they feel it can be distracting to their studies. They cannot be banned from marrying though, and generally they will not be denied if they submit a chit to marry unless for some reason he has a certain security clearance - for example, if you were not a US citizen, they may deny his chit to marry you while he's in A school or require a more in-depth interview with him - or his command has serious reasons to doubt the marriage. Even then, if his chit is denied, he can still get married, as it is a legal right in the US, and deal with the consequences afterwards (though I very very strongly do not recommend that). Most often, when someone like an instructor is discouraging marriage it's usually from their own bad experience or from years of watching others make bad choices. The easiest thing for them to do to not have to deal with it is to just tell the Sailors it's not allowed rather then try to encourage them to wait.

Now, I do not know your boyfriend's unique situation, his A school, etc so there could be certain rules and restrictions for each A school that I'm not aware of. This is just a general overview of my experience. The best thing for your bf to do is to talk to someone else besides that instructor for information, someone else in his chain of command.

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