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Comment by NavyGF on July 1, 2017 at 8:20am

Hi all. Is it normal for the higher ups (RDC maybe?) to forbid sailors to get married? My boyfriend is currently at A-school in Meridian as a  logistic specialist, his pay grade is E3. He mentioned that he is marine based, not sure if that matters here but yeah. He said that he could only get married after 2 years. Is that true, and even possible to have an order like that? 

Comment by Anti M on June 30, 2017 at 9:56am

Tiffany, you are an adult, but yes, 19 can be young to marry.  Much depends on you and your sailor.  Why choose to marry now?  Is it simply to be together?  I know the financial benefits are enticing.  Are you working, or in college?  Have you run a household before?  There is nothing wrong with a longer engagement while you gather your personal resources.

I had the chance to marry at 18.  Personally I am glad I did not, because I had a lot of personal growth to do then.   Yes, it does work for some couples, but usually they've been together for some time and are already pretty self-sufficient.

Comment by Tiffany22 on June 29, 2017 at 9:39pm

hello I need advice. My Boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married soon while hes in A school but I dont think my parents would be so found of me marrying at 19 !

Comment by abuon18 on June 28, 2017 at 6:16am

Paige, there are lots of Facebook groups for Norfolk/Hampton Roads military spouses and people are always posting in them about wanting to get together especially for play dates! As Allison mentioned gwt on your FRG's mailing list and/or Facebook page. FRG's are command specific, i.e. the FRG I am a part of is for the ship my husband is on, there is not one for all of Norfolk. Usually just searching your spouse's command + FRG will bring it up in Facebook. My FRG is always posting lots of different family friendly (and usually free) activities that are happening in the area. Also I recommend checking out meetup.com. You can join groups with interests similar to yours and attend any of the meetups they schedule. It's free to join but some groups charge a fee to become a member, so be wary of those. I only join the free ones! They have things like book clubs, coffee hour, exercise groups, pet groups, lots of groups for kiddo play dates, and pretty much any interest you can imagine!

Comment by Michael on June 28, 2017 at 6:03am

Paige
There is so much to do at Norfolk it's nuts go to the MWR. There is a huge party coming up this weekend since it's norfolks 100 anniversary for being a navy base it's gonna be huge. Also each base has a Facebook page. Dammnexk, little creek, fort story, oceans,Langley and. Norfolk. You have to be pro active. There is so much to do here it's nuts. They have supper groups for spouses when the other half is at sea just don't get caught up in the drama let me tell you there is drama

Comment by Allison on June 28, 2017 at 12:44am

Hi Paige! There should be a compass team in Norfolk, which will be like a crash course in Navy life. I highly recommend it no matter how long you've been a military spouse, it's a great networking opportunity and there's always something new to learn. For social gatherings, families are always invited to FRG activities. They usually have a Facebook group or an email list you can get on. The MWR also puts on many trips and activities, and they usually have tons of kid oriented stuff too. They should have an office on base you can visit, and they should also have an emailed newsletter or text service. Sometimes the USO will also host events for families. I hope that gives you some places to start, I am not super familiar with Norfolk, but these are resources that are available at most Naval bases, their size and activity level can vary, but it is still their function. I have heard rumors about more specific events and resources in Norfolk, but I'll let someone else here that is more familiar or who is part of the FRG or MWR when you get in touch with them direct you, so we don't have a blind leading the blind situation here haha.

Comment by Paige on June 27, 2017 at 5:41pm

Hi you all, my Husband and I are new to Norfolk and the base, are their any social gatherings we can go to, like with other Navy families. I have a toddler so meeting other Navy wives especially with kids would be great. Thank you!

Comment by TieranyC on June 18, 2017 at 4:44pm

Thanks all!

Comment by Allison on June 18, 2017 at 12:13pm

Oh, I missed that. That seems weird then…but to answer your other question TieranyC, if the orders are accompanied, you can move down with him anytime once he has detached from his current command unless you get DLA upfront or talk to transportation. However, the resources available to help you can vary by situation and command, so it's good to discuss the options. Don't forget you can always reach out to your ombudsman or the ombudsman for your next command. If you don't know who they are, try asking in the local military wives group on Facebook, if you're in Great Lakes it is the GLAM Wives, or having your spouse ask around. Ombudsman have each other's emails, so you can ask for one to put you in touch with another. I recommend this because the ombudsman at your next command will be able to tell you or ask for you what the circumstances there are that you can't move right away and help you figure out how things like house hunting leave will work in this situation for example, and your local ombudsman will be able to put you in touch with the people in transportation and such to help you understand your options for when and how you can move. Also, keep your receipts when you do move! If you choose to be reimbursed, you'll need some of them, and anything that is not reimbursed can be claimed during taxes.

Comment by Anti M on June 18, 2017 at 8:27am

He's PACT, no C school.

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