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Keisha

Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3872
Latest Activity: Feb 6

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Help needed!!

Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies

Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue

advice!

Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue

Graduation coming up

Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue

Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!

Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply

Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other.  A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue

New here!

Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies

Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue

Fiancé Advice

Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies

My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue

Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??

Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue

Tags: moving, chicago, illinois, Lakes, Great

Hello Everyone!

Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply

Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue

POA to get a military i.d.

Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies

Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue

sending photos

Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies

My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19.  I just received his box but no form letter yet.  As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos.  I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue

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Comment by Allison on June 17, 2017 at 10:29am
TieranyC, if he's going to a short C school, they may send him there for a couple months, but then his actual orders might be for somewhere else. It should specify on the orders where you are authorized to go. The only other thing I could think of is if there is a long wait list for housing, the sponsor may be recommending you don't move until your spouse has a house there for you, so you can avoid long and expensive hotel stays, but if your plan is to live off base, that shouldn't be an issue.
Comment by Anti M on June 16, 2017 at 5:47pm

I don't know why you could not go right away, unless his orders are overseas.  The Navy usually prefers dependents travel concurrent with the military member.  Where are the orders to? You can PM me if you don't want to say, but that is not an opsec violation.  Just the base area is okay, if there's a ship involved, you don't have to say about that.

Comment by TieranyC on June 16, 2017 at 12:42pm

We got our orders. My hubby will be in A School a few more weeks. He got an email from his sponsor that sounded like I wouldn't be able to move with him right away.. Does anyone know anything about this? Also, if we live off base, I can move there at any time, right..? 

Comment by Michael on June 3, 2017 at 7:15pm
Ok cool :)
Comment by abuon18 on June 3, 2017 at 6:59pm
Michael, yes she would receive her temp green card after their application has been filed, they've had their immigration interviews and been approved & yes that length of time can vary for each couple. But after it's approved, her visa will become a temp green card allowing her to live & work in the US for 2 years. Since your husband joined the Navy I understand he became a citizen much quicker than that, but since she is not the service member she wouldn't be granted citizenship like your husband was. So before her green card expires (before the 2 years) they would have to apply for a permanent green card so she can stay, and that permanent green card is NOT the same as American citizenship. Sorry if I was unclear before, I was typing on my phone so trying to condense.
Comment by Michael on June 3, 2017 at 6:36pm
Abuon18 my husband did not have a temporary green card he was given a visa after we were married then given a temporary green card 9 months later after 3 interviews with immigration. Each case is different that's how it was for us. Then he became a citizen with-in a year because he joined the military from the date of our marriage but a citizen week 5 in boot camp.
Comment by abuon18 on June 3, 2017 at 6:15pm
Okay I understand. Being married will not affect his chances of going overseas - in fact, it will be easier for the two of you if you are married and he gets overseas orders than if he gets overseas orders and then you get married. It will bw much more difficult for you to move to where ever he is stationed if you get married after, unless he means to wait until he gets home from those orders.

If you get married, yes you would be allowed to live in the US on a temporary green card for 2 years. After that you would have to apply for your permanent green card.... that's completely different from citizenship though. Again, I am not sure what additional requirements the Navy may have for you, since he likely has been approved for certain security clearances, etc.
Comment by Michael on June 3, 2017 at 6:13pm
SSS28 and just cause you married a US citizen does not give you the right to be here. You must be granted permission just like in Australia and the U.K. My husband was Canadian and they would not grant me to live there as my degree in Law would not bennifit there country so that's why we came here and the US granted it to him because of Canada did to me.
Comment by Michael on June 3, 2017 at 6:11pm
SSS28
Comment by Michael on June 3, 2017 at 6:10pm
Abuon18 is very correct SSS28 with all she says. There is zero rhyme of reason on how you get selected to go over seas. Now in two years there is a possibility he would be a E4. But you have to think in your head I hate to say this does he want to marry you or be a sailor. Since it's so important for him to go overseas. You also have to remember that being a navy spouse you come second to EVERYTHING navy is first on everything. A lot of navy spouses have issue with it and you have to find a way to have a happy medium, like a lot of navy spouses do. If your boyfriend has no degree he will be a E1 maybe E 2 with in a year E4 like I said can be 2-4 years if he passes the test because a lot do fail the test and they wait sometimes 6-8 months to be a E4 once they pass I don't know why maybe someone else knows. I just know my husbands best friend finally passed the test on the 3rd try and she will get her rank in October this year. When you are on a fiancé visa you must be married in 6 months I believe it is then your on another visa I don't remember what it is but that website I sent you will tell you because it will take you up to a year or longer to get a green card. You will get a work permit before your green card usually. Just knowing from my husbands past and dealing with my mother in law now getting her a green card as we are sponsors for her. Him going overseas he has to be attached to a overseas ship or medical facilities if he's in the medical field I could be wrong AntiM may know a bit more then me as she is and has the experience in this. But my real thinking is this him being overseas is more important then the woman he loves??? To me it does not sound right. I work on base in a child care facility and one of the girls I work with is from the Philippines and her husband is in the Navy and a E3 she was sent back from Japan because he married her and lives in Virginia now because he does not make enough to support his family with a E3 status so it can happen if he were to still marry you overseas what are his true intentions and interest is what you need to know. All I can say is good luck with it all.
 

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