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Comment by Anti M on May 30, 2017 at 9:37am

Ellek73 ... hang in there.  It is difficult enough to be apart, adding a sense of guilt when missing a visit makes it all that much harder.  Try not to beat yourself up!

He is reporting to his first duty station. PCS is Permanent Change of Station, so some say "PCSing".

Comment by Ellek73 on May 30, 2017 at 1:14am

Thank you DieselLady! I really appreciate it! I'm working on keeping my head up!

Comment by DieselLady on May 30, 2017 at 12:59am

Ellek732. You're not alone! My husband has been in for almost 2 years and I am finally joining him this week. We haven't been able to spend much time at all together due to me being in school and deployment and everything. Keep your head up! Things get better.

Comment by Ellek73 on May 30, 2017 at 12:54am

I hate to jump in here and change the subject but I'm just looking for a little support and encouragement tonight. I'm still relatively new to all of this. My sailor (boyfriend) has only been graduated from boot camp since the end of March and just graduated A school May 16th. He was able to go home to visit his family afterward which was wonderful because they were unable to make it to his graduations and hadn't sen him since he left for boot camp. I am a traveling nurse in Idaho at the moment. It was going to cost him $1,500 to re route his flight to come visit me alone. I totally understood and told him not to worry about it. I know it really upset him that he was not able to come see so I've tried really hard not to make him feel worse about it. My contract here is ending this week and I'm still trying to figure out what is next for me. Between moving out of my apartment today and trying to figure out my own plans I know it makes all the stuff with missing him harder. Tomorrow morning he flies out to his first base (I'm not really sure how to refer to it? his first orders?) and I don't know why but its hitting me hard tonights. Maybe its just because I'm not 100% about everything that happens next or when I will see him next. Anywho sorry for rambling I could just use some positive thoughts tonight. 

Comment by Anti M on May 29, 2017 at 11:43pm

FYI, Micheal is a guy.  His husband. 

Comment by MLB123 on May 29, 2017 at 9:18pm

Another example of different circumstances. My SR went to Great Lakes of 4/4/17 with a scheduled PIR of 6/2/17. I got the "I'm here" call, one 20 minute call, and two 5 minute calls. Waiting for the "I'm a Sailor" call. :)

Comment by Allison on May 29, 2017 at 9:08pm

AnchoredbyTheSoul, I'm sorry, and Michael, I am sorry to you as well. I do agree with AntiM that maybe sometimes we are typing as we speak, and it comes across wrong, and I recognize I could've used more tact myself in addressing the issue.
Anyway, AnchoredbyTheSoul, I can feel for you somewhat, my husband and I had dealt with years of seperation but still managed to talk every day, so bootcamp was a very difficult time for us. I tried my best to learn about everything I knew he was learning about, so I could keep up and ask questions when he called. It really helped me feel connected to him even though I wasn't with him or talking to him because I knew he was learning the same stuff. Now that I've been, I know there's a great resource called the Blue Jacket Manual, and you can find them pretty cheap on amazon since there's so many copies. It is the same as one of the books they are issued in bootcamp. As far as feeling alone and family troubles, I can somewhat relate, although under different circumstances of course. Feel free to message me any time if you want to talk, I don't always reply right away, but I am happy to message back and forth.

Comment by Anti M on May 29, 2017 at 8:44pm

Anchored, being apart is difficult indeed, especially with so many unknown factors.  However, you are likely stronger than you know, it sounds as if you have a handle on this.  Are you in the boot camp group also?  It is good to have different people to lend support.  If you are on Reddit, there is 

https://www.reddit.com/r/USMilitarySO/

While that is all branches, it is also a good place to vent and get some support.  If I come across other resources, I will post them for everyone.

I've not seen so much activity in one day on here for a long time. I am a little impressed with the passion, but dismayed at the name calling.  I have been accused of being mean or rude now and then myself, because I have a concise style and sometimes do not pull punches.  I do try to be gentle, and will readily admit when I am wrong (LOL, I try, I really try).  I find some people write as if they were speaking, and sometimes the meaning of a post gets a little lost.  

We are all here for support.  I must admit when someone posts something which is flat wrong, I'll jump in, but it is frustrating.  Some spouses have very unique situations, and their viewpoints throw off the advice.  

Oh, btw, there are indeed about 100 phones at the phonebank.  That's a fact.  How many work, and work well, all on the same day is a matter of debate.  Basically, enough phones for one division at a time.  Each Training Group has several divisions, and there are several training groups.  The math means there are not many opportunities for phone calls.  Be prepared, plan for the worst, hope for the best.  It is about all you can do.

If anyone is wondering, yes, I was in the Navy, but I went to boot camp in Orlando.  My father was a Masterchief, my husband was also Navy, and my nephew and acquired kids are currently active duty.  Technically I am still associated with the Navy as my husband is a retiree, so I still have the ID card, am still on Tricare, and still deal with DFAS and the VA. Yes, I can be something of a know it all.    

Comment by AnchoredbytheSoul on May 29, 2017 at 8:00pm

I work in medical and can tell you that not every patient has the exact same outcome or treatment plan. So I am a big girl and realize that I may not get to talk to my wife nor will I receive a ton of letters. I know she is busy as is all of your spouses were or are. Mine is just like Michael. She has entered in at a late age but more fit and more drive than any 20 year old male or female. She is determined and when she puts her mind to it she focuses on the job at hand and leaves everything else up to me. We have been friends for 13 years and dated for 4 years. I know she kicking butt, but I am lonely here at home with no one to talk to about this. Her family wants nothing to do with me and I lost my family when I came out. So I truly am all alone. I do not like seeing all of you fight and argue. I know it is hard but everything each one of you says has truth to it because that was your experience. I have not gone 1 day in 13 years without talking to my wife. I am all alone, worried, and planning our wedding and my move to IL. So the fights are genuine I get that but we are all adults and we are all suffering in our own ways. I just want someone to vent to.

Comment by DieselLady on May 29, 2017 at 7:54pm

Ladies! Be kind and civilized!

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