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Comment by Allison on May 29, 2017 at 3:25pm

Some people don't know that not every sailor gets an hour to talk. My husband called me every Sunday for almost an hour since his first week. I was very lucky, and I wouldn't know that wasn't normal if I hadn't gotten on this site or gone myself. If a friend had asked me over coffee one day before I knew, I would say their recruit would be calling all the time not realizing that's not true. You may be trying to give the truth, by not everyone knows that same truth because they haven't had 11 family members go to basic. They are just trying to help however they can and be supportive, which is the point of this site, there's no need to "lol" or tell them not to say something. You could just say "in my experience…" or "while (username) has good advice, here are some other things that can impact the situation." Honestly, this isn't the first time you've been extremely rude in your replies. It's fine if you want to give vague answers and keep people from panic, getting their hopes up, or whatever, but you really need to work on how you communicate your experiences on the forum and how you interact with others. There's no need for all the extra, everyone is sharing their experience, and you can share yours and walk away without mocking others or saying they're wrong just because things were different for them and they were trying to help.

Comment by abuon18 on May 29, 2017 at 12:50pm

Michael, there is no reason to be so rude in your responses. Everyone has a different experience and it does not mean one is "right" and someone else's is "wrong". People come here for support and advice, they ask questions because they are new to this lifestyle and don't know. Some recruits DO get an hour or more for their "I'm a Sailor" phone call - my husband did. This is supposed to be a supportive site where people can find information from those of us who have already been in their shoes. Please remember that at one point you had the same questions and were here looking for help and advice and answers too when you are offering your advice to others.

Comment by TieranyC on May 29, 2017 at 10:49am

Thank you!

Comment by Anti M on May 29, 2017 at 10:43am

@TiernyC ... whether you get to move with him will depend on how his orders are written, and where he will be stationed.  I would say "probably yes" in your case, without knowing the details.  He will find out during his training after boot camp.

Comment by Allison on May 29, 2017 at 9:46am

AnchoredbytheSoul it is not unusual to not hear from your recruit the first couple weeks, or never get a phone call, and it's really hard, but the best thing is to keep your ringer on as loud as it can go and then just focus on a project like the move. Staying busy will help the time pass a little more quickly. You can also be writing letters to her and keep them in a pile until you do have her address. Make sure the post office has your forwarding address too just in case. You can do it! While it's different for everyone, if she's in week two or three, there's a good chance she's learned how to make her rack and store her items properly, learned how to form up and march, standing 2-4 hours of watch a day, and has either had or is about to have her first test, which covers a lot of basics like the chain of command, safety protocols, and ship/aircraft identification. Week four is usually hell week, where they tend to get up earlier and go to bed later, take a big test, and get tons of info all at once. I hope it helps to have an idea of what she might be doing. Good luck, and we're always here to help.

Comment by AnchoredbytheSoul on May 29, 2017 at 9:02am

She has a long A school in Chi town. I am originally from central so it makes sense for me to move home and I am female :)

Comment by AnchoredbytheSoul on May 29, 2017 at 5:17am

My wife just went in to BC. Her PIR is July 14th. I have not heard from her in 2 weeks. She sent the letter and boxes to her family because I am in the middle of moving back to IL. However I still have not heard from her which is worrying me to say the least. How did you all get through this? When should I start receiving letters or even a phone call?

Comment by TieranyC on May 28, 2017 at 11:00pm

School/Job training is only 10 days. So I am talking about when he comes home to move..

Comment by TieranyC on May 27, 2017 at 9:51pm

My husband is graduating soon. BC is only 10 days. Just curious... when he comes home to move, will I be able to go with him then? I'm sure I will find out soon but I'm eager to know if I have to stay behind or can go right when he goes.

Comment by newnavywife on May 24, 2017 at 9:40am

Well, my husband left for boot camp yesterday!  He had his cell so we were able to talk while he was at the airport in Chicago. I didn't get much sleep the two nights before, so the last text I sent was telling him that I might pass out but had my phone next to me for the "I'm here in Great Lakes" call.

Apparently I didn't put my phone on loud properly though so I woke up at about 12:45 to see he had called me twice at 12:08am.  So I missed the call!!!  I hope he's not upset.  I can't believe myself, I knew I shouldn't have went to bed.

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