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All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018.
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Help needed!!
Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue
advice!
Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies 0 Likes
Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue
Graduation coming up
Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies 0 Likes
Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue
Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!
Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply 0 Likes
Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other. A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue
New here!
Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue
Fiancé Advice
Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies 0 Likes
My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue
Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??
Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies 0 Likes
Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue
Hello Everyone!
Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply 1 Like
Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue
POA to get a military i.d.
Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies 3 Likes
Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue
sending photos
Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies 0 Likes
My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19. I just received his box but no form letter yet. As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos. I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue
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Comment by Justin on March 16, 2017 at 9:50am
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ANYONE WITH THIS INFORMATION IT WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED! ASAP!
My fiancé is graduating next Friday and is in Div 102, I was told to expect the "Im a sailor" call tomorrow and even with the chance of that happening I had another Marine say he would take my place in an event tomorrow if I do one of his in the future. I didn't want to allow myself to be in any situation where I wouldn't be able to answer the phone whatever the time of day is the call might come. Before tomorrow though I would like to know how likely I am to receive that call the Friday before her graduation so I don't have another Marine take my event for no reason if its most likely not going to happen. Anyone who can provide an answer it would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
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Comment by Ellek73 on March 3, 2017 at 1:26pm
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I know I'm still new to all of this my boyfriend will be graduating boot camp on March 24! I am so incrediably proud of him and have been writing him letters every day since he has left. His mom has been confiding in me a lot lately about things going on back home (I am a travel nurse and currently living states away from friends and family both mine and his) and things do no look good for them financially or otherwise. I help as much as I can but they don't accept much of my help. They are a very close knit family and it took them a while to warm up to me and even now things can get hairy. Any way the point of me rambling is I could really use some positive thoughts and prayers my way. My cat who is my lone compainion at the moment is not doing well and at the vet and things don't look good for her right now. Some days I can handle it all but keeping as big of secrets about his family from my SR as I am right now while I know is absolutely the right thing to do is a certainly a struggle at the moment. And it breaks my heart because I am the only one who will be able to make it to his graduation so I know a lot of this news will be broken over skype after he graduates. I know there is nothing I can do about any of this but some days it just feels like a lot. Thank you
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Comment by Anti M on February 26, 2017 at 12:25pm
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Custody is a civil matter, so JAG cannot help. Your husband can contact them and they should be able to give him some contacts. I believe Fleet and Family Services also has lists of civilian family lawyers. Good luck!
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It takes a few weeks to get the special request chit processed, which lets the school know he wants you there, and to begin the process. Two at a minimum, I'd guess somewhere around four, six if things get off track.
A regular duty station would not require the chit, but the schools do as some students who are eligible to move their dependents there choose not to. So the school needs to know who wants to move dependents, so they can get the proper authorizations in place. Allison summed it up pretty well. Your sailor will not have C school, he will have A school and Power school at Goose Creek, then Prototype, which is either SC or NY.
The timeline is hard to pin down because there are variables. In some cases, nuke school will allow them to fly home to bring you back. This is NOT usual, and is the only school to allow it, so while you cannot count on that happening, if it would be useful and affordable for you guys, he should know he can at least ask if it is possible (once he gets to Goose Creek, no one at RTC will have this level of detail for him).
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Anti M- how long does the process take after they get sent to A school after basic that I am allowed to move there with my husband. He is going to goose creek for nuke school. I am curious as well because I was told paperwork would have to be filed as well. Thank you!
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Comment by Allison on February 24, 2017 at 11:19pm
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TieranyC what rate is your husband going for? The only paperwork they have to do for you to live with them is if they have an A school of 6+ months, and there are very few of those. In that case, since the school is considered a "permanent duty station", he can request to live ashore with you instead of the barracks, and there is paperwork. After that, you will be able to move to any permanent duty station that he received with "accompanied" orders. Unless my husband and I have been forgetting something, we haven't needed any other paperwork, even for his C school because it is 7 months, so it's considered a permanent duty station. He didn't even have to request live ashore for C school. Only A school, and it was just a chit…like a permission slip in the Navy.
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verseas orders have a different set of rules. However, they try very hard not to send married first term sailors overseas. This includes Hawaii. A sailor must be an E-4 or above to take dependents overseas. Do not worry about that, just be aware.
There are also a few duty stations overseas where dependents cannot go in any case, but the chances of that are very slim. Again, nothing for you to worry about.Send me a friend request so I can read your messages.
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Comment by TieranyC on February 24, 2017 at 1:29pm
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Anit M. why would I NOT be able to go with him? I doubt it'll be overseas.. so I should, correct?
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Anti M. can you send me a message? I have more questions.
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TieranyC, that is not how it works. When your husband receives orders, they will indicate whether they are accompanied or unaccompanied. If accompanied, then you get to move to where he is going (usually within the US). Sure, there is paperwork, but that is done before the move, and usually involves setting up the move, requesting dislocation allowance, signing up for housing, etc. You get to move with him, it is called "concurrent travel".
He does NOT need to file paperwork for you to move with him. The exception would be if he gets overseas orders, which is totally different.
The recruiter is not correct, or is not expressing the way things work adequately.
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