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All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

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Keisha

Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3872
Latest Activity: Feb 6

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Help needed!!

Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies

Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue

advice!

Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue

Graduation coming up

Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue

Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!

Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply

Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other.  A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue

New here!

Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies

Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue

Fiancé Advice

Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies

My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue

Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??

Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue

Tags: moving, chicago, illinois, Lakes, Great

Hello Everyone!

Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply

Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue

POA to get a military i.d.

Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies

Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue

sending photos

Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies

My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19.  I just received his box but no form letter yet.  As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos.  I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue

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Comment by TieranyC on February 24, 2017 at 12:39pm

My husbands recruiter said when he gets to his first duty station, my husband has to fill out paperwork before I can move there. Does anyone know how long that process lasts? 

Comment by Anti M on February 22, 2017 at 8:10pm

In addition, the Family Separation Allowance will begin after 30 days, it is $250 a month.

It takes about three weeks for them to see a first paycheck, and it is often small.  Usually the one after that has the BAH (housing allowance) in it, as Allison said.

Overall, about a month and a half for things to settle in properly financially.

Comment by Allison on February 22, 2017 at 7:00pm
When your spouse does start receiving financial benefits, you can expect a lump sum of money to make up the time when he was eligible but not actually receiving benefits. Insurance starts right away. If you have POA, you can request an appointment to go on a base close to you and get your ID, otherwise you will wait until you move with your spouse and he can take you to get an ID card. Your ID card is also your insurance card. If there's an emergency and you know your spouse has enrolled you in DEERs, tell the doctor/er you have tricare and they should be able to look into it with your SSN.
Comment by Allison on February 22, 2017 at 6:55pm
TieranyC they are eligible immediately after they enroll you in DEERs; however, it can take one to two pay cycles before you see the increase in his paychecks. If he's in bootcamp, he will likely enroll you in DEERs either week 1 or week 5 of training depending on how much time they have if I remember correctly. If he's in school or the fleet, he can go to PSD or talk to his chain of command anytime they are open to start the paperwork.
Comment by Thelight on February 22, 2017 at 4:13pm
TierancyC I think after bootcamp when they come out. the first week of bootcamp they put down all there dependents. But you won't get the stuff till they come out I think.
Comment by TieranyC on February 22, 2017 at 3:26pm

Hello! I was just wondering when do the Sailor and spouse start receiving benefits?? 

Comment by Anti M on February 19, 2017 at 5:17pm

Welcome Ellek73!

Comment by Ellek73 on February 17, 2017 at 3:40pm

Hey everyone I'm new here! My recruit is off at basic right now  PIR March 24! I was so excited to find this forum here! I'm still very new to all the navy stuff but eager to learn as much as I can! Its also nice to find a place where people are going through a lot of the same things! My friends are super supportive but they don't always get how it feels! 

Comment by tatortot1107 on February 17, 2017 at 12:34am

Michael, 

You don't need to be so rude. Clearly we have different sources of information. I have had many family members through BC as well as an Uncle as an instructor. All information depends on the source, especially in the military. Agree to disagree on this apparently. haha. Have a wonderful evening :) 

Comment by Michael on February 16, 2017 at 11:12pm
Tatortor1107

Sorry I beg to differ. My husband. Called me 2 times that's it the call I am here. 4 weeks later he needed paperwork the call was 30 seconds long and I got the call I am a sailor. So yeah it's no mandatory to get 3 calls. My uncle works at boot camp they try and the word is try to get 3 calls but it's NOT gurenteed. So yeah I begged to differ. My sister in law who graduated in September got 6 calls there is no rhym or reason. I know my husbands group had a lot of good offs and fuck ups 3 who got kicked out during the time. There is nothing in writing saying they get phone calls. Marines get zero calls as my brother called to say he's a marine for graduation. So once again nothing is in stone don't care who you are. Lastly my grandfather was a instructor for 27 years god rest his soul he also told me when he was alive calls are not a right they are a earned privilege that can be taken away. That why I tell people if you get a call awesome but always write because it help you as a person and makes the sailor feel missed loved and care about.
 

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