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Comment by Allison on July 7, 2019 at 12:01am

Family Readiness Group (FRG):

A local FRG is usually easy to find on Facebook by searching your base and/or command +FRG, or ask your ombudsman about it. At smaller bases and some joint commands, FRG might be supporting all navy personnel families, while at larger Navy bases, there may be a couple FRGs for the different commands. 

Fleet and Family Support Program (FFSP):

The FFSP is designed to support sailors and their families through a variety of outreach programs and services in order to promote fleet readiness. They offer a wide variety of services from clinical counseling to tax assistance and financial planning. Your local Fleet and Family Support Center is a great place to start when you know you need help  and need more specific and local assistance. Typically you can Google your base name + FFSC and get results. But your ombudsman and FRG leaders can also easily connect you to this service. For general information on FFSP and their services, you can go here:

https://www.cnic.navy.mil/ffr/family_readiness/fleet_and_family_sup...

While none of these resources are likely to get you specific information regarding your husband, they can all provide general information on re-enlistment and any other concerns you may have. 

Of course, this site is always great too for little bits of information, but I think you will find more help/guidance for your situation from one or more of these resources. 

Comment by Allison on July 6, 2019 at 11:37pm

Paige, 

I hate to cause trouble, but I do feel some concerns over your recent questions. I don’t want to make assumptions about what’s going on and risk offending you, so I’ll just put some resources here for you that you may/may not know about, that are appropriate places to direct your concerns and find support as a spouse.

Ombudsman:

The ombudsman is a spouse of a sailor at your command. They are typically experienced/have been at the military spouse thing for awhile, and they do training as part of becoming a registered ombudsman. They act as a middle man between families and the command. They can help spouses navigate all those confusing aspects of Military life, they can talk you through those stacks of constantly changing info, provide info on additional resources and support, and they can communicate with the command when reasonable and necessary to help you. My last ombudsman before my husband got out was an angel, she drove around taking pictures of base before I moved, helped me figure out my train ticket, helped me get in contact with someone in legal to figure out my visa and passport paperwork, and provided resources and contacts for house hunting, buying a car, loaner furniture, finding a job, and a laundry list of other things. Find yours here (proceed through any message, the webpage is fine):

https://ombudsmanregistry.cnic.navy.mil 

Chaplain:

A chaplain is a religious officer in the military, they lead worship for one or more religious groups on base, hold religious study meetings, lead retreats… basically like a priest/pastor/rabbi/etc depending on the religion. However, many people do not know that you can also just sit down and talk to a chaplain, for free, and it’s COMPLETELY confidential. I emphasize completely because you can literally tell the chaplain anything and they are bound by their vows as a chaplain to keep it secret. Chaplains are not mandatory reporters like everyone else. Of course, they will encourage you to file reports if necessary, but they cannot tell anyone what you’ve said without your permission. 

Chaplains are an excellent source for information because 1) they are in the military themselves, and they can help interpret info for you, and 2) they are trained to provide resources and direction for just about every scenario you could possibly present them with. 

You can always meet with them in their office, but some chaplains are also willing to meet elsewhere on base, or even in your home depending on circumstances. 

You can find a chaplain by asking your ombudsman, visiting the chapel on base, or here: 

https://www.navy.mil/local/chaplaincorps/chaplaincare.asp

Military OneSource:

Military OneSource is pretty much what it sounds like. They compile resources and information in one spot for military families. Everything from parenting resources, common base ammenities/groups,  transition assistance and more. The key feature of military OneSource though is their confidential help resource. Military OneSource will ser you up and pay 100% for short-term, non-medical  counseling sessions. Typically it will be something like 12 sessions, per issue, per year, or similar. This remains available to qualifying candidates up to a year AFTER their spouse is discharged. While they cannot address certain issues like “depression” and “abuse,” they can address things like parenting issues, marital problems (including marriage counseling), transition assistance, etc. Keep in mind the counselors they set you up with ARE mandatory reporters

Their website is here:

https://www.militaryonesource.mil

Comment by abuon18 on July 6, 2019 at 9:34pm

Paige,

No. The only way you can get information about your husband's career is from him. There is no one yo uh can call that will give you any information unfortunately.

Comment by Paige on July 6, 2019 at 2:02pm

Thank you all for the reply on my previous comment, but do you guys know if their is someone I can call to know more information about the re-enlistment process and or finding information about my Husband to see if he is going to re-enlist ect.

Comment by abuon18 on June 18, 2019 at 8:06pm

Paige -

So as with everything in the Navy, there are "general" guidelines but can vary from command to command and also from each individual situation. But basically he will have to talk to his chain of command about his re-enlistment date. For example, my husband was eligible to receive a bonus for re-enlisting, but to receive that he had to re-enlist one day after his current contract expired.

Generally he will not get orders upon re-enlisting. His new orders will not start until his current orders are done. So if his current orders have him at his current duty station until Jan 2020, his new orders will not move him to his new duty station until Jan 2020 or Feb 2020. He should get his orders before that so he knows where he is going but he won't actually be able to go until then. Again, his PCS date will be stated in his orders when he gets them and it can be different based on different situations; this is just how it typically works.

Comment by B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN(Vet) on June 18, 2019 at 12:09pm

ReeseB123 - Yes, the 8/2/19 PIR group is only allowing 3 guests due to the size.

Paige - your question is an interesting one - hopefully someone with more knowledge regarding re-enlistment will be able to answer it for you.  Anti M might even be able to help on this one.

Comment by Paige on June 18, 2019 at 10:52am

Hi Everyone - I hope all is going well. I need your help understanding the re-enlistment process regarding my husband.

His contract ends on Jan 2020  - He is currently Fit for Full, but has served on land duty for 3 yrs due to health reasons.

If he re-enlists next week for example,  would he receive his orders right away and then immediately proceed with the new orders i.e go on the new ship get stationed somewhere else etc.. OR will his orders start in Jan 2020?  What is the deadline for re-enlistment prior to the contract ending? Or since it is only 6 months away is it too late to re-enlist?

,Also please, does he get the opportunity to choose his re-enlistment date or does the Navy assign that?

I am receiving too many different responses from him and not sure how this could work out and I know this fine group will give me the answers. 

My last question, if he does not re-enlist can he extend his existing contract past 2020 for 2 yrs and remain at his permanent duty station?.. I appreciate your responses and thank you so much in advance... Have a great day!

Comment by Anti M on June 16, 2019 at 9:34am

Welcome, ReeseB.  This is not the most active group, do you belong to bootcamp moms too?  It says moms but is for everyone.  It is active daily and will have individual PIR groups.

Yes, if the training group is large, there are only three guests.

Comment by ReesesPieces on June 16, 2019 at 1:49am

Hi all! My name is Reese and I am new to the group. My boyfriend left to boot camp on June 3rd and should hopefully be graduating on August 2nd. We have not gotten the first letter from him yet but we are expecting to get it sometime next week. I was wondering if anyone could confirm with me that if there are more than 13 divisions graduating the sailor is only allowed to invite 3 people to graduation, not four. Thanks in advance!

Comment by Mimi on June 3, 2019 at 9:43pm

Hi Carla! I would also say Do not worry! There is no set guideline in how long the box should arrive. I received my boyfriend’s box on the 8th day and his first letter on the 18th but I was mentally prepared it may take longer. Also it depends on the distance how far he is from home. Have he made his first call yet? Do you stay in touch with his family? You may receive a call with his address or a Form letter with it and graduation info. I hope and pray his first letter reaches you soon as I know it can be soooo hard to wait! But be strong and write him every day even before you have his address. He will love the letters and you will feel like you are “talking to him” about how is your day going and how much you love him. I’m here for support if you need listening ear. ((Hug))

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