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Comment by Anti M on June 15, 2016 at 11:00pm

I'm pretty good with the security stuff because I had a TS clearance, worked on crypto in secure spaces, and handled classified material.  Part of that training was anti-espionage training, thinking the way a spy would think.  These days it would be how terrorists think.  

Actually, going to an A school is not particularly secret, there are only so many Navy schools in certain locations.  When it gets sticky is talking about WHAT they are studying.  And when they get orders, you can say that too, because commands and units are attached to larger known bases.  You just can't talk about what they do there, or when they deploy from there.  

Comment by Anti M on June 15, 2016 at 10:53pm

I deleted the original, but putting the answer part back in here.

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Anyway, the Navy MIGHT pay to move you out to the A school, that depends on whether his orders authorized a dependent move, and if it has not been too long since he reported.  I don't know the cut off, he will need to ask Personnel, not his chain of command.  Instructors often get such details wrong.

If you are moved to A school, you will still be eligible for a move to his new duty station.  It is not one or the other.  As long as his orders authorize "with dependents", you get a paid move.

Comment by Michael on June 15, 2016 at 9:51pm

Wildcat girl. I will be in Norfolk too. Husband will be on his ship. Not moving by until July August to meet up with him

Comment by abuon18 on June 15, 2016 at 9:45pm

Sorry, I only asked because my husband's school was in CA too, and ended up being over a year long altogether so I thought I would have some insight!

Comment by abuon18 on June 15, 2016 at 8:19pm

USNwifeIL what rate (job) is your husband in A school for?

Comment by Wildcat_girl on June 15, 2016 at 4:38pm

Hello all,

I am looking for girlfriends/fiancé/wives in the Norfolk/Little Creek/Fort Story Virginia area. I will be relocating within the next 6ish months to be my other half. I would like to meet some others before getting there and get some insights. 

Thanks!

Comment by Anti M on June 12, 2016 at 5:10pm

There are three PACT programs.  Two at Great Lakes, and the aviation one is in Pensacola.  But who knows, it can change from one week to the next.  

Comment by Michael on June 12, 2016 at 11:04am

Hey Anti M sorry I thought all PACT were at GL since my husbands was for his PACT program

Comment by Anti M on June 12, 2016 at 10:30am

AS an APACT, his training will be in Pensacola.  It should be four weeks, so he has time to begin arranging your move then, IF you choose to move to Norfolk at this time.  He will get a week of leave, at least, after training. With the short PACT program, that is about all he will have earned, plus he will get a day or two for travel time.

It is very likely they will fly him out to the ship, although often there is reason to wait for the optimal time.  Whether the ship is in port, or close to where they can put him on transport on a helo or other aircraft, or if he has to wait on hold in Norfolk if they want him to have a no fee passport (I've seen this for subs).  There are a lot of variables, and the detailer who issued the orders probably had no access to such details.  That's why they could not tell you he'll go straight on deployment.

As suggested, find the ombudsman and Family Readiness Group right away.  That way you will be prepared when he checks in.  

You can do this.  Look at it this way, you're getting a big chunk of suck out of the way early on!  

Comment by abuon18 on June 11, 2016 at 10:46pm

Hi Loren, most likely yes, since his ship is deployed and they just left he will have to meet them, which raises lots of questions for you. First of all, typically when they graduate their A school they can request up to 2 weeks of transfer leave - I am not familiar with the PACT program, but he may be able to do this so at least you will still get some time together.

Regarding him meeting the ship on deployment, since his ship will schedule those details no one can really say how soon after he gets to Norfolk he will be sent to meet them. Yes it could be the next day but it could be a few days... it depends if the ship is at sea and they need to fly him out to meet him them at sea, or if they are in port (easier if they are in port). Depending on the ship's schedule, they may wait until a more convenient time to fly him so unfortunately it's just a wait and see.

In regards to you moving to Norfolk, you certainly don't have to in this situation - you can wait until he is back. Personally, that is what I do and what I did during my husband's first deployment. We were stationed in San Diego for his A and S school and the ship he was assigned to here in Norfolk deployed 3 weeks after he arrived so we made the decision for me to stay in San Diego until he returned from deployment. It is really hard to settle into a new place on your own, and it's hard to not have your family and friends around during deployment, especially if you have not even had time to make any friends by the time he leaves! Another thing to consider is what you have going on where you are living now. Are you working, in school, do you have children who are in school.... it might make more sense then to stay put until he comes home and then move when he is back. You are certainly diving into military spouse life head first. Make sure that you ask any questions you have and encourage him to do the same because that is the only way you'll get answers. When we were in this similar situation I had to constantly remind my husband to ask ask ask... no one will tell him more than they have to if he doesn't ask, and then you will not know what all of your options are.

I encourage you to get in touch with the FRG and Ombudsman as soon as he checks into his command - you will not be able to before he officially checks in, but once he does, I encourage you to reach out by email to make sure you are on their list to receive email updates, as any important information about the ship will come from them, and it is also a good way to connect and meet other spouses whose loved ones are on the same ship. Also, the ombudsman especially can be very helpful in guiding a new spouse through her husband's first deployment. Most of the FRG board is usually spouses whose SOs have been in for awhile so they have experienced all of this before and can be helpful too. And of course, you can always come here with questions as well!

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