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Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit Navy.com - America's Navy and Navy.mil also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:

OPSEC GUIDELINES

Events

**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  

FOLLOW THIS LINK FOR UP TO DATE INFO:

RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.

RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021

Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Keisha

Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3875
Latest Activity: Feb 3

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Help needed!!

Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies

Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue

advice!

Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue

Graduation coming up

Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue

Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!

Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply

Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other.  A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue

New here!

Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies

Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue

Fiancé Advice

Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies

My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue

Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??

Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue

Tags: moving, chicago, illinois, Lakes, Great

Hello Everyone!

Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply

Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue

POA to get a military i.d.

Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies

Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue

sending photos

Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies

My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19.  I just received his box but no form letter yet.  As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos.  I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue

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Comment by sailormaid on August 7, 2016 at 3:20pm
I don't know anything about the Naval aspects of Newport but it's a beautiful New Englad beach town. (My husband and I went to college in Providence so we've spent a lot of time there.) We're actually moving there in October for his A-school and looking for an apartment off base. I have some contact info for realtors in the area; if you're interested, PM me!
Comment by Lindsey on August 7, 2016 at 1:54pm
Hi everyone! My husband just left today to head to our first duty station, Newport RI. Does anyone know how long the wait usually is for on base housing? Has anyone been there before, and did you like it/ pros & cons? Thanks so much!!!
Comment by abuon18 on August 1, 2016 at 7:21pm
Kelsie, when he's deployed you don't have to live at his duty station. I have lived in a different location from my husband's duty station before when he was deployed and it is very common for a spouse to move back home. I actually stayed at our previous duty station because he had to report to his new duty station, go underway for 3 weeks that week, come home for 5 days then he deployed for what was supposed to be 8 but turned into 10. So you don't even have to stay home, you can live where ever you want- if you're in school or working somewhere and don't want to leave. His ship has to approve it (which they will) and you will get BAH for where you are living. You DO however need to turn in a copy of your lease agreement, so if you're living at home, with your parents for example and not really paying rent, you will have to draw up a lease agreement (really easy to find templates online, I have used them before for roommates and I also work for Realtors and property managers) indicating some amount of rent you are paying them (even if it's just $200). But they do require it, and if he is deploying through the new year you'll have to submit it again right before the new year to update the paperwork for 2017. You can PM if you want more specifcs.
Comment by garden gal on August 1, 2016 at 7:12pm

Actually, if he is on a ship you might get the lower of his assigned base location or your location - I'm not sure. If he is unaccompanied OCONUS then you get the amount for yor hometown.

Comment by garden gal on August 1, 2016 at 7:00pm

I am pretty sure you can stay in your hometown as long as he is deployed.  Will he be on a ship or an unaccompanied OCONUS (no need to be specific about where)?  Your BAH will be based on where you live - not where he is based - or so I understand. :).  Here is a link to calculated the BAH amounts based on zip code

http://www.defensetravel.dod.mil/site/bahCalc.cfm

sorry - I don't know how to make this a clickable link

Comment by Kelsie on August 1, 2016 at 6:43pm
Alright so plans have changed (I'm shocked I thought plans never change in the military!) but we found out today my husband is not going to Whidbey, he's being deployed. I've decided to stay in my home town with my family until he gets back. I can do that right? My husband seems to think I have to move even though he won't be there. Any advice is more than welcome.
Comment by garden gal on August 1, 2016 at 10:56am

Kelsi, my son and DIL live in base housing at Whidbey. They absolutely love it. The housing areas are "off base" but are fairly large communities. There are several so if you are offered a choice I can ask them which is preferable. Civilian housing is fairly expensive so the BAH doesn't go very far if you chose that. Some people live up to an hour away and commute to get affordable civilian housing. Also several squadrons are relocating to Whidbey in the next year so the housing market will only get tighter. They advise military housing if there is an opening. 

I went to visit in early July and it is a very beautiful place to be stationed. Temperate climate and they are in the rain shadow of the Olympia mountains so not as much rain as you would expect for the Pacific northwest.

Comment by abuon18 on July 31, 2016 at 6:39pm
Half of the BAH on the 1stime of the month and the other half of the 15th, sorry!
Comment by abuon18 on July 31, 2016 at 6:38pm
Paige, he should get BAH in the amount according to where ever his dependents are living if it is an authorized geo-bachelor situation. In any case, he receives BAH as a direct deposit when he gets paid twice a month, all of his allowances are lumped together and included in his pay. He gets paid half of the month on the 1st and the other half on the 15th. It will go into whatever bank account he set up his direct deposit for his regular pay to go into.
Comment by Paige on July 31, 2016 at 6:13pm
Hi all of you.! Do any of you guys know how it works if my husband goes to a duty station temporarily while his orders get changed, who gets the BAH.? Me & my son or my husband.? Does the Navy take care of us both financially or is that something my husband & I have too work out.?
 

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