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My son graduated boot camp on 2/1 and is now in Connecticut for A school. His first test was yesterday. He had text me the day before saying it’s really hard and that since the material is confidential, they’re not allowed to take home any of their notes to study, but rather their notes are all locked up and kept right there. So when he text me yesterday he said he failed. He said he got the lowest grade in the class. They made him speak to a chief who thought he purposely failed because he doesn’t know how my son could’ve scored so high on his advanced test, and then fail so low on this. He proceeded to say that even a blind person would’ve scored higher if they had taken the test!!! Needless to say I am at this point in tears, heartbroken, knowing that my child is hurting and struggling and during this time, being talked down to as if he doesn’t deserve any kind of respect and/or support. He’s now being placed in a class for note taking I guess he said? This is all so new and unfamiliar to he and myself, so I was wondering if anyone has had their child’s original train derailed and if so, what happened next? What if he doesn’t ever pass the necessary courses required?

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Shawndra - I am so sorry your Sailor is going through this. I would feel the same way - what to do. My Sailor is in Groton too and said the same thing about the tests. I do know that it seems like the Navy tries to offer options for remediation at every step so maybe the note taking class will help. I think they can also go back after class or later in the evening and look at their notes in the building where they kept. I know I didn’t understand how are they supposed to learn anything if they only have the little bit of time in class to review it. I think, too, they graduate so quickly and it’s all a bit of whirlwind and then here’s another test, and this time I’m totally new information from Boot Camp. I know that doesn’t help anybody in getting started in a new program. 

Hang in there. I tried to tell my sailor, that there’s so much he can control, and there’s so much that he can’t control at all, it would seem, in the Navy and in the military. And so I try to tell him, just do what they tell you to do, go where they tell you to go. If they tell you, this didn’t work, then listen and go to where they do tell you it will work. I feel like with Navy being so new to my sailor as well, it’s hard to know where anything will go ultimately. 

I have tried to tell him too, that it’s just like a job. All of the first year is really a lot of orientation and trying to figure out what going to be like. And maybe that’s even the case even more, with how they present all of this stuff at MEPS and then at boot camp too. 

I hope some other people respond, but I’ve been on this particular group for a handful of months now, and I haven’t seen any responses. I do go to the Beyond Boot Camp moms group and there is good activity there. Maybe only 1 other mom, that seems affiliated with Groton, though. But I bet lots of moms that are trying to help their sailors have helped their sailors through similar situations. 

maybe try that group too! 

sending hugs, and positive vibes to you and your Sailor! 

 I'm sorry to hear about this. My son is a veteran of the Sub Force (came home a couple of years ago now after joining after high school) The talking down to is not cool. My son struggled with this leadership characteristic throughout his time in as well. My email is in my profile. I like Lara's advice to her son "Hang in there. I tried to tell my sailor, that there’s so much he can control, and there’s so much that he can’t control at all, it would seem, in the Navy and in the military. And so I try to tell him, just do what they tell you to do, go where they tell you to go. If they tell you, this didn’t work, then listen and go to where they do tell you it will work." Sub Force is a bit rough around the edges to say the least. Many good thoughts and love to you and your son. 

Shawndra - I was just thinking of you and your Sailor and am hoping you are both well! 


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