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Comment by T-Lynn on March 28, 2009 at 12:44pm

Hi Everyone,
Need advice. A person named Lenette Kelley left a message on my page - someting about ringtones No I have not responded, but I did check out her page - she does not appear to be a Navy Mom and the messages left for her from other navy Moms are not happy ones. Bascily telling her to leave the site and leave them alone. Actaully one person said she was spamming. Please define this and if she is not a Navy family - who do I notify to block her? Advice please. Terry

Comment by Anti M on March 25, 2009 at 11:54am

What was funny after the first surgery, the sailor I worked with day in and day out pretended to be my spouse so he could come sit with me. They only allowed family members to visit the ward, maybe it was outside visiting hours, maybe it was too soon, I was too drugged to know for sure. We still send Christmas cards after twenty-something years.

Comment by Anti M on March 25, 2009 at 11:51am

No, the Navy doesn't call the family for injuries. Be sure you have a passport even if you aren't planning a visit soon. Second, be sure his buddies know to call you. The ombudsman can help, as can the Red Cross. I wouldn't even consider calling the recruiter for info on a fleet sailor!

I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy and it was a good thing I was on duty that night. I'd have died if I'd been alone in my Japanese apartment. I think they may have contacted my first husband, but we were separated and he never came or called. I had to call my mom four days later when I could get up. Years later, when I'd remarried, I was right back at the same hospital. This pregnancy didn't rupture, but they told me I was going right into surgery after the ultrasound. I had to beg them for ten minutes to call my husband!

So it is up to your sailor and you to be sure there's a contact plan in place.

Comment by Anti M on March 25, 2009 at 11:45am

The volunteer work I did in Japan was arranged by the Japanese workers at my husband's command. The program through MWR looks newer to me, but it sounds like it is a good opportunity. Also, individual commands often set things up, a sailor can ask his command master chief or LPO.

Comment by Anti M on March 25, 2009 at 9:56am

Yokosuka is a big base; MWR offers something for almost everyone. I hung out in the woodworking shop a lot, but I don't know if that's still around. My friends did martial arts, one had a black belt in Karate. The Fleet Gym is really good, if it is the same one. Sasebo isn't quite as large, but every base has an MWR. You can find them online with a google search.

My hubby was involved with scouts even though we didn't have kids. And we joined a Japanese and American Harley riders group ... that was fun. I took a lot of college courses at night. We did go on a lot of the weekend tours. The Nagoya Fertility Festival was eye-opening! It just takes awhile to find what is where on and off base.

Comment by T-Lynn on March 21, 2009 at 5:07pm

Hi Navy Moms!
Blessing of Spring!
It has finally arrived and I wish all of you a glorious and wonderful day. Make a wish for yourselves. Take care Terry
PS - Welcome new Moms. There are plenty of ears to hear you and hearts that care. We've been there and promise you will make it through just fine.

Comment by Anti M on March 21, 2009 at 12:52pm

I worry that my advice is out of date or I misremember, but I do know there's more that can be done if the sailor knows who to ask. Sometimes things end up not happening the way they're "supposed" to happen, but there's always a reason. The trick is to make sure it is a valid reason and not a mistake.

Comment by Anti M on March 21, 2009 at 11:00am

The sponsor can tell him what is going on and give him advice, that would be the person who could find out if his travel can be delayed or not. Once that plane ticket is cut, he's stuck. Once he lets his new command know he'd like time off, and if their schedule allows for that, then they can start sending messages to the people who cut the orders and arrange the travel. That's when he needs to talk to PSD I think. Personnel Department handles things such as order modifications.

If he's going to a ship which is deploying soon, he may not get his leave days.

PLS? New term to me .... his chief?

Comment by Anti M on March 21, 2009 at 10:21am

First, how many days of leave has he earned and not used? He needs to go talk to someone about what's on his orders ASAP. The orders may have authorized 21 days, but if he burned leave at Christmas, he may not have the full amount on the books to use. If he has orders, there's a number he can call to his new command and see if they need him right this minute or if he can get his orders modified to allow leave days.

Comment by Anti M on March 20, 2009 at 11:09am

Leave between A and C schools is always tricky. If she has checked out of A school, they can't sign her leave papers, and if she hasn't reported in to C school, they cannot either until she is there.

As for leave after C school and the overseas command, that full 30 days doesn't always happen. As Charley pointed out, it depends on the ship or command she is going to. Another factor is if she has leave on the books or not. Her leave for a home visit should be written into her orders, all she has to do is find someone who knows how to read them go over them with her.

I know I never called my mom enough, but that was when phone calls from Japan were all landline and terribly expensive. I did write a lot, and send cards and pictures. The Japanese have the cutest stationary in the world! Now mom is gone and I miss her very much.

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