9 more days!!!

[SR.LaskiesMom (Ship 12 DIV 372)]

Just 9 more days is all I have left with my son... God it seems like just yesterday it was like 5 months!! 

I think it's starting to get to him as well, ever since we had his party (August 26th) he's been very busy with friends & whatnot. Everyone wanting to see him & spend a lil time with him. 

Why does it seem like this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do? ... Everyone says, "Let go," but I can't!!!! I won't hold him back, that would be wrong, but I can't just pretend I don't care & I'm happy he's leaving when the truth is it's gonna kill me!!!

I know this is just a step in the many steps he'll be taking in his life, and that in fact this is his life for him to live. Doesn't mean I can't still love him as much as the day e was born, if not more! 

As any mom knows it's very difficult to have watched your child grow, from the infant they once placed in your arms, to the young men & women they are now. Through all the bumps & bruises, we are the ones who have been there to fix them up, wipe their tears & tell them it's gonna be okay. So my question is how do you let go? How do let them walk away???? 

Sorry! Maybe it's just me, I'm a very emotional attached person so it's really really hard for me.

[Kellyd]

I will put it the best way I understand this whole process. We raise our children to be independant. We want them to succeed in all areas. We want them to learn how to make good decisions. We want them to be loving, kind, generous, patriotic and not selfish. We raised them this way.
Now they have made these decisions. This decision not only continues to prepare in ways we could never do but it shows they listened all those years. This decision is everything we wanted them to learn.

You will never let them go in your heart but now it's time for another teacher.

Be proud! It's ok to cry but cry for what they are becoming not just what you are losing.

Just my 2 cents.

[SR.LaskiesMom (Ship 12 DIV 372)]

Thank you! :) 

[karens (alumni ship 13-Div 366)]

Lynette, I know exactly what you mean, my son leaves in six days.  Kellyd put it in the correct perspective, We did a great job as Moms to have these brave children make this choice.  Our sorrow is about us not being with them and seeing this transformation, but think how proud they will be of themselves and we will be of them when we see them at PIR.  We need to transform from caretaker to biggest supporter.  Best of luck to you and your SR.

[SR.LaskiesMom (Ship 12 DIV 372)]

Thank you, both of you! I'ts a big adjustment, and yes, you're right it's the not being with him or being able to see him that hurts!

I have ALWAYS been a very big supporter, for all my kids with just about everything they've done.

I hope people aren't getting the wrong idea with what I said, I am VERY PROUD & VERY happy for him, with the choice he has made, and all that he working toward becoming... Just sad to see him go, that's all. I'll be okay & so will he, I know that.

Thanks for your input on my over emotional venting! :)   

[SherBear Nuke Mom (ET)]

We can do this Lynette!  I like what Kellyd said! This is one of the moments we have well prepared our sons for, to be strong and independent right?

So lets all support each other and our sons too!  We can all cry together, they don't need to know :)

My son is SO ready to just go already. I think all of the goodbyes and people talking about it nonstop is getting on his nerves.

Big HUGS!

 

Sherri B

[SR.LaskiesMom (Ship 12 DIV 372)]

I see that with Ryan too, like him wanting to get it over with already.

We got all of his info, he will be staying overnight on the 12th, Swears in @10am on the 13th & leaves from there on a bus to the airport ... I think it's starting to get to him too, He's been more verbal with his feelings & last night he hugged me for about 10 minutes. :) Gonna miss that most, I think. :( 

He got his confirmation call this morning, from the area supervisor, calling to check up on him, make sure nothing has changed since he signed up & to make sure he's ready. Also told him, if he wants to back out or changes his mind to let them know before Weds. (Good to know that's an option, but not gonna happen.) 

I know in my heart this is what he's meant to do, and he will be fine. It's just gonna be hard missing him! 

I tried avoiding it for so long & have told him for 4years "No Military" but always said ultimately it's his life & his choice.  Not that I don't support our Military,I do, However I can't stand our so called "Government" but that's a whole other issue. 

Yes, Sherri, We can do this, Thanks again for your support, All of you! 

[Lynette]

My son left on the 4th.  Received the box of clothes on Friday and cleaned his room yesterday.  I have never gone this long without talking to him.  Think about him constantly.  But we have done our jub as moms and need to let them live their life......the life that we have given them.  Would we have wanted our parents to hold us back?  Just remember that you raised this fine young man and you did a good job at it because look at what they want to do?  Nobody is forcing them into the military like years ago.  This is their choice.  It is hard for me as a momma to let him go and get on that plane, but I am proud as hell of him too.  My heart swells both ways.  Good Luck to your new recruit and to you too.