I know nothing...

[Patti (7/174)]

Typical parent. Evidently I know nothing even though I've probably done more research on the Navy and what my daughter will be going through. She says "Navy Mom's don't know anything, they aren't in the Navy". Well, either are YOU sweetie pie, but yet their daughter's ARE so  yes, I think they know what they are talking about...ugh...teens.

Anway, my daughter isn't doing much preparation. Isn't working out (even tho I bought her tons of stuff to work out with), barely studying (hasn't taken her real ASVAB yet, that's on Tuesday)...doesn't seem to want to do much other than sit out in the sun and sit on her bed texting people.  

I don't know how to motivate her to prepare herself for the Navy. Because after all, I know nothing. She thinks she'll be "eased" into excercising there so no need to work out now. Please, someone tell me I'm not going crazy, and how the heck do I motivate this veeeeeery unmotivated aka lazy 18 yr old.

[shannong1268 (CVN 77)]

Ha! Aren't daughters "special creatures"? I feel your pain, however, so will she when she gets to BC. Everyone is so right when it comes to her being the weak-link. It will make her 9 weeks misaerable if she cant keep up with everyone. They will not help her much, esp if she is causing them extra PT work. If she fails her PT tests and has to do individual training, that would not be good for her. Unfortunately, she is 18, and Knows All! Let her do it her way, once she gets to BC, she'll do it Their Way! Just let it go, dont fight with her, you dont deserve the stress!!! Its her Recruiters job to make sure she's ready, not yours, enjoy life, freedom is just a few weeks/months away!

[Tobianne]

I wish it was freedom though, I love and miss my girl so much. She has gone through the wringer, and is not the weak link. Lost a very close friend to an accident a week after she left and just found out. They Sr's just do not see what a life changing thing this will be. It is great to see them grow, but sad to see they could have been better prepared. I have so much hope for my girl, she has hit a depression and this is at a very bad time.

She now tells me "Mom I wish I would have done more"

[Patti (7/174)]

Wow, I think my daughter lives in your house!! Yes, they are adults, but as adults they are expected to act as such. Wouldn't kill them to actually listen to some advice. And you know what, if we're wrong, SO BE IT, but at least they will be prepared for the worst possible scenerio! All I know is, I've done lots of reading on this site and others, and they are definitely in for a rude awakening. I really don't want her to fail out, but ultimately, that's up to her.

[Anna]

Patti,
I know it weighs on your heart that she won't give you a little credit for knowing something. We never know - she may be listening to you but just doesn't want to give you the satisfaction of knowing that she is!!!! In a way - this may be her way of stretching her wings and getting ready to become independent of her parents.
Just know that we will be here for you when you need us. No matter the tension beforehand, when she does leave you will feel that emptiness!!! Always feel free to come here to share, vent, complain, yell - - - whatever!!!!

[pianogal char]

According to my daughter and son, (both in the Navy as of 10/31/09) you really can't study for the ASVAB because it is more a test of your reasoning skills. As for the exercise, my daughter didn't work out either, and it was extremely hard on her the first couple of weeks. They do not go easy on them. The rule is, the better shape you are in the easier time you will have. In my daughters division, several were sent home, because they simply couldn't do the exercises. She would be doing herself a big favor to work out now. Good luck to your daughter! Mine was pretty much doing the same as yours before she went in. She said she wanted to enjoy her summer. She did make it though, and is very happy now, just graduated ATI school in Pensacola. Best of luck. Char

[Patti (7/174)]

Well, the funny thing is, she said studying for her ASVAB actually helped her go from a 24 to 50 in her practice exam. We live in the south, where the education is less than stellar. I hired a tutor yesterday and the teacher was shocked at how they were learning (or not!) here. So I guess it will help with her math skills, if nothing else, to brush them up to where they SHOULD be if she came from elsewhere in the country.

According to her recruiter, when I inquired what ASVAB scores were like where he used to be stationed (he came from Lousianna), he said LA was MUCH MUCH lower. This lends me to believe that the education must be even worse than SC, at least where he was stationed.

Everywhere I read said studying helped tons. She has 2 ASVAB books, and has been pouring over them the last few days (her ASVAB is Tuesday evening!!). She actually ran last night! Progress!! I guess me asking her for the receipts for all the excercise equipment I bought that was sitting unused, probably pushed her into action.

I kept telling her they aren't going to go easy on her. There is no such thing as "easing into excercise". She said the same thing yours did about enjoying the summer. Well, unless she wants to PERMANENTLY enjoy it, I suggest she gets her act in gear!!

Congrats on her graduation, YOU earned it as much as she did.

[Blondie]

Patti, I'm sorry she is putting you through this. it's her life, but we as mother's want to see our kids suceed and have it easy, not going to happen. are you sure she wants to go into Navy? Her eyes will be opened soon! if she doesn't score high enough on the test, she'll get the crap jobs. and PT is not a walk in the park, but really we all know that, but can't tell our children anything! I'll say a prayer for the both of you. good luck and hang in there.

[Patti (7/174)]

Yes, I'm sure she wants to join. She's been working really hard at passing the ASVAB, including going to a tutor. Her test is tomorrow evening. How long does it take til she gets the results?

She's running briefly every night (its over 100 here during the day), maybe a mile. Other than that, I see nothing towards getting ready for PT.

At MEPS would they filter her out due to her not being in shape? (she's thin, but not "in shape")

[tks4]

She will get her results the same day.

[Anna]

No one will really worry about her passing her PT until the final weeks of bc. She will have to pass it all before she can graduate. My daughter was really thin also but had a problem with the run because she didn't have the endurance. She did run quite often with the other deppers but never could get her run in the required time. She did finally pass the second time she had to take it in bc.

[Patti (7/174)]

What is "BC"? Looked it up, but no definition for that.

[pgrlisa]

Boot Camp. Aka Basic Training.