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Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on December 4, 2008 at 10:11pm

Hi, everyone! I've been enjoying warm southern Texas for a couple weeks. We're in Waco, Texas, on our way home to snowy Illinois. Sometime in the next week, we'll welcome Andy home, too, so we have to get home. I think he's going to rent an apartment at Horizon Apts, in Zion. I'll probably go look in the next couple weeks, but he's talked to them already. He still has a month of training in Norfolk before he moves.

I'm not looking forward to the potential drama--two girls he likes, one in Michigan, one in Texas. I wish he'd just forget women until he gets settled!

I've got to add that the ex wife called me yesterday and was cooperative about letting him have the girls whenever he gets home. I am grateful for blessings like this because for years she was so ugly to us! Maybe that's what happens when you have two more little ones to care for!

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on November 9, 2008 at 4:29pm

He just told me he needs an apartment on February 4! I think the plan is for me to fly out to Norfolk and drive his pickup back while he drives the uhaul. He doesn't have much left from the divorce--I think I wrote that his wife claimed furniture and household items, but he donated them back to the church that gave the items to them. She wanted a huge amount for stuff that wasn't really hers! Because he was being deployed, he got rid of most stuff except the kids' things that she didn't bother to take--which wasn't much since she flew back when she left him. After that first deployment, he had an apartment and bought a nice bed, cheap dresser, television and stand. I have no idea what else he has in storage, but I guess he needs that small uhaul truck. We're giving him a couch and my good table since I just my mom's round oak one. Lots of good memories around both those tables! He's looking at a one bedroom at Horizon apartments in Zion.

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on November 9, 2008 at 10:46am

He comes back from Afghanistan sometime in the next month and a half--you know the military--don't know for sure. He has to go to Norfolk till sometime in February. Then he'll be an instructor at GL for three years. He's been in for almost five years and attached to the Roosevelt so he's been on a ship deployment and now boots on the ground deployment.

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on November 8, 2008 at 11:35pm

Hey, Dolores, my son is 26 and being stationed at Great Lakes in February! Don't forget him, too!!!

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on November 7, 2008 at 9:48pm

Dolores, You said your husband is going out to be with your son for court. Since you're in the Chicago, you probably can get a reasonable airline ticket (if there is such a think anymore), but someday we want to go by train to Seattle. There's a special ticket similar to a Eurail pass that's very reasonable. Sounds like our sons at least have one thing in common--they all got left and it's not their faults! My little girls are here for the weekend. We have so much fun--already read books, made hot chocolate, and watched Hannah Montana. They know their daddy loves them--the older one went through the house and collected all his pictures and put them in their bedroom at our house. The little one has asked me tonight where daddy is, if he's still fighting the bad guys, and when he'll be back to see her again. I'm glad both of you don't have to go through the divorces with kids involved, but things are calmer these days.

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on November 7, 2008 at 8:59pm

Welcome! Just being able to tell someone who might understand is such a blessing. I visited your page--he's a very handsome guy. I think some girl will find him. I told my son that the family had to approve the next one he thinks he might want to get serious with! His sister and dad are very intuitive--I trust their judgment. I introduced him to a former student that's his age when he was home on leave. She has a daughter and I thought it would be a good match. To her credit though, she told him she can't move away from her daughter's dad even though she isn't involved with him anymore. He's met several online, but I've warned him to be careful. I liked one a lot that I got to meet. I just keep telling him to go slow.

We're headed to Donna, TX, next week. I've met a great Texas Navy mom who allows me to be part Texan mom. My godchild lives in Austin, too. I'm glad to have you as a friend.

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on November 2, 2008 at 7:20pm

I found this interesting--about a year ago I started "Navy Families of the QC." (QC is quad cities=Rock Island and Moline, Illlinois/Davenport and Bettendorf, Iowa). Several months later, I spoke at a small gathering of veterans, military, parents when I said that the Navy families that get together mostly have two things in common: they have a kid in the Navy and they all have poor judgement in women. I said it with some humor, but one of the guys came up to me almost in tears after and told me about his 30 something son, a recruiter, and the wife that is so difficult. One of the couples I've gotten to know well has a son who married a hometown girl and on the night of the honeymoon, he caught her calling her boyfriend! The marriage was annulled that Monday.

So my comment, unfortunately, is more true that I wish. My son promised that we'd get to approve the next wife. Well, that isn't happening in some ways. That's another story! I promise to get to it soon.

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on October 31, 2008 at 1:09am

Good grief. I thought I knew all of my son's ex's sisters! Apparently one snuck off to Washington. The ex tried to get the judge to give her half of the value of the furniture, washer and dryer, all the household stuff. Of course, she had an astronomical value on all of it. A charity gave it to her and my son, so my son donated it all back since he was being deployed. The judge didn't make him pay. She demanded a wooden cross that her grandmother gave her supposedly. I swear it would burn her if she touched it! My son and we could not recall any such cross. I even went through pictures of the house and couldn't find this cross. The judge agreed that since she left, she should have taken it. She wanted the cell phone that her dad had purchased for her--let's not talk about the cell phone I gave her and paid for months of minutes! Her own attorney pulled out several cell phones in court and offered her one! She owes him over $3000, so she can't afford to take my son back to court which feels pretty good, I admit. He won't cheat his girls out of what they need. I was also getting collection calls, so we know she's in collection for something. My son had to call from Afghanistan and tell the collection company that they've been divorced since 2006 and has no responsiblity for any of her bills.

That attorney has to help your son! Or get a new one. How'd you find this one? I know someone who was stationed at Bremerton. Maybe I can ask him if he knows any good ones or how to find one. I felt the same way about ours, but it's turned out ok.

Comment by Ruth, Gun's Mom on October 31, 2008 at 12:35am

Does he have to pay her forever? It might be worth hiring a private detective to prove that she's living with someone? We had to ask around for an attorney that was sympathetic to the military. I wasn't always happy with him, but the person that recommended him kept telling me to be patient. Turned out he is as good as we hoped.

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