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Comment by Whit and Stephen's Mom (Ann) on August 18, 2013 at 2:21pm

Marcelle -  It isn't like going to college for all the reasons you stated.  BUT they do eat everyday, quite well in fact!  My daughter LOVED boot camp food, they have clean clothes because they have to wash and fold them themselves, he doesn't need money and he isn't happy.  But he will come out of there stronger physically and mentally.  He will appreciate you more than he did before he left and you will be prouder of him than you could ever believe possible.  People try to help but unless they had a child go through boot camp, they don't understand.  That's why this is such a great website.  Write to him everyday.  It is therapy for you and he looks forward to mail call.  Just tell him how proud you are and how much you love him.  Keep the phone calls upbeat and ask him a lot of questions.  Don't tell him how miserable you are, that will just make him more homesick and he needs to believe he did the right thing because it doesn't feel like it to him.  This is the longest 8 weeks of your life but in the end you will be amazed with him and yourself.  Remember, this is a great time in his life

Comment by Whit and Stephen's Mom (Ann) on August 18, 2013 at 2:10pm

SoCalNavyMom - I cried everyday my daughter was at boot camp because I couldn't be there to "fix" everything for her.  Every time she called, the first words out of my mouth were "don't cry" we don't know how much time we have.  (that was really so I didn't cry)  She HATED everyday of boot camp.  That is 2 years ago next month.  Now, she LOVES the Navy.  Is talking about making it a career.  I promise you, your son is homesick, wishes you were there to "fix" everything, and is having every bit of self esteem kicked out of him.  When he graduates, he will have learned to live on his own, will still call you to "fix" things, and will have more self confidence and self esteem than when he left for boot camp.  You will be proud beyond anything you could imagine.  Send him letters telling him how proud you are of him and how much you love him.  Don't let the tears hit the paper!  You are in mommy boot camp right now and are probably sick of hearing how okay everything is going to be but it truly is okay. Actually it is better than okay, I promise!

Comment by Barbydahlzz ALUM 09/075 USS JPJ on August 18, 2013 at 9:03am

i think every recruit has moments of being upset/frustrated/angry  and they all get thru it together!!! my son had a major setback when he broke both of his heel bones and was put into RCU for 7 weeks...  it was just 2 weeks before PIR... so after his bones healed, he was put back into training but couldn't find a div that was where he was when he was set back, so he went back to his 3-1 day....  he finally finished spent a total of 16 weeks at RTC... he got real discouraged during his time in RCU but knew this is what he wanted and pushed on.... Now he's on his ship... he's made petty officer..LOVES his job and the Navy...    your SR's will get thru this. and so will you... hugs

Comment by SoCalNavyMom on August 17, 2013 at 11:46pm

Thank you MartiB_TX. My boy is a worrier & he's stressing about passing an inspection?? Not to mention he's homesick. Guess now I know why he's a worrier. I'm worrying about him. LOL!!

Comment by MartiB_TX on August 17, 2013 at 11:29pm

SoCalNM my daughter went through PIR in March. She called me very upset about a couple of things. It is difficult and you really don't want it to be too easy for them. They learn so much especially about working with others. Let him know you are behind him - he will be so proud of himself when it is all over.

Comment by SoCalNavyMom on August 17, 2013 at 11:18pm

I'm feeling so bummed after getting my call this morning. It breaks my heart that he was so upset. It wasn't what I wanted to hear. It's stressing me out. What can I write? Or say when he calls again? I keep replaying in my head what I said & pray it was good enough & made him feel a little better. I feel like I'm the only one with a sad SR. Everyone else sounds upbeat & happy :(

Comment by Marcelle on August 17, 2013 at 10:54pm

My friends and some family say, "think of it as going to college". And to them I say, is your son in college? Response "yes". Did you talk to them today, did you see if they ate, do they have clean clothes, are they feeling ok, did you see if they needed any money, are they feeling well, do they sound good and happy,did you ask them if they wanted to come home this weekend?  

Wow! That must be nice.... I never get to do that.

Comment by Whit and Stephen's Mom (Ann) on August 17, 2013 at 7:31am

Marcelle/Evonne - Write EVERYDAY!  It is good therapy for you but at the end of the day, when they go back to their ship (bunk) for the evening, they have mail call and my daughter said that was the best time of day because she knew there would be a letter from me.  If you can get family members to write, do it!  Boot camp is the worst.  It is heart wrenching!  After boot camp, when she went to A school, I talked to her everyday and life was good again.  I cry just reading your emails because I know how you feel.  You're probably sick of hearing "hang in there, it gets better" but it really, truly does.  And it is the best thing my daughter did for herself!  Good luck!  Write those letters.  Scour N4M websites for information.  Not knowing is the worse.

Comment by Barbydahlzz ALUM 09/075 USS JPJ on August 17, 2013 at 7:11am

Ladies it DOES get better!!!!  yea the first few weeks really suck...but then the first real letter comes...and you start shaking and crying... you'll read the letter then you'll start laughing from the stuff they tell you... MAILBOX/MAILMAN STALKING begins now.  yes keep your phones GLUED TO YOUR FACE ... area code 847 came across my phone while in walmart... people around me thought i was having a mental breakdown as i talked with my kid and handed the phone to people he knew and said "here say hi to my kid"  lol  PIR will be here before you know it!!!  once in school,  communication is back, we text, facetime, facebook. skype... but the first time home is the sweetest....    I too get choked up when i see pics of PIR or a video  My son left for RTC Nov 7 2011.. He's been home once and I've been out to visit him.   its the scariest craziest funnest rollercoaster ride you will ever be on..  and now I prepair AGAIN as i send my other son off to basic for the Army in 58 days.  ugh    Hugs to you guys

Comment by Maria ( 9/132 - HM- 04-2011) on August 17, 2013 at 12:38am

Evonne/Marcelle. Just hang in there! The first few weeks are the hardest, the sudden loss of communication is the hardest! It does get better! The first few weeks my son was gone I would cry at a drop of a hat. Once he gets out of bootcamp it will be much better. Starting around week 3 make sure you keep yur phone with you. Weeks 3-4 is when they get to call home if they earned the privilege . It is amazing the changes you will see in your children at the end of the 8 weeks. If you can go to PIR. It is an experience you will not forget! It as been over 2 yrs for us and when I see the video or think about that day I still get chocked up. It is an awesome experience. Good yuck on this ride !

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