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My fiance and I are looking to get married next week. He is currently stationed in Norfolk, VA and will be leaving the beginning of November to go on a deployment training (they call a "debt"), he will get back in December and be leaving in February for his first real deployment and he is currently an E-4, about to be E-5. I currently live in NC and will be traveling up there either tomorrow night or next wednesday night to stay with him in a hotel and then the following morning getting married. I have already looked at houses up there so once we get done with the marriage thing on Thursday we will be actually touring the houses I have found for us. I have a 2 year old daughter and am wondering exactly what is going to happen once he gets the marriage certificate to his command. Will the Navy move me and my daughter? How long til we will receive BAH?What is the DEERS program I keep reading about on here? How long will it take for me to get up to VA and be with him after he gives his command the marriage certificate? How is his salary break down? I have no idea how this whole military thing works, Please help because I need to make sure I will be able to handle everything so it is a smooth move for my toddler daughter.

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@KareyJoy-Welcome to the club! It is a scary process, but there are lots of people who can help you along the way. Take a deep breath...:-) I am a big list person, so let me get you started on a list of what you need to consider.

1) Take a look at an online course the Navy has created just for spouses! Follow this link to get answers to many of your questions: New Spouse Orientation There are handouts you can download and print that explain much of what you are asking.

2) The Navy is not going to pay to move you and your daughter to Norfolk. Since your soon-to-be hubby is already there, they will not pay for a move for you. Fortunately, you are not too far away.

3) DEERS is the Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System. This is the database where they keep a record of everyone who is eligible for military benefits. It is explained in the New Spouse Orientation course, but once you are enrolled, you can use the military medical system.

4) If your daughter is not the child of your Sailor, you may want to find out what it takes to make her his dependent. He can speak with someone at the Navy Legal office to find out more.

5) BAH takes a little while to kick in, so be prepared to have to wait a month or two before you see that in his paycheck.

6) Call the Fleet and Family Support Center in Norfolk (757-444-2102) to get more information about the local area including: housing, jobs, community resources and how to connect with your Sailor's command's FRG (Family Readiness Group). They can also give you contact information for the command ombudsman, who is the point of contact for families.

I am sure lots of other people will have recommendations for you. Good luck and enjoy the adventure!

 

thank you so much. Lol. I have no idea how all this stuff works and I think you cleared up most of my questions. 

I'm sure someone with more experience will have some input on the moving situation. DEERS, as it affects spouses, is basically the system they will enter you into, to start your insurance. Make sure you bring a certified birth certificate for your daughter for your fiancé to turn in with the marriage certificate, and any custody papers if there are any. We had friends who's BAH kicked in almost immediately, but things vary in the navy. Met-Life, which will be the dental insurance available to you and your daughter, is signed up for on your own, they'll probably give you the number, if you ask, when you go in to get your ID.

So far, your to-do list should look something like:
GET MARRIED!!!! YAY!! Lol
Husband to turn in:
Marriage certificate
Wife birth cert
Child birth very
Wife and child social security cards
Custody papers (if applicable)

Go to ID office With husband to get ID (children under 10 don't get one)
Enroll in dental plan, if you want
Look into housing (like you had planned)


Someone else will be able to tell you if they'll pay for the move. My husband and I were already married when he joined. Welcome to the Navy family! Let me know if you have any questions, or the people on here are really great, too. We just got orders to Norfolk, so we should be there soon too.

As for moving with a toddler, I kept stuff in a backpack for my daughter to play with while I had to talk to people and used a portable DVD player for the actual move (set her up with it in the empty living room with a pillow and she was good). There's a lot going on, but my very energetic daughter did pretty well. Also, when it comes to appointments and stuff, sometimes the kid might just need a break from them. I'm not sure about Norfolk, but in Great Lakes they have hourly care for kids up to 5 yrs old for appointments and such. The kid probably needs to be in DEERS first, but you're about to get that taken care of. Make sure you have a shot record for your child, and get her a flu shot. (I think it's free once you're in DEERS anyway). Great lakes only charges $4 an hour, which is nice. Good luck!!

Since they already covered everything, I just wanted to add that in the future, you should avoid talking about dates online -or in public, etc- like that, for safety reasons...research OPSEC if you aren't familiar with the term. :) 

YES! I agree OPSEC! Be careful posting information about when they are coming or going. They say you can be vague and say the month but I prefer not to say anything. I typically only say leaving in the winter getting back in summer, etc. I might be an OPSEC Nazi sort of lol but my husband's deployment almost got extended (a 4th time on an already 8 month deployment) because of someone posting dates online and the captain getting so fed up.

 

I've known women whose husband's have gotten extended for it! My poor friend -husband is Army- had this happen 3 or 4 times in a single deployment because people kept posting the homecoming date on Facebook!

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