How Long until I stop Crying???

[Jordan (Ship-02 Div-950)]

I  thought I would handle him leaving a lot better than I am.  We made the decision to joing the Navy together....but when I left him at the airport yesturday it was the hardest thing I've had to do to date.  He called me from the airport and told me he was headed to the USO office and that he loved me and to wait for his call from GL.  I got really worried when 9:30pm rolled around and I didnt have a call yet.  He finally called me around 10PM and said first I love youm .  I could hear the stress in his voice.  He then said I get 2 mins.  So I told him I loved him real quick and asked (trying NOT to cry) if it was exciting.  He said NO i've already gotten yelled at.  Then right away after 30 seconds he said ive got to go.  Talk to you in 4 weeks.  Love you bye. 

 

When he hung up i was so sad.  I think I cried for 3 hours before I fell asleep.  I really at this moment want to just stay in my bed for the next 2 months.

 

I have been with him for 9 years, married for 2.  I feel as if Im not doing my job right now to protect him. 

 

Does the 8 weeks of Basic go by fast? 

[AbbyP]

Hi Jordan,

My husband left on Monday... I've been crying off and on, Tuesday was my hardest day but it is Thursday now and I'm doing a lot better. Everyone says with time it gets easier.

I'm just looking forward to when I get his package of stuff, to when I get his address to write him and our 1st phone call. It is easier for me to look forward to those moments that will happen in the next few weeks than the long 8 weeks until his PIR.

Just keep busy and stay positive. I've been writing him letters even though I don't have his address yet, it seems to be helping me because I feel like I'm communicating with him already. When I get his address I'll already have several letters to put in the mail.

This website has also provided me with a lot of advice and the other ladies (wives and moms) that have shared in these experiences have been extremely encouraging.

Wishing you the best... remember to smile and if you want to talk I'd love to hear from you!

Abby

[Jordan (Ship-02 Div-950)]

Its like it comes in waves. One moment I am fine and thiking ok I can do this, then the next I'm crying again. Then to top it off its raining. I live in Arizona and it NEVER rains. And it is raining cats and dogs today. I was just so sad to hear the fear in his voice. I really hope in the days to come things get better.

[Mrs.B_Div 302_Ship9]

aww, you're gonna make it thru! My husband has been gone for almost 7 weeks now, and it's been hard. No denying that. I cry still, at times, but don't worry about the tears. Let them come. They're healing.

Suggestions: keep busy and start writing him letters now, even tho you don't have his address yet. Write him every day...they live for those letters. My husband wrote me and told me he would not make it through Boot Camp if he didn't have letters. The first letter you get from him will probably be a little depressing, but just remember that they're going thru a VERY hard time and it really DOES get better as the weeks go by. When my husband called me one time, he said some things were actually sorta fun. So just write him all the positive, sweet, supporting stuff you can. Even the little mundane things, like something funny that you saw that day, or heard.

If he likes comics, cut some out of the newspaper and send them to him, or print out his Facebook posts from his friends...or do something fun! Make sure you send pictures of you and him too. They NEED pictures. My husband said he carries one of me around all day in his pocket so he can look at it and he says he "draws strength" from seeing my picture.

Don't worry about crying...I break down crying in the store sometimes, when I'm picking out cards for him, or just plain shopping and suddenly miss him. People might look at you strange, but more likely (like what has happened to me) they'll ask me if I'm ok...and I"ll tell them I just miss my husband who is in the military. Normally they're VERY nice after that, as most people support our troops and their families. Don't be ashamed of the tears. They're normal and good.

Blessings~
Let me know if I can be of any help...even if you just need someone to write to.

[MeganMcK]

Hi Jordan! My husband left this week as well and the first day or so was the hardest. It does seem to be getting easier by the moment. Everyone is right when they say "just keep busy." Just keep a positive attitude that this is all for the best, and great things will come of it.

Take care and keep in touch if you need to!

Megan

[Josh's Wife ET3]

Some days are worse then others. Some days youll be stronger than others and some days you wont be able to get yourself out of bed. I didnt do my hair or makeup the entire time my husband was gone, and i cried every single day i woke up.... The crying never stopped until i was with him again. I lost 16 lbs while he was gone.

Things i did to make it better..... Made a count down of days till PIR, wrote all day every day ( i never put my note book down) it was almost like i was actually having a conversation with him if i never stopped writing. And tried to work as much as possible to keep busy.

Night for me where the easiest bc it was one more day down and one more day closer to my husband... Mornings were the hardest bc it was another day i had to start without him.

dont ever leave your phone cause you never know when a call may come (the first one will be about 4 weeks in like your husband said) and then phone calls are privileges after that. some calls are long (my longest was 2 hours) and others are only 5 to 10 minutes. i got a total of about 4 calls. phone calls are the best aswell as letters, youll find yourself stalking the mail man haha i got on a first name basis with mine lol. It wont get easier till about your last week or 2 when you are so excited you cant be said anymore! stay strong you can do it, come here for support thats the only thing that got me through the hard times when i didnt have my husband. Right now the time hes gone is going to feel like a life time but when you look back youll see time flys!

[Sarahetswife]

Hey Jordan,
It will get better. Its hard at first but it does get alot better. You have graduation to look forward to and make sure you write him lots of letters after you get his address. Enjoy every minute you get to talk to him when he is able to call. Tell him you love him every chance you get and let him know how proud of him you are and that you are behind him and supporting him 110%. Anything else I can help with feel free to send me a message.

[Jordan (Ship-02 Div-950)]

I got the first form letter today!!!! He left me a note on the bottom so excited!!!!!!! I guess he had a nickname that they all call him in basic. Such a good day!!!!!

[AbbyP]

I got his form letter yesterday as well! Soooooo exciting! PIR date is 10/15/10.... I'm guessing yours is the same? YAY!!!

[Jordan (Ship-02 Div-950)]

His PIR is 20101029 (10/29/10)

[Jordan (Ship-02 Div-950)]

So now im confused......My husband left on 8/25/10 and his PIR is 2 weeks after yours......WHY

[Mrs.B_Div 302_Ship9]

What division is your husband in, Jordan?

The only thing I can think, is if the other lady's husband left near the same time yours did is that her husband got into what they call a "push division" and they finish in 7 weeks instead of 8-9 weeks. My husband left the same time someone else did, yet the other person got into a push division and my husband didn't.

The recruits get no choice as to which division they are assigned to. :( but the push divisions actually have it MUCH harder than the other ones, a lot of times. Just relax...I know it's hard to do, trust me...but just be a support to your hubby, send him lots and LOTS of letters.

Blessings~
Mrs. B

[Jordan (Ship-02 Div-950)]

He is Ship06 Div950