Hi, my boyfriend is stationed here in Mayport and just deployed for 9 months on the USS Gettysburg. This is very new to my 2 girls and I and I am struggling a bit getting used to the idea of him not being around all of the time like before. We have gone through a few underways but they were a breeze compared to this. I feel like my heart has been ripped from my chest. It is really tough getting used to this but I am feeling a little better every day. I could really use some advice from anyone who can help and would love to get to know any girlfriends/fiances/wives who are here in Mayport as well. I really feel like I need some friends in my same situation because my friends now don't quite understand what I'm going through. I have been getting some good advice and support from his wonderful parents but they live out of state. It would be nice to get to know some people around here. I will be going to the FRG meetings but I am not sure when the first meeting even is and am hoping to get some advice prior to the that so that I can get to feeling a little less lonely. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
My boyfriend had actually added me to the Ombudsman's list but I had to actually join the Facebook page in order to follow all of the activities, meetings, events, etc. which neither him nor I were aware of so luckily I did that just in time to find out and make it to the first FRG meeting. It was great and I did meet some great people. I am looking forward to all of the activities that are lined up. I think I have found the support that I need but it is still really tough. I seem to have more bad days than good but I am hoping that with time that will change. How long has your son been in the Navy? How many deployments has he been on? Tomorrow is my boyfriend's 30th birthday and I hate that I am missing such a big event. We celebrated right before he left but it doesn't make it any easier. My daughter's birthday was last week and that was hard not having him here and he missed my birthday in May because he was underway. The birthdays and other holidays are SO much harder knowing that he is not here with us. We are trying to fly out to be with his family either for Thanksgiving or Christmas though so we are really looking forward to that. I think it will make me feel that much closer to him being with the ones that have been with him his whole life. His mom and dad have been a great support system for me. I am truly blessed to have them in my life and look forward to when they are officially my in-laws :-) I am sorry for the delayed response but it's just been tough the last couple of weeks. I have been fighting with myself to get out of bed and do things that need to be done. It is getting better though. I just keep reminding myself that at least he's coming home to us. We want to get married once he is home so that gives me something to really look forward to as well. Anyway, WOW, I'm sorry I have been ranting. I guess I really needed to talk to someone lol Thank you for your response and I hope to hear from you soon. Take care and God bless!!