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Comment by Lala Ribbon Queen PIR Ribbons on July 29, 2010 at 11:34pm

I will also say that all young women should be able to take care of themselves before they can take care of a family. They should go to school, get a degree and be self sufficient. It is important that all women know how to take care of themselves and know that they don't need a man to take care of them. It gives you a feeling of empowerment. Believe me I know. I thought I was in love and wanted to get married. I skipped 11th grade and graduated high school in 3 years. I turned 17 in April and got married in June, one week after I graduated. I went from my parents home to his home and when he walked out on me and our 3 yr old son 5 years later I had no idea how to take care of myself. He had let our house go back to the owner and he took all the food we had left in the house. I had a 3 yr old, no place to live, no food and a part time job. Believe me I learned very quickly how to take care of myself. And it felt so good. I didn't have to depend on anyone for anything. And I was a lot better at handling my money than he had been. It put a new prospective on my relationships after that. I guess I didn't feel like I had to settle. I was capable of taking care of me and my son and when someone else came along he had to be exactly what I needed. Best lesson I have ever learned.

Comment by Lala Ribbon Queen PIR Ribbons on July 29, 2010 at 11:31pm

Mandypants- you know you and I have talked quit a bit. I feel like I know you pretty well. The girls everyone here have been talking about are just that, they are girls. They get caught up in the moment and because they are immature they have fairytale dreams. You have been through a lot and it has been hard. You are a very mature young woman and no matter what path life leads you on you will do fine. You are strong and determined and you seem to know what is right for you. You seem to take control in every situation that comes up. You came to PIR all by yourself, he had no other family there to support him and you even tried to help them understand how important it was. See you get it because you are mature. Your sailor is lucky to have such a bright, strong and determined woman at his side. We love you Amanda, you are a part of us and always will be. :)

Comment by Lynne on July 29, 2010 at 10:31pm

binkersmom....CHEERS! I will drink to that country navy song...oh yessss!

Comment by Lynne on July 29, 2010 at 10:29pm

JDmom and GIGI....
my son recognized your sons!! He was looking at the PIR pictures and he came across your sons..."hey I know these guys"! I have not had that experience before, how cool that he knew them. He said that div 245 was a really put together division...right from the start they seemed like they had already been through boot camp! lol. He said your son was a really nice guy, he did not remember names but he remembered him and said he was always helping people...AWWW, how nice, right?? Gigi...my son said your son was really nice...very quiet that first week...(gee, smart boy! lol). I was just happy that he was able to see some of the people he recognized!!

Comment by Binker & Bro: 2X Nuke Mom on July 29, 2010 at 10:23pm

Michi! You know you belong to us whether you feel comfy or not--so you just hunker yourself down in the NUKE site or I'll have to go hop on that train again and come get you!

And I'm working on another verse for that perfect country and navy song--one about adhd and being sent back to texas and pink haired hussies and being drunk on oreo milk shakes and . . .

Comment by Michimom (MM Nuke Mom) on July 29, 2010 at 10:18pm

Binker's Mom, Thanks so much for the info from your son about the nukes. I'll share that in my next letter to my son. That's especially encouraging (about the layover), since I'm sure my son would love to have some of his former shipmates as his classmates in SC.

I will get around to joining the 7/23 nukes site. It still feels a little weird, though, since my son is still at RTC and he isn't yet in a new ship and division. It's like we're in limbo and don't really belong anywhere right now. I think he's anxious to get back into training, but he of course has to wait until his body is ready!

And reading all this about girlfriends and marrying while in the Navy makes me glad we had the conversation with our son before boot camp about waiting until he's older (he's just 18) before he settles down, and that him being in the service will make him suddenly more attractive to certain females who just want the military benefits. It helps that he's a bit shy! He did tell me, Mom, you don't have to worry about that. LOL

Comment by Lynne on July 29, 2010 at 10:16pm

Peaches...
I need to come over and bitch-slap me a scooby doo pink haired little BIOTCH (does anyone use that word anymore??)
Oh just let her come to my house and try to tell me how its going to go!!

Comment by rorysmom(Ship13Div244) on July 29, 2010 at 10:10pm

Oh My, My Oreo Friends!!! Haven't been able to be on for awhile and now fainting, marrying and all other sorts of things! Ruthann! So happy your son is fine! We were way down at the opposite side...saw a young man from Div 243 being helped out. Praise God your boy didn't hit his head and get a concussion or something like that! And all these engagements so quickly! Wow...from one emotional roller coaster to another!

Comment by Lynne on July 29, 2010 at 10:03pm

mandy,
there is nothing , absolutely nothing wrong with being young and being married to a navy man who is just starting out in his career. Navy wives can be such a strength to our sailors with their genuine love for their husbands, allowing their husbands to grow and thrive, giving them peace of mind that they have not just a house to return to...but a HOME.

I would never want to discourage you or any OTHER good and wonderful women out there who have taken on the challenge of becoming a young navy wife!!
Its not an easy thing to do, and yet, its an incredibly rewarding and exciting life (as long as) young wives are strong and have enough confidence to live their own lives while maintaining a home for their family. Its a complex thing, and I think you are starting to get that idea anyway, as you have witnessed some of those complexities of the highs and lows with bootcamp, right?

I don't want you to misunderstand.....I wholeheartedly support and encourage young familes to THRIVE, to inspire one another to be the best individual they can be...I really do.... and I would be there for any young couple who genuinely loved one another and were committed to building a healthy life together..

It's the women who give brand new sailors ultimatums out of fear and selfishness, the women who will plan to get pregnant without letting their sailor in on that plan until the baby is on the way...the women who don't have enough strength or confidence to contribute in a healthy way to a marriage and wind up sabotaging it....THESE are the women that I have an issue with and I would encourage young sailors to steer clear from these women who have the potential to break a sailor.

Sometimes, guys don't see the through the disguise these group of women wear, because they are in a weird place right now, with things changing so fast. They do try to hang on to the familiar while everything is changing. Sometimes that which is familiar to them is the very thing that NEEDS to change, lol....but they don't recognize that. Again, I refer to the group of women who still need to find themselves and find emotional maturity...not age maturity...make sense?

So please don't be upset about this topic....I would never want you to feel this pertains to you, simply because you are young, ok?? It sounds like you are exactly where you need to be in your life and your sailor is quite lucky indeed to get it right !

As long as your relationship is healthy and you both inspire one another and there is an unwavering trust as a foundation...and enough love to last a lifetime, nothing and I mean NOTHING can break that bond apart!
take care:)

Comment by Binker & Bro: 2X Nuke Mom on July 29, 2010 at 10:02pm

Mandy darlin'--you are not the leach we see when we are talking about these "young ladies" (said with tongue in cheek). You see, sweetie, you are a LADY. You are the kind of young WOMAN any of us would be proud to call our future daughter-in-law. I can almost guarentee, just like with Joelle, if that Sailor of yours cant make up his mind, there are 1034 (minus all the married ones and the lady sailors, of course) other moms waiting to introduce you the her son. You have a good head on your shoulders. You may not know exactly where you are headed yet, but you can put a swirl on a cup of mochafrapalattechino like no ones business and that skill is helping you make your way through the world while you decide where you are going. Dont forget, that sailor of yours was first and foremost a friend. I presume, you didnt jump his bones thirty seven seconds after you met him in order to get pregnant and etc, etc etc. I guess what I'm trying to say is these girls are acting like succubus pieces of trash. Our Mandypants could never fit that description. Trust us. We are not talking about the you. hugs and kisses sweetie!

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