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Comment by Lynne on July 29, 2010 at 10:27am

ahhh, Ruthann, that sounds great! Dosent it do your heart and your mind good to hear that excitement in your kid's voices?? That is just great. yes, I can only imagine the horror you felt as your son fell out..not only falling out but STAYING out to where he was dragged out...wow. The odds of that happening, lol. Glad to hear he was ok once he was tended to. Gotta love that song, there Ruthann! LOL...a wonderfully...TWISTED song, lol....we certainly are kindred spirits, lol...thinking you were my twin sister in a previous life!

Comment by Lynne on July 29, 2010 at 10:17am

Proudmom, your son is getting married? Wow! ( Can I say congratulations?) If this is good news, then congratulations...:)

So, on one hand, I understand his need to want to hang on to an aspect of his life that is not changing as fast as everything else in his life is changing...because his life is REALLY changing so fast now, that I bet he barely recognizes it!
The girlfriend probably told him she was moving on unless he married her. He may need still, to hang on to a bit of his childhood, and she, I assume, is a big part of his childhood? Marrying her may be his attempt to keep SOMETHING recognizable while everything else is changing, just a thought.

so, on one hand I understand this...but on the other, as a mom, I would rather hear him say that he is holding off on making any permanent decisions that will affect his life until AFTER he is out of school and is at least established at his first duty station, you know? He has so much to acclimate himself to right now, without adding the extra pressure of a WIFE into the mix of it all, you know?

Hopefully, he will wait...if you have a good relationship with the girlfriend maybe you can tell her that being married will not stop girls from "looking at him", LOL, and the truth is, a wedding ring on a young man in uniform is like CATNIP to those young ladies out there!!! Seriously, the wedding band AND a man in uniform? Yeah, they will not only look, they will try to touch too!

You may want to tell her that the Navy always, always and forever, comes first... before the wife, mother, family....that is how it is. She will have to get in line, she will really have to know this..
Wives play the waiting game and endure many long months separated while their husbands are deployed. Wives need to be strong on their own accord and have their own lives to turn to while their husbands are gone or else they will fall apart..in other words, they need to be OK being on their own. If they are not ok being on their own and they fall apart, they tend to sabotage the husband while the husband is deployed and THAT is a horrible thing to see.

It just is a bad situation if the wife is not strong and put together enough. So many young wives who are not strong enough, start to give in to the attention from other guys and once the husband is gone, they hook up with their boyfriends...I have seen wives kiss their husbands goodbye and wave while the ship is leaving port and then you will find them sitting on their boyfriend's lap in a club that very night! Unreal, huh!
Sorry about these horror stories but better to have eyes wide open to the reality than to think only with the heart, right?

Another thought, now that I am on a roll, LOL...
If she does not have a college education she may find it very difficult to find a job, because at her age, she may not have enough skills to be marketable each time they are transferred. I can not stress enough, that military spouses really do need to have their own lives, so they can stand alone without leaning on their husband. In the end, all you can do is advise these kids and hope that they find the best direction and pray that whatever they choose will work out.

I am hoping for the best outcome for you all...and again, if this is good news, then...congratulations! LOL

Comment by gmanswife on July 29, 2010 at 8:51am

well my husband is finally at school, and not sure how hes liking it so far, they didn't arrive until after 2 in the morning! got there and hadn't eaten since lunch, and there was someone asleep in his rack! haha he wasn't a happy camper, but on the upside i have gotten to talk to him everyday so far and it has been wonderful, i still jump for the phone when it rings! theres nothing like distance for a relationship i guess! i get to go see him next weekend!!!! yay!

Comment by KPsMom on July 29, 2010 at 8:42am

BTW - I tweaked my username and removed Kyle's ship and division number.

Comment by KPsMom on July 29, 2010 at 8:41am

I would think life would be so much harder being married in the Navy. I was told that my son belonged to the Navy now, not me. So the wife of a sailor must be hard. I wonder if the girlfriend really understands what the future holds?

Comment by Lala Ribbon Queen PIR Ribbons on July 29, 2010 at 8:20am

What is it about the Navy that makes everyone want to get married? Well, aside from the obvious. I guess being "alone" makes them think like idiots. I thought they had to have permission from the Navy to get married.....

Comment by Michimom (MM Nuke Mom) on July 29, 2010 at 8:16am

Well, ladies, I just can't stay away, even though my son is still at RTC. He was ship 3, div 244; now he's in what I believe is part of RCU, ship 6, div 2341 (I don't know why four digits when all of the rest have three--I guess because it's not your ususal division). We don't know his PIR date--maybe 8/20 or 8/27. I know he made friends in his old division, so I thought I'd share what's up with him.

Just got a letter yesterday from him, and he mentioned that the tornado siren went off at 0006 the morning of Friday, 7/23. They all went to the head (bathroom) and sat down until the clear was given, about 40 minutes later. Lots of lightning and bad rain. He just sat down and leaned against the wall and fell asleep in about 10 minutes. Obviously he was not afraid. LOL

He's lost 14 pounds, which he did not need to lose at all. He also lost his ID, ATM/debit card, phone card, glasses and money! They are looking for them and we sure hope everything is just misplaced and found soon. Maybe they put the valuables someplace safe and they will find them later. I don't even want to think about replacing his ID, debit card and glasses from a distance!

He said he felt "multitudes" better around Tuesday (the 20th), he thinks because of all the walking around he's been doing--back and forth to Tranquility (medical), a different division, etc.

Since I know there were a lot of nukes in his divsion, he will probably see some of your sailors when he heads down to SC after his PIR. And your posts are helpful, so I can let him know what to expect when he gets there!

Comment by Peaches0512 Navy Mom on July 29, 2010 at 1:56am

OMG my son was trying to do the same thing very soon,

Comment by MandyPants (Ship 13 Div 244) on July 28, 2010 at 11:51pm

Hello lovely ladies! I'm still sort of floating in my haze of happy memories from this weekend--it was so much more than I ever could have imagined hoping for! :) Being the only one to come see my Sailor has its upsides, no sharing! lol I'm down in O'Fallon, IL at the Southern part of the state visiting with my dad--so I guess I'm still sort of on vacation. I head home to Southern California on Saturday. It will be strange to return to my "normal" life. Back to working at Starbucks, so literally back to "the grind" Oh ho ho! :)

I've gotten to talk to Josh every night since I dropped him off at A school in Great Lakes. He's bored but he seems to be doing well. He was nodding off today during a class and the instructor kept trying to catch him off guard but when they had the test he was one of the only ones to get 100%! :D The only crappy thing that they've found out is they don't quite have enough ENFNs to start a new group, so they're gonna be on hold for a bit. They're at 15 right now, hoping to get the necessary amount with this Fridays grads!

Well, just wanted to check in and make myself known! I was too quiet in the last group, time to speak up and out now!!

Comment by Lala Ribbon Queen PIR Ribbons on July 28, 2010 at 11:08pm

gotta get some sleep now ladies, still trying to catch up. Have a good night.

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