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Comment by Angel W ProudMom on May 31, 2011 at 10:30am

Jessicay24, yes hell week was last week recieved a letter from my daughter

telling us that it was going to be a very busy week for them.

Comment by Linda on May 31, 2011 at 10:17am

Well I'm worried about my son I have heard that div-208 is sick I havent heard from him in over a week...I can't stand this not knowing...And this gas chamber thing well I have been on my knees praying for all of them I can feel something inside that just isn't right I think that it is happening right now Idk maybe i'm crazy but I feel it Sqeekers if your man is in the Navy I'm sorry sweetie but he is married to the Navy You have to share him I don't mean to sound cruel but that's the truth stay strong and don't fight it embrace it You should be strong and proud...LOVE

Comment by diannep on May 31, 2011 at 10:05am

...meant to say...."I bet many, if not most of them, felt as do in the beginning!"

Comment by diannep on May 31, 2011 at 10:03am

This is the place to vent, Squeekerz.  Anytime you want to...I pray for strength for you and your children while he is away, and that your love and commitment to one another will become even stronger.  I know it is hard with him away when you have children to raise.  I have been a single mom for 10 yrs...mine were in the "lovely" teenage years when my hubby died suddenly.  Not easy and certainly not the road I would have chosen after being with him for 27 yrs...but it made me realize I can stand on my own two feet because I had to...and I felt so good about that!  I hope you have seen "Coming Home" on Lifetime at 10 PM EST on Sunday nights.  Maybe you can watch some episodes on the computer.  The strength in those military ladies is amazing...and I bet many, iff not most, of them felt as you do in the beginning. 

Believe in yourself...challenge yourself...and know that you have more in you than maybe you think!  A kind of "bootcamp" for you to pull out the very best in yourself!  :-)  Hang in there...we are praying for you, your family, and your SR.

Comment by Squeekerz on May 31, 2011 at 8:39am

As much as I'm worried about his happiness, I'm sorta being selfish lately in how I feel.  I've already wanted to run from the situation multiple times.  If we weren't engaged, I probably would've...  I feel like an awful person, but I am a very emotional person, and I can't see myself being able to support him if after A-school he is on a ship for 6 months, off for 6 months, then on for 6 months again...  That lifestyle is too difficult for me.  I can deal with long hours and occasional absences, but if my partner is going to be gone 75% of the time, I couldn't cope, especially with my children.

 

As for him being in the Navy for himself.  I can definitely encourage him.  I want him to do whatever it is that will make him proud and happy about his life.  I'll never tell him not to do it... but part of me really thinks that I may eventually end up leaving him because it will just get to hard for me.  This time he's been away has been the longest I've ever been alone, to be honest.

 

OI. I wish I were a normal person. . .  I should reschedule my psychologist appointment because I realize I am not doing well lately.  Boo to that.   And sorry to vent to you ladies about my weaknesses when it comes to relationships.   I feel like I'm going to get chewed out 'cause I can't be supportive.   I know it's massively hard for all the parents of recruits and sailors. :(

Comment by KC'smom on May 31, 2011 at 8:28am

I agree with you diannep- I don't so much like my job right now either, but it sure pays the bills! ha! And the GI bill at the end of their term is awesome!  I was going to be paying $20k/year for my son's education. He left college to join the Navy and one of his incentives was the GI bill.  The Navy will pay for his college and even dorm fee from what I read.  Plus, they are going to teach him a new language that will get him a civilian job when he chooses to leave. If you get married, he will be able to put you and the kids up in a house and you all will have excellent paid medical insurance. (just trying to show you a bright side - hahaha, I don't even know if my own SR will make it!!!)

Comment by diannep on May 31, 2011 at 7:40am

Squeekerz:  Having a stationed sailor, I can tell you that many find that military life is not for them from what I hear from him.  However, having SAID that, it doesn't mean that the sailors who feel this way are "miserable' for 4 yrs.  I mean, let's face it...there are many in civilian jobs who are very unhappy, but it is a JOB and that is a huge thing in these hard economic times.  And---the Navy is constantly teaching these men/women, so even if they decide that the military is not something they want to make a career out of, they are learning, being mentored, and getting wonderful benefits/training that they can carry with them when they leave the Navy. 

Your SR has to understand that the Navy is NOT like it is in bootcamp.  "A" School is a huge relief for them (more like a college atmosphere)...my son explained it to me as it was explained to him when there.  "A" School is a "stepping stone" to more freedom and individual responsiblity because once you reach "the fleet," there is even more freedom and they want you to be responsible.  Bootcamp is the "changing/molding' process for the SRs.  It is a "breakdown" process and then a "buildup" process.  They push the SRs to the brink so that they can find within themselves what they didn't know they could accomplish...it can only be done this way.

So keep encouraging him...the Navy is a wonderful job for these SRs and when you see how many are being turned down when trying to get in now, you and your SR should feel so honored that he had what it took to be chosen.  Because it truly is an honor!  As my son said, this is the "new" Navy...and all should feel honored to be a part of it.

I know it is so difficult for you....so continue to vent on here....and pray for your SR and encourage, even if in your heart you just want him to come home. 

Comment by Jessicay24 on May 31, 2011 at 7:25am

Well thanks for confirming that! It is already over and I didn't even know it ha :) I know he is probably a little excited for the firefighting training so that is good! But not some much on the gas chamber...I saw a youtube video of that not too long ago...not fun!

Comment by Sunnyb on May 31, 2011 at 7:12am

MamaCindy...  I confirm the schedule.  That is why I got in a letter to.. he said, by the time you get this letter, hell week will be over. And next week is firefighting training and the gas chamber. I had friends who were in the Navy 20 yrs. yesterday tell me about the gas chamber. He said, if you son is like me, excels in everything, strong willed and pig headed... they will make them stay in longer. He said he was the first to go in and the last to leave..  Whelp he is still alive to tell the story.   So I'm thinkin they will be fine!

Hi Deb... were in the same Div!  931

Comment by Squeekerz on May 31, 2011 at 12:44am

Maybe.  Part of me is hoping the silver lining to this is that he'll be sent home. LOL  I know it's a big and silly wish, but yeah... I'm selfish.  Before he even went in for the fractures he had written his mother saying he didn't think this was the life he wanted to have...  I wish I could talk to him.. because I'd try and ask him if he was feeling the doubts because of how hard boot camp is.. or if it's how he truly feels.   I don't want him to quit because it's hard... but I don't want him to stick with it when it will make him miserable for at least 4 years....

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