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Comment by kgrmom on May 13, 2012 at 7:11pm

Happy Mother's Day back to all of you :) 

We turn into Military mom's whether we want to or not but it's just as hard on the dads.  My husband doesn't know what to do with himself as we watch our daughter try to pack her life into little compartments in the other room.  He's  trying to "be here" for moral support or to carry something or whatever.  She and I can't seem to do anything but argue over everything important like, sheets or plates or whether to put that in a box or leave it out.  :(:(   My brain knows it's part of the process but my emotional side just sits here lost.  And I thought I was doing so well - I hope these little chunks of sadness are short lived.

Somehow I guess we all adjust :)   For now-- I'm having Ice Cream - lots of it - LOL.

 

Comment by kgrmom on May 12, 2012 at 9:10am

Hey everyone-

I've been "away" for quite some time but had to pop in when I read ViperGirl's comment.  Something about it just really touched me and I wanted to add my two cents if you all can stand it :)

I thought  (VP) said that really pretty darn well and point on.  We are a non-military family- until now.  My daughter and soon to be Ensign is my oldest.  In general we are not the overshadowing types of parents but she's our girl- we also have 2 boys.  She's independent, feisty, follows the rules, etc. etc. but things happen over the course of 4 years in college.  I have RARELY contacted the unit officers myself but there has been a few times if I have a major concern.  When I do, I always start with "Please don't tell my daughter I called.." ..... ha !  Guess what-  They always have told her.

Secondly- Imagine how taken aback I was when I was stopped and corrected in mid-sentence as I referred to the students as "kids".  They were all of 18/ 19 year old kids and the Marine officer very clearly and very politely assured me they were adults. Young adults- yes, but adults nonetheless.  It started right then, a little track to I guess a more military way of thinking.  We learned that we would be doing more harm than good by butting in.  She comes to us if she needs something.  When I can't deal- I talk to other ROTC moms and that brings me back to  a rational place and prevents making a big mistake (like calling a unit officer).

Drugs?  Eeks- have they not had any surprise drug tests yet?  That should make them think about it.  There was a wise mom on here that put it into a great monetary perspective by saying for anyone else that one joint might cost them a small fine, for our kids (um, adults ) it could/would cost them about $200,000 and a career.  It can't possibly be that good.

My daughter graduates and commissions Memorial Day weekend !  The movers are coming this Wednesday to move her "stuff" so she will have 2 weeks of living out of suitcases pretty much.  Then she is off to Pearl Harbor within a week or two of commissioning.  It's all happening so fast it's insane.

Comment by helenp on May 12, 2012 at 9:02am

I still call my son "Baby Boy" and he lets me. I remind him every time I speak to him that I love him and to be careful. I remind him about drinking and drugs and to study. That's because I'm a Mom.

However, I totally agree with ViperGirl. My goal is for my son to function 100% without my input. He is finishing his sophomore year, and he is already there. He gets to and from college (halfway across the country) alone, moving and storing his belongings. He does it all. 

He just got his orders for his 3C Cruise out of Pearl Harbor! He will stay at school this summer as he got himself a Research Job at his University, so he will assemble & pack for the cruise on his own. There will be no one to see him off at the airport. I feel bad. He doesn't. He's there. He's an adult at 20 years old. 

That being said, he does still need me. The connection is still there. He calls me when he gets good news and bad. He tells me stuff. It's good.

Comment by bora's mom on May 11, 2012 at 4:10pm

This forum has been such a help for me the last three years. Besides being a wealth of information, I have a place where there are others with the same concerns, worries or fears. This is a safe place to vent, wonder and BRAG.

We accept that there are no dumb questions, that the commands don't all have the same communication skills. At times we have found out things here before our kids. Hearing from other moms about their kids' experiences has helped me understand what she is facing and going through. I don't need to know- rather I want to know.

For the moms who wrote their kids, I'd bet it was something they wanted to do.

There has been underage drinking at every college forever. Does it hurt to remind a kid that drinking in San Diego is different, that it has cost some kids scholarships/careers? How? It was my perogative to tell my daughter to bring sunscreen, moleskin and the repercussions others had faced for drinking at CORTRAMID. True confession time: I even still ask my kids (and DH) to drive carefully and I tell them I love them when they leave.

NavymomBarb you are so right, we all know our kids best. We all have different parenting styles and relationships with our kids. At this stage there are fewer mandates and more suggestions, discussions. It's what we have strived for. The world is less black and white and more (battleship) grays.

Comment by Dyanne on May 10, 2012 at 3:12pm

ok thanks so much to you all ;-)

Comment by bora's mom on May 10, 2012 at 1:17pm

The order of the weeks will probably be different but there was stand around and wait time in 3 of the 4 weeks. Breaking in the boots now might help with the blisters. Cards are a wonderful idea.

The photos have straightened out. My poor iPad was objecting to the cold this morning (42 degrees). That and the coffee.

Comment by Dyanne on May 10, 2012 at 11:34am

Bryan is suppose to be 1 week, Marines, 1 week sub, 1 week aviation, 1 week ship... does that still mean extra down time in SanDiego?

Comment by Dyanne on May 10, 2012 at 10:36am

 

ok ....going to sound dumb but what is CORTRAMID I truly am a newby to all the acronyms and Navy stuff...lol...

Comment by Dyanne on May 10, 2012 at 10:24am

Thanks so much I will pass the advice onto Bryan.

To: Jn/Jf mom: My picture is Bryan in UT shirt with me and his dad, Lukes mama picture is Luke in his cacky uniform.

Comment by bora's mom on May 10, 2012 at 8:55am

My computer must be messed up because Luke's Mama and Dyanne have the same photo?e

Dyanne and other lurking moms, the past posts will help and google CORTRAMID, sometimes you find the latest official Navy memos and packets. Not all units get the info out.
Sunscreen, foot blister treatment, camera and money. They are serious about the no drinking, they will be sent home.

My dd still talks about it. Loved it.

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