How do you do it. When he went into boot camp no news was good news. A 4 minute phone call changed all of that. Wednesday he called and said that he had fractured his elbow. No PIR 11/22,but that they had told him he might still make that PIR. Either he is or isn't. He said that he could work on his non physical requirements for graduation. Most of his requirements are physical. PFA and such. He said that he would be able to write letters daily. It takes 3 to 4 days for letters to arrive, so no letter till tomorrow maybe Monday. I have no way to know how bad the break is. He said that first they wanted to do surgery but changed their minds. He started physical therapy the next day. If it was bad enough for surgery would you do physical therapy that soon. I have friends who are PT's and they said no weigh bearing for 8 weeks but did not understand starting PT so soon. He was 3 weeks from PIR. So now we don't know when PIR will be. The important thing is WHAT IS GOING ON. I had seen moms post on boot camp about their SR being injured and no info. I now understand how upset it is to not know what is going on. I am such an impatient person normally and this is SOOOOO hard. If you have had your SR in this situation please help me get through this. I need someone to talk to who has been through this. My friends here at home say "it will be okay" "just ask him what is going on". They talk to their kids several times a day and do not understand that I can not get on the phone, computer or text him to find out. To make it worse I received a letter from him from before he was injured. He was doing so good. Had passed his swim test and everything.
Thank you I need all the encouragement I can get. In my letters I do not let him know how I am feeling. He blames himself so much. I got that in the phone call telling us of his injury
tidefan... I am so sorry to hear about your son's injury. I can only tell you that everything you just described is exactly what every mom that has had that phone call experiences. I will say that the phone call we received was a 30 second call that said he had a complete break of his fibula. It was heartbreaking and I cried for hours afterward. I have never felt so helpless in my life. Unable to talk with him or see him to know exactly how bad. It was an excruciating 7 months of casts and therapy. He was able to complete boot camp at the doctors' hesitation, but he was so determined to get out of RCU after 3 months. He still had to continue with therapy and rehabilitation, but he was now in THU on hold for medical issues. They finally released him after 2 more months only for him to re-break the leg and end up back in medical. They let him come home at New Year's for 4 days. It was so hard to send him back. it was the longs 4 months of not seeing him or talking with him I ever experienced. He was finally released from medical after a total of 7 months and was released for duty. He was able to come home in July for 1 week before leaving for Bahrain. He is doing well and I can say that through lots of prayer and support from the wonderful Moms in RCU we were able to get through those difficult months. They are all a blur now. He was able to come home for a 20 day visit in September. We are hoping he will be re-assigned stateside in July.
This was an extremely difficult time for him as well. He went in with a Spec Ops contract and, needless to say, he lost it with the second break. He had to re-class and lost 2 levels of rank. It was devastating for him because that is all he has ever wanted to do. When you get his address, write him often. I wrote everyday and gave as much encouragement as I could. He will start to doubt himself and feel like he has let you down. You will have to provide as much encouragement as you can muster which is extremely hard when your heart is breaking as well. I think the most difficult part of this whole "adventure" as we all came to call it, was trying to keep my disappointment and heartbreak away from him. He was older than the majority of the recruits. He was 23 at the time. It is hard to realize it was almost 3 years ago. I continue to keep up with RCU because I know what a tremendous ordeal it is.
Unfortunately, this is just one of many heartbreaking journeys will travel through. But, keep at the forefront of your thoughts, this is just for a short while. I kept holding on to the fact that the Good Lord will never put on us more than we can bear. I also held on to the belief that "this too shall pass".
Friend me if you would like to chat. I will be glad to help you through this in any way I can. I always found comfort in talking with those who have been through similar circumstances. It is good to be able to talk with those who understand what you are going through. Even my closest friends try to be understanding, but they could not relate to what we were going through. We are praying for you and your son.
Adrienne ... I will be glad to share what I know and have experienced. Unfortunately, no matter how you prepare, it will be a difficult journey. I am just grateful it wasn't broken. It is a hurry up and wait game. You are in the dark more than you have ever been before. One thing you will have to embrace is patience. Believe me, that is not easy. I will be honest, I shed a lot of tears over that year. Nothing can break your heart as bad as hearing your grown son crying on the other end of the phone and you can't hold him. You have to be strong for him and encourage him. Tell him how proud you are of him.
You may not know for several weeks what the outcome will be. The good part of this is that he will be able to call you after he sees the doctor. That is usually once a week, unless it has changed. Also, he will be able to continue his training that doesn't involve his foot.
Say lots of prayers. Put him on as many prayer lists as you can. As soon as you get his address, write him everyday. He will need the encouragement. Tell how proud you are of him and keep his chin up. It will be hard on him, but it will make him a stronger person and it will help build his character. Being Spec Ops says a lot in itself. They are a different breed.. They look at adversity from a different perspective.
I hope I helped. Will be glad to chat anytime.
He is doing good-bored.I think he may be in phase 3. No PIR probably but will graduate and get to CT eventually
My son graduated this past weekend-no PIR but we got to go up and see him Fri/Sat/Sun. He is THU for now and then goes to Groton for subs
tidefan... So glad to hear he is doing better. I am really glad you were able to see him. It seems like such a long time while they are there and the not knowing really weighs on you. Please keep in touch and let me know how he is progressing. Any idea how long he will be in THU. It varies. Our son was there for 4 months, but he was also still receiving physical therapy. Prayers coming your way.
He is suppose to leave for Groton next week. He had to do a TB skin test because someone in his original division tested positive. When they read the results he will leave after that.