How do you get in contact with your SR while on Ship 5? Can you call someone to get your SR to call you?

[TabsMom11]

My daughter has contacted her boyfriend instead of us(her parents)to let him know that she is going to be medically discharged.  I know the phone calls from her will be at her discression(when allowed).  Im just wondering if we could call someone to get her to call us.  I think she may be embarrassed, or think we would be disappointed in her, is the reason why she didnt call us. 

I dont know all of the details of her medical discharge, and would like to know more from her.  Not second hand.

 

Thank you in advance!

[TFAN2]

Sorry to hear your SR is being separated. There's a couple of ways to leave a msg for her but ultimately it is her decision. You can call Seperations Admin at 1.847.688.7444 ext 456.  You can also call Mr. Senko in legal at 1.847. 688.4949 EXT 228, you can let him know you would like to talk to her once he has met with her but hopefully you will have been able to talk with her before she talks to Mr. Senko. Your SR needs to sign a HIPAA release to allow you to ask questions about the medical condition and a legal release to allow you to ask questions about why she is being seperated and how the process works. If you are able to talk to her try to find out exactly what they are discharging her for. If she wants to stay she needs to exhaust all appeal efforts while she is in Ship 5. Once her paper work is signed her chances of getting back in to the military are REALLY slim, like less then 1%. 

There is a ton of good info on this site to help you thru the process. Start with the main forum as it has info from a member "sepsadmin" and "fireteamleaderwife". They check in quite often. Keep in mind too that even though the SR's are usually allowed to call home everyday they are limited on how much time they get. They can loose the privilege if other SR's in Ship 5 don't follow orders. They still have routines they need to follow in Ship 5 and when some of the SR's get out of line they all pay the price.

You will have to wait until Monday to call Seps Admin but if your daughter calls this weekend at all make sure to ask her to sign the two forms I mentioned above. When my son was in Ship 5 he called about 2:00 pm mountain standard time (I am in Colorado). Be as Positive as you can and believe me I know how hard that is. If she even hints that she wants to stay really encourage her to appeal the separation. There is a couple of levels of appeals and she can ask to talk to clergy to help her sort out her thoughts with out it counting against her for "mental issues".

If you have any more questions you are welcome to send me a friend request. We can talk in a private message so nothing is read by the RC's. Hang in there. If she does not appeal the separation it will be 10 - 12 days from the time she got to Ship 5 till she gets home.

My prayers are with you all.
~Tena

[TabsMom11]

Tena,

 

Thank you for the information!  It is greatly appriciated.  I a just hoping that she does call me, becuase I am totally in the dark.  I cannot give her advice if she does not call me.  It is hard to know this "little" bit of info and nothing beyond.  This is going to make for a LONGGGG weekend if she doesnt call. 

[TFAN2]

Try calling the first number above for Seps Admin. There's always someone on shift at Great Lakes so maybe you can get a hold of someone to get a msg to your daughter. I never had to call my son on the weekend so I'm not sure if it will work but it's worth a try......   ~Tena

[TabsMom11]

She finally called today!!!  I got the information I needed and she will be coming home in about 2-3 weeks.

[TFAN2]

Hi Jenn

So sorry to hear that your son is in Ship 5. That is a tuff call to receive. Mr Senko is the man you want to talk to. Did they give you his ph#? If not it is 847.688.4949 ext 228. He is kind and helpul in answering basic questions and when you call him make sure to let him know you would like to talk to your son while he is in with Mr. Senko. They will do a conference call with you and your son in the room and then Mr. Senko stepped out of the room and gave my son and I a minute to talk. Your son will have to sign the HIPAA waivers and legal ROI in order for Mr. Senko to be able to call you back and answer questions. Make sure to ask what code they are using, Like RE-3E. If they use a RE-4 your son will not be allowed to join the Navy or any other branch of service. He will need to appeal that code while he is in BC as that is also REALLY hard to change after leaving BC. It would also affect him when he tries to get jobs back in the civilian world. If your son truly wants to stay in the Navy he has to appeal the "Medical Seperation" while he is in Ship 5. It is a long frustrating process of waiting, waiting, and waiting some more and very likely it will be at least two months and could be six months or longer. It depends on what his true condition is. The Navy is full and bursting at the seems so it is the job of the people in Great Lakes to pick out the best of the best in health and skill. It is sad and fustrating I agree. We were VERY upset when our son was dicharged.  Sadly becasue they are so full they get to be very picky about who they let serve. It is possible for your son to get a waiver thru the appeal process that will allow him to stay but it is a VERY slim chance and he will have to fight and stay positive. As mos we know that is easier said then done BC has good intentions and they will tell him he can go home and get a waiver in 6 months and try again but there's a less then 1% chance they will get back in, Especiallyif the Navy stays as full as it is. If you can get a calling card and then next time your son calls give him the numbers on the front and back of the card then he will be able to call you everyday. That is if he doesn't use his one call a day for a girlfriend. :) All of that being said, I can understand why they have to be soooo picky. If you son was out to see and had an episode of fainting or God forbid worse then he could lose his life and the lives of his ship mates and with the limited space and medical on board a ship the Navy needs to stear clear of many of those possible issues as they can. Don't get me wrong they have sick bay on the ship but it's more for simple things like the flu or trauma's where they get the sailor stable they evacuate them to the main land.

 

I wish you both the best and will pray for you all as this is a very emotional time for you all!!. If you wanted to send me a friend request I will accept and we can just chat to help you get thru the process. Hang in there!!  Tell your son  THANK YOU for at least trying to serve and not to be ashamed if he doenst get to stay in the Navy. My husband and I still tell our son all the time that we are proud of him for trying. Even a year later we all still think about what could've been if he would have been able to stay in, both and good and bad (the bad meaning I would miss him likce CRAZY!!!)  Hang in there!!

~Tena

[Z's Mom]

My son called me yesterday with the news he is in ship 5. I had just gotten his box 15 minutes before that and was so proud. I am ashamed to say I was VERY upset. I had no idea what questions to ask, and didnt understand at all what was happening. My son will not be allowed back in so it is def. the end of a dream as you stated. So glad someone understands - everyone here at home is being VERY judgemental and harsh, I feel horrible for my son when he does get back!!!